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To find this story pretty eeww

77 replies

howlowcanyougo · 06/01/2010 23:24

42 year old film director pregnant by 19 year old film star

23 year age gap and they're engaged and she's having a baby after a what appears to be a whirlwind romance. At 19, how long will he stick around with her for I wonder? That's not an age gap - that's a generation gap!

I know she's got pots of money and can easily support the child etc but it still doesn't sit right. Maybe it's wrong but there is something so distateful about older women and much younger men. It must be to do with the whole mothering/nurturing stereotype or something and it somehow seems incongruous. No one would bat an eyelid if she was the 19 year old and he was 42 though would they?.

I think it's quite intersting how people view these things.

OP posts:
Morloth · 07/01/2010 11:13

Both consenting adults? Yes? Nothing ewww about it.

hocuspontas · 07/01/2010 11:13

His feet are massive.

solo · 07/01/2010 13:18

You know what they say about big feet don't you?

Big shoes!

MorningNicePeople · 07/01/2010 13:24

Good for them.

AmIReallySayingThis · 07/01/2010 13:24

He isn't an adult. He's 19. He's a big kid. It is not eewwww. I'm sure they do find each other physically attractive, nothing wrong with it on a physical level.

It is just very, very strange. Not so much on his part - teenage boys get their kicks in funny ways and she's definitely what they would term a MILF. But it shows remarkably poor judgement on her part, especially as a mother. There is just no way on earth that a 42 year old woman can have any sort of deep emotional connection with a 19 year old boy unless she is extremely emotionally immature herself. They're on a flight of passion and they will soon land in a ditch. You know they will. Only now there's a baby involved their terribly exciting (I'm sure) fling will never be able to be forgotten and put away as "something crazy I did when my marriage was crumblng and I didn't know which end of me was up".

Sorry ladies, but if a friend of mine was interested in a boy (yes, a boy) 23 years our junior, I'd be very, very dubious about her state of mind.

JackBauerisreadyforDay8 · 07/01/2010 13:36

I think it's quite sweet actually.#Besides don't they say that 'older' women and younger men have similar sex drives, so they sound perfectly matched.

The only problem I have is that she doesn't look her age. Bitch.

RockBird · 07/01/2010 13:41

Since the age of 18 he's an adult.

SeaGreen · 07/01/2010 17:38

Whether it is distasteful or not- I think it depends on the circumstances, and I don?t think everyone can ever agree on the point. However, what I object to is seeing an older man-younger woman pairing differently from an older woman-younger man pairing. I don?t know if the Jay Jopling (her exH) and Lily Allen pairing was seen the same way by all the people slamming this couple now. Also some of the readers comments on the original link have been about her being too old to be a mum- at 42? No she?s not too old! Women all over the world are having their kids at that age! Worst case if her relationship falls through she will be a single parent- and kids grow up just fine if that one parent is able to be a good one.
Good on her for grabbing life by the horns. Reportedy she refused some treatment during cancer because it might affect her fertility, and here is her reward. And it looks like she has money, so it?s certainly not a question of cost, which us mere mortals have to think about.
I or many of us might not be able to do this.But if someone can and it makes them both happy, good for them.

SeaGreen · 07/01/2010 17:39

And she has some AWESOME fertility- if this was a natural conception!

Bobbiewickham · 07/01/2010 17:42

Oh, yes I feel sorry for the beautiful, talented, rich artist and film maker. It must be really shit to have a gorgeous talented young actor fiancee and a baby on the way, and a successful film in the cinema. Especially as she's had to fight cancer twice in her forty two years.

I bet she cries at night

Hullygully · 07/01/2010 17:42

This sort of thing makes me sick and very angry.

VirginBirth · 07/01/2010 17:43

Good on her Seagreen? For having a baby with a teenage boy when she's 42 years old? Good on her???

MillyR · 07/01/2010 17:46

I think she is very lucky.

Hullygully · 07/01/2010 17:49

She is a hideous old wrinkly brazen slut milking him for his milky youthful vibrant sperm. Sick.

MillyR · 07/01/2010 17:52

Can people find more examples of this depravity? It really cheers me up.

James MacAvoy's wife is pushing 40.

scottishmummy · 07/01/2010 17:54

what a vile op.no one coerced STW and 19yo into bed maybe she wanted to be pg.bet she had fun getting up nelly duff too.

this is no one business,idle tittle tattle really

Fibilou · 07/01/2010 17:56

Hmm. Reverse the scenario and you've got Catherine Z-J and Michael Douglas. They seem to have managed to make the generation gap work

chegirlsgotheartburn · 07/01/2010 17:57

I dont think its sick.

But who the feck wants a NINETEEN year old boy

Bloody hell. I cant think of anything worse. All that stropping about and loud music. Grunting and dirty hair.

No ta.

Fibilou · 07/01/2010 17:57

And to be fair she seems far more of a catch than a lot of 19 year old girls.

Hullygully · 07/01/2010 17:58

It's just plain wrong.

scottishmummy · 07/01/2010 18:04

if it is consensual based on love,respect good on em both.STW is a bright talented woman who has overcome her share of poor health and trying times.hell if she finds happiness with her younger man, so what

RockBird · 07/01/2010 18:09

Hullygully why is it wrong? All you've done is spout off about how sick it is and how hideous she is? Did she kick your puppy or something?

I've never heard of either of them so am taking the story at face value here but two consenting, unattached adults form a relationship and have a baby. Big deal. Hardly reason to call her "a hideous old wrinkly brazen slut milking him for his milky youthful vibrant sperm"

Jux · 07/01/2010 18:22

They've got as much chance of it working as any other couple.

MadameDefarge · 07/01/2010 18:24

hully, dear, do come away....I have a splendid 19 year old Sicilian peasant for you to frolick with...

Hullygully · 07/01/2010 18:25

It is utterly repulsive and wrong by all moral standards.

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