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to consider aa a dangerous cult?

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Kirkers · 29/01/2010 03:47

I am ready to be attacked by cult members.

I have read 'theorangepapers' online which is very well researched, and 'twelve step horror stories' (also available to read online) and they prove to me (on top of my own experience) that aa does much more harm than good. In every proper, conrolled experiment aa produces worse results than any other treatment, including doing nothing. It is unquestionably a cult(Google, 'is aa a cult'). Yet 93% (I am not sure about that figure, sorry) of treatment centres follow the same model. That would be the £10 billion treatment industry.

I hope this isn't too off topic for mumsnet. They do involved children too. It is awful.

I first came to mumsnet following the Julie/Jake Myerson thread. The detective work that went on was phenonmenal. Is there anyone out there breastfeeding or too pregnant to move who could look into the orange papers and tell me I'm not Erin bigchest Eronovich.

This is an absolutely genuine request for feedback from people who are prepared to consider the actual black and white evidence of this extraordinarily powerful organisation.

Thanks.

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MIFLAW · 30/01/2010 00:29

Which rant?

The one where I challenge the fact that my life is surreal when it actually isn't or the one where I take apart someone else's argument based on lies?

MIFLAW · 30/01/2010 00:35

Seriously, namechanged, if you BELIEVE it is a cult then you are well out of it.

But what annoys a lot of us is people presenting negative BELIEFS, overgeneralised specifics and even lies as FACTS.

People's lives hang in the balance and it is not fair to scare them away from something that just might save them from an extremely unpleasant death with things that just aren't true.

I think all any of us have been doing throughout this thread is separate opinion from fact.

Sorry if doing so has led me to rant.

expatinscotland · 30/01/2010 00:36

Oh, believe you me, my life now feels entirely real because I'm not going through it on either 2-3 bottles of wine a night or ganting for it.

expatinscotland · 30/01/2010 00:37

Great! Now there's someone shouting out in the car park for this drug-peddling loser.

expatinscotland · 30/01/2010 00:39

No need to apologise, MIFLAW, IMO.

MIFLAW · 30/01/2010 00:43

Cheers.

Do we know (from earlier in the thread) what namechanged's name was changed FROM? I'll be sure to look out for her.

jasper · 30/01/2010 00:48

miflaw I always appreciate your contributions on these threads.

Good debate here

expatinscotland · 30/01/2010 00:49

It probably wouldn't be too hard to deduce, MIFLAW, if I could be bothered.

But tbh, I can't because some of us have re-iterated over and over: AA is for some, it is not for others, and that if you can't find a way, whichever way, to stop using then you can't get to whatever it was that may have caused you to misuse, either, so it goes to follow that AA, or rehab, therapy, Deepak Chopra, whatever has its place if it gets a person to stop.

If you find AA a cult then fine, don't go, best of luck finding another way to sort out your problems if that's what you chose to do.

But some just can't live and let live.

expatinscotland · 30/01/2010 00:51

I should expand on that: nothing gets a person to stop a behaviour other than him/herself.

What any other means does is give them tools to continue in their non-misuse behaviour.

It really is that simple, but it's day to day.

Or at least, it is for me.

Today, I will not drink.

Tomorrow will take care of itself.

littlemissfixit · 30/01/2010 01:06

I'm an addiction worker (to trade) worked in rehabs in glasgow with alcholics going through detox, heroin users detoxing etc etc. I will say to all what i used to say to the service users.. take what you need from it. It all about tailoring a detox which is right for the person. I dont find it to be a cult, some of their views i dont personally agree with BUT it works! Despite what anyone says there are loads of succes stories.

MIFLAW · 30/01/2010 01:19

Thanks Jasper

Have to report in the interests of a balanced debate that I went to a meeting tonight.

I had a cup of tea and three biscuits. They were fruit shortbread, I believe, but I may have been brainwashed into thinking that - maybe they were really Rich Tea.

The speaker was a very funny guy and made us laugh a lot.

There was no hot water in the taps.

I chipped in £1.60 and drove home.

