to believe you can't steal husbands?

[WashwithCare]

I have been perplexed to read on here that some posters seem to believe you can "steal someone else's husband".

I am sure you can steal a dog or a handbag, maybe even a good idea(!?!)... but spouses, even if belong with each other, certainly do not belong to each other.

Equally, I'm rather confused that once a man has married or other moved onto the ummmm... the "new model", how can the lady in question continue to be termed the OW? Surely, she is now "The Woman"...

Just wondering as people keep referring to the NM culture about this issue, so sorry if it has been debated before.

I'm going to disappear after this one as I'm going to carry on making an arse of myself otherwise...

I read a line in a book the other day which I think sums up a lot of why perhaps extra marital stuff happens when there is not necessarily unhappiness. It talked about "being seduced by another's lust".

If you're in a situation where you're a known commodity and then someone sees you in a new and exciting way, it can be very tempting to see yourself as the new person sees you. I think, in that scenario, it does take someone very strong willed not to succumb if they are in any way dissatisfied at home.

Not saying it's right or wrong. Just saying!

I agree with you WWC that you cant expect the exact same rights legally if you haven't invovled law, but morally is totally different. Lowenergy morally should have the same rights and legally should have some rights. Your DH has a moral right to the other family (I read your other thread and didn't comment) if nothing else. Them being a nuisance to you doesn't change that.

You said it was our secret.

We've just never got round to it, we have all sorts of legal type stuff in place though to protect our rights to each others assets/debt(!), our kids etc - but there's always been something more pressing that we need to spend money on than a wedding.

Marriage may be a 'contract', but it doesn't mean that his 10 year role as part of a family is morally or emotionally less valid than your 'marriage' and I think that you don't seem to have a handle on that, and I think that it's something that you need to acknowledge in order for the ex-partner issues to be resolved as smoothly and painlessly as possible.

belledame - I own a Bridget Riley and genarally might be said to take the Morning paper, hullygully, Morris Zapp line. However, I was offered a stolen husband in the pub the other night, but declined, because I suspected it might be fuelling the drug trade.

Does that add anything to your artwork-marital issues stance research?

mostly I think what happens in marriages is what happens to those who own dogs

get a puppy
love a puppy
lavish all your attention on the puppy
over time the puppy becomes a fully grown dog
all the things that were cute as a puppy are now a pita
dog becomes a bit chunky
has bad breath
farts noxiously
creates mess everywhere

but there are always other owners who'd love a housetrained older dog

tada

hbfac - brilliant!

but I luuuurrrve my old canine

MillyR - is that true?!

Not seen any other threads by OP, but anyone who'd justify see a child put out of their home, for whatever reason, is a rank pustule on the face of humanity.

lol Ronaldinhio. I think there is a lot in what you say. Especially when the dog does his/her best to avoid farting/making a mess in the new environment (for a while at least).

Ronaldinhio

The OP said at the beginning of her other thread that she wanted her DH to cut off contact with the kids, even though he has been a father to them since they were 1 and 3. She has been very begrudging about them being in what she calls 'his house.'

The whole thing has been AIBU by stealth though so you would be better to get a summary from the OP.

summary from OP would be utter tosh

she changes her tune like the wind...

< channels Patrick Swayze >

< sways >

< holds lighter in the air >

That's not how I read it at all. More that she has to put up with the ex screaming abuse at her, the children screaming abuse at her and now they are stealing from her. She's had 2 years of that and is fed up with it (who wouldn't be?) and is desperately wanting to put an end to it.

Agree with AF. OP is a self righteous loon, this is her other post.

Read it and weep!

'I know what anna means, she means primal and animal, like the collision of planets!

read some poetry '

Usually written by drunk, drug-addled, self-absorbed, immature twunts who live shortened, miserable lives leaving nothing but dysfunctional people in their wake, because everyone else has the sense to cut them a wide berth. Or by those with severe mental health issues.

Not always, but usually.

cheers hedwood

I was in the minority on that thread too

but I just don't like the sound of this person

I notice there has been further reference to money too, even on this thread (these kids still costing so much...)

OP, you are both super-high-earners...you can afford it

I agree with everything that lowenergylightbulb said in relation to the OP

And...can't help finding the...a little familiar...or is that just me...

(But can't actually remember who did ... a lot, maybe someone has it on a spreadsheet? )

I'm with you AF, I just dont like the "sound" of her, on either thread, very superior!
And TBH it all sounds eerily familiar to me, cant really be arsed anymore though
I am NO longer the bitter lunatic XW I have moved on

mac, you are fab and you know it

this sounds like a Parisian bird to me

but eh, whatever, I am pissed anyway

Buckbuck

Only poster I remember who did this....a lot...was/is Daftpunk....She could be a right 'one' but this isn't her style.

Don't think so, anyway.

"I'm with you AF, I just dont like the "sound" of her, on either thread, very superior!"

Spot on macdoodle. She does sound superior.

Janos - most people would put children out of their home if their parents didn't pay the rent or keep up payments on a mortgage.

People need to take responsbility for maintaining their own children.

Lowenergy - a wedding doesn't need to cost much - you either think it's important or you don't. I don't really see how you can have it both ways tbh.

Nice to know the harpies have got together and are getting off on the prospect of drawing blood

lol @ harpies

< mounts broomstick >