found this site on our laptop and in despair...

[wollysocks]

we have laptop at home. after spotcheck on DP websites, "Punter Net" was at the top of the list! This gives addresses of flats to visit. Does it show intent to go. Every little thing I am worrying about. This morning he has put scented aftershave on, which is not normal for him, and I wonder if this is a sign that he is going somewhere today. Men terrible at hiding the obvious. please tell me I'm being silly.

have you discussed possibly moving?

or is he trying to guage how much flats are in your area?

have you asked him?

does he have history of cheating?

compo, you slightly off track, or me not clear.

It is a site for men to visit women in flats for sex!

No history of cheating but has history of using flats before me!

I thought the same as Compo.

It doesn't look good does it? Only other explanation is that he was looking for someone else.

Where should he be going today?

really sorry, have never heard of punter net before

poor you

how do you know he has history of using flats before you?

so he openly told you he used prostitutes in his past?

I would follow him tbh.

and I would probably get to the doctor tout suite for a sexual health check tbh

Oh my word.

So he used to go to these flats and pay women for sex?

And now he has been looking at the site?

I think you need to speak to him ASAP.

Just to make it crystal clear. Punternet describes prostitutes and locations - nothing to do with flat rentals!

It doesn't look good - I'd advise you get this thread to Relationships and see what your options are unless of course you're completely au fait with your husband using prostitutes.

there must be some issuses of trust in this realtionship as you were checking his looked at websites....

yangymac i agree with what you are saying but there must be suspicions if one checks search history of partner...

is it possible he just looked for curiosity, or is indulging in a bit of fantasy? Both a bit yuck, but not as bad as the alternative! Is it just one hit or hundreds over several weeks?

Just a few thoughts... I'd carefully consider these options before accusing DH if I were you

Wolly, you say 'every little thing I'm worrying about'. What has caused your concern? aside from what you've found, I mean. Does he have a history of cheating, for example?

I've never heard of the site you mentioned but given what it is, yes, it is concerning. I take it the aftershave is unusual for a Saturday morning? What would you normally be expecting him to do today? What has he led you to believe he's doing today?

I assume you had some reason to feel justified in checking up on him on this occasion? ...or is it something you do as a matter of course?

I don't think you're 'being silly' at all, I'm afraid but your OP is lacking a little in substance...

I would be worried too.

Will he tell you the truth if you confront him? Some people are appaling at lying.

Would you be able to tell? Confront him if you think he would crumble.

Otherwise follow him like crackfox said.

If he is anything like my ex he will turn the whole argument round on you and make you out to be the baddie in the situation.

Good luck.

Ta Yangymac

I couldn't tell if my ex was lying. Well if his lips were moving it was usually a safe bet

How are you? Worrying yourself to death i bet

I use that site a lot.

And, no, I am not a prostitute.

I run a property management business and if I carry out a management visit and suspect that the flat is being used for those purposes I see if I can find it on Punternet. This then gives me more ammunititon to give to the landlord.

So joking about it one day I showed my DH.

We now look at it every now and again to see if we can work out where the local establishments are.

All innocent and above board.

It may be that somebody at work mentioned it to your DP and he thought he would have a look.

How else would he have found the site? Unless he put "prostitute into Google".

I would not be in the slightest bit worried, tbh.

Talk to him.

BBM, the OP has said he's used flats before, I took it to mean he'd used the women in them for their advertised purpose.

Is it really likely that his looking at this site was entirely innocent, given this?

Is it possible that this could have been discussed amongst friends at work?

Article in The Independent

read your posts but he sitting here and will confront him soon. many thanks for your posts.will go into more detail when i can.

Good luck, what a hard conversation to have. Hope it turns out well.

how horrible for you. I'm really sorry.

I used to work in an office where the guys were obsessed with this site because it can be very, very funny. - there are no pictures so it's not a porn site.

The purpose of the site is for men to review the prostitutes, massage parlours etc that they visit.

it's perfectly possible he was just reading it for a laugh.