Hope this gripping insider's view of AA helps some of you get to the truth and see the dark internal secrets of this cultish organisation.

aleene · 30/01/2010 01:21

Miflaw, if you are still around please could you read my post on the addicts' partners thread? Sorry to hijack.

Kirkers · 01/02/2010 11:09

Here's the preface because I can't do links.
Could anyone provide any evidence of any randomized trials at all that prove that aa has a success rate of more than 5%?
Can anyone explain why it is unacceptable to question this?
Of course it would be bad to denigrate a treatment that worked. That is why I am saying this stuff. It does a lot of harm and I would like some proof that it does good.

I haven't been to weightwatchers and I don't know how they measure there success rates but the ones who do lose weight can work for ww, and be presented as a success. So the success stories are a small, self-selected group of successes.

I don't have access to the bmj or other medical journals. Could anyone with access provide any links to any studies done on the effectiveness of the 12 step treatment?

Please?

Thank you name changed on page 38. Why 12-Step Horror Stories?

Here is the preface to 12 step horror stories.
Read it if you, or anyone you know, is drinking unhealthily.

And I am fine. I have just had a Bupa healthcheck, including everything and the only thing less than excellent was that I am slightly underweight. Would you like me to post my liver function test?
Why would you want to put together a book like this?, asked one of many AA members who e-mailed me about this project. Many were none too happy about it. But others said things like, "It's about time. The truth can only help, not hurt, AA.

And this book is about helping those in AA and NA, not hurting them. We have been very careful to change the names of writers and those they name in stories, as well as the names and locations of treatment centers and 12-step groups.

But the fact is, that as horrifying as many of them are, these stories are not at all unusual, and I am quite certain that many groups and individuals will recognize themselves in these tales. These stories come from all over the world, yet the same scenarios have taken place over and over within 12-step groups and treatment centers right here in my town. And all of these scenarios have very likely happened in 12-step groups and treatment centers in your town.

This book serves several purposes. To me, the most important is that it acknowledges the experiences of hurt and angry AA and NA members and former members, and to reassure them that they should not be held resposible for being abused in 12-step groups or treatment. Another important purpose is to assure them that they can stay clean and sober, or learn to moderate, without treatment and without participating in AA or NA.

One of the most significant wrongs in AA is that if AA members hurt you, or if working the program makes you worse, you will have a great deal of trouble finding anyone within the program who will listen to your story without blaming you, dismissing your story as unimportant, or dismissing you as foolish, crazy, or defective. Quit playing the victim is a very common reaction of staunch members to anyone who complains about ill treatment. Get off your pity pot is another.

When I became suicidal after five years of working the AA program and being the subject of gossip and abuse by insane sponsors, here is what I heard:

How have you set yourself up for all this?
You're so angry.
What did you leave out? (of the program)
Let it go.
Move on with your life.
It works if you work it.
Some therapists can be less blunt, but more harmful, pathologizing anyone who objects to AA. When members of a list for drug counselors in universities and high schools heard that this book was being prepared, one of them wrote:
I just wanted to share something I find helpful about people's "resistance" to 12 step programs. I think it provides us with wonderful diagnostic information as to where they are in their addiction and denial and what might be helpful for them in their treatment and recovery.

For example, when someone says, "I don't want to rely on others for my sobriety so I don't like AA," this might suggest that they are struggling with dependency in relationships or with not being able to trust others or ask for help with getting their needs met.

If someone says, "meetings are too depressing," this could suggest that they have an underlying depression or that they might benefit from sharing some of their pain, hurt, sadness etc. with a therapist or someone before they are able to become more aware of it or address it with the help of AA.

If people say, "I don't like the God stuff," it might be that they had difficulty with family or religion in an authoritarian way cramming morals or dogma down their throats. It could have more to do with authority or a domineering parent.(emphasis added)

In my opinion, this pervasive belief that there is something wrong with anyone who objects to 12-step groups and 12-step treatment is dangerous and destructive to self-esteem, spontaneity, and the capacity to be honest and true to one's inner voice. If counselors won't allow clients to make simple value judgments, or trust their own feelings and beliefs and become independent, who is going to take care of these clients? AA? NA? Read the stories here and decide. Ask yourself and, if you care to take the time, ask the folks at your local addiction counseling center: What do professionals like these think they are doing?" Doesn't the aim of 12-step treatment to make those labeled as alcoholics or addicts dependent on 12-step groups for life run directly counter to the normal therapeutic goal of helping individuals to become self-directed adults free of dependencies?

One example of the anti-therapeutic nature of 12-step groups and treatment is that many drug/alcohol counselors and AA/NA members have forgotten or have never learned the rules for active listening: validate the hurt and angry person; acknowledge the person's objections, and don't belittle them for having objections. The very act of listening to the stories of those who have been hurt, and acknowledging their reality Yes, you have every reason to be angry; yes, I too have experienced this, and what happened to you is wrong and should never happen to anyone has helped many victims to cross the line from feeling crazy to being able to get on with their lives. Here is a quote from a person who submitted a story:

Having someone believe you is definitely a preventive remedy to the onset of insanity. It also helps heal afterwards, and for that I am extremely grateful.
Several people in 12-step groups have attacked me, stating that I am exploiting people who have been hurt, for money. This could not be further from the truth. The contributors have been empowered, not exploited. Here is what one of them said:

Thanks for the opportunity to ventilate! My best expression of myself is in my writing and an open invitation like yours is like water in the desert.
Another volunteered:
I personally am joining the cause. Helping to shed light on dangers of the 12-step movement and the disease-based victimhood which has overtaken our country is my new mission. Sharing my experiences about the other non-alcohol addictions might help someone, and is a good place for me to start. Therefore, I am happy to share my experiences.
Also, with the limited market for this book, I do not expect to make enough to compensate me for the years of abuse I've received in AA and from AA members (even after leaving AA). I've also donated a great amount of time and some of my own money in the access TV field trying to get the message to people that they are not powerless over their addictions and that there are alternatives to religious recovery. In addition, I've been a member of e-mail lists and have haunted usenet newsgroups long before the plan to publish this book ever came into being.

It's also well to note that as far as making money from addicted people, 12-step treatment is a $10-billion-dollar a year industry which is largely owned and staffed by 12-steppers. (A recent national survey indicates that over 93% of treatment facilities are 12-step facilities.) A great many of these individuals have profited handsomely from addictions. They continue to do so despite the fact that the bulk of the most scientifically valid studies (those with control and comparison groups) indicate that 12-step treatment is no better than no-treatment at all. One indication of the uselessness of 12-step treatment is that over the past several decades, while tens of millions of Americans have gone through 12-step treatment the figure for the 1990s was about 2,000,000 per year the alcoholism rate appears to have risen. But this makes no difference to those who profit from 12-step treatment. With virtually no scientific backing, they continue to trumpet 12-step groups and treatment as the only means with which to deal with addictions problems; and they have attempted (successfully for the most part) to block alternative forms of treatment and to silence critics -- in part by charging that we're "killing people" or are "only in it for the money." The hypocrisy of those making these charges is positively breathtaking.*

Yes, I believe this collection will help others. I'll never forget the way it felt when I wanted to leave AA because neither the program nor the abuse I suffered in it were doing me any good. But to get anyone's blessing on my bid for freedom seemed impossible, and at the time I thought I needed AA to stay sober, and hence, to survive.

I never want a single person to ever again think that he has to stay in AA or NA, miserable and depressed, or die drunk or from an overdose. I never want another person to think that she can't get sober unless she checks into an expensive treatment center or abusive county detox unit (when well over 90% of those entering treatment facilities don't need detox). I never want another person to have to suffer the way some of us did.

? Rebecca Fransway
May Day, 2000

The names of those contributing stories have been changed, except for the names of those who asked that we use their real names. (All have full names listed.) The names of treatment centers have been changed. We (both compiler/editor and publisher) have made every effort to check replacement names to make sure that those names do not match those of any existing treatment facilitiees. If by chance one of the names does match that of an existing facility, we apologize. It wasn't intentional.

Other identifying factors, such as location, have been changed or cut from stories. The names of all individuals mentioned in the stories have been changed, unless otherwise specified.

Some story authors refer to writers or activists in recovery reform. For the most part, thse names, such as Charles Bufe, Stanton Peele, Ken Ragge and those of other authors, have not been changed.

Finally, while most of the stories in this book recount horrifying experiences, we have included a number which describe more mundane, but still unpleasant and destructive, aspects of 12-step groups. We've done this in order to provide a more rounded view of life in the 12-step subculture than the horror stories alone would provide.

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  • For a detailed discussion of these issues, see Resisting 12-Step Coercione, by Stanton Peele, Charles Bufe, and Archie Brodsky, and "Alcholics Anonymous: Cult or Cure? (second edition), by Charles Bufe.
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MIFLAW · 01/02/2010 11:26

Kirkers

No one, I think, is disputing that there is some truth in that - there are bad people everywhere, getting dry does not in itself change a shit into a nice person, and wherever you look you will find hypocrites.

BUT it is misleading to say that this is typical; it is misleading to say that British AA is typically like this; and it is misleading to suggest a link between treatment centres (which are businesses and aim to make a profit) and AA (which is a group of drunks with an explicit goal to stay poor as an organisation.)

I note also that you have yet again failed to answer any of the questions put to you on this and other threads.

Lastly, no one has claimed, I don't think, that it is valid to question AA's success. We all know that more people fail than make it. AA makes no claims that it will cure people or even help everyone. It says, simply, here is help if you want it and it may not be perfect but it's the best we've got.

If any alcoholic has a better idea they are welcome to test it out. But for me, nothing else worked and AA did.

Equally, I can't see why it is "unacceptable" to advertise this fact to others who might also be short of ideas.

Your thoughts, please.

Kirkers · 01/02/2010 11:59

Could I suggest that anyone worried about drink gets an annual liver function test?

Alternatives to the ubiquitous aa are

Rational Recovery
Morerevealed
Smart

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noddyholder · 01/02/2010 12:04

Dog with bone-itis!

TheBossofMe · 01/02/2010 12:30

Liver function is not a good benchmark for whether or not you have an alcohol issue; all it does is tell you whether your liver has been damaged by your abuse as yet. To say "if my liver is fine, I can carry on because I must be OK" is exactly the kind of denial that alcoholics practise every day IME.

Personally, I don't care what type of recovery programme an alcoholic uses to overcome their problem, I just want them to do something before they kill themselves.

Glad you are OK, Kirkers, was a bit worried about you the other day.

CinnabarRed · 01/02/2010 12:38

And a liver function test doesn't speak of the damage done to an alcoholic's relationships or loved ones. Or ability to maximise his/her potential in employment. Or to his/her other organs.

MIFLAW · 01/02/2010 12:53

Any chance of an answer to any of the questions you have been asked, Kirkers?

ludog · 01/02/2010 12:54

Dh had a normal liver function result despite his chronic alcohol addiction. It was very easy for him to then say "See, there is nothing wrong with me!" Thankfully he did eventually get sober thanks to the "dangerous cult" AA. Without AA we would no longer be together and I have my doubts if dh would even be alive. It certainly works for some people.

snailfiddler · 01/02/2010 20:08

Kirkers, so far you have not convinced me that AA is a "cult" or more specifically a "dangerous cult"

What you have made clear is that members of AA are also members of the human race with all the character flaws that the human condition entails

Some members of AA may be evangelical or downright difficult. They are human

llareggub · 02/02/2010 19:47

for Kirkers

Milokirk · 10/07/2010 20:54

With respect, I want to point out that Orange Papers distorts facts and figures. Agent Orange ignores research he doesn't like. He'll read a whole book and quote only the one sentence that supports his views. He invented the AA 5% success rate, by misrepresenting the writings of George Vaillant and distorting the figures from an internal AA member survey.

Though millions of people have attended AA, Agent Orange will not admit that AA has helped a single one of them. By his obsessive anti-AA stance, Orange may be turning away desperate people whom AA might be able to help.

You can read an interesting critic of some of Agent Orange's false claims at: www.green-papers.org

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