To feel depressed that exW took DSSs to Miami

[Bonsoir]

for a fortnight at Christmas and for them to have come back having gained a huge new Abercrombie & Fitch wardrobe and 4kgs apiece?

"Everyone talked about their weight and how many kgs overweight or underweight they were. It's like talking about the weather here!"

ROFL
what a gripping life you lead

I bet the ex (aka "jumbo") is actually a british size 10.

mean mean mean to weigh the kids so often. There is much much more to health than weight.

Shame

I think its ok to keep an eye on your dc's weight but the whole weighing thing sounds a little ott - did dss's ask to be weighed?

Am sure though that I could easily gain half a stone in 2 wks in america - very easily actually. I'd also go mad shopping if I had the budget.

Presumably though the boys will grow soon and the clothes will no longer fit and can be ebayed or whatever.

Tricksy situation though when you're the step mother and weight issues always need delicate handling.

But wow Anna - you certainly have livened up a dull snowy morning

You say they already do loads of sport?

Not a problem then. Children that age will drop that weight really really quickly once they return to their sports. Within 2-3 weeks bet they are fine again.

As for the child calling his mother jumbo How delightful. TBH that is the concern I would be worrying about, and how to solve. How to drill some respect into him so he knows not to do such a rude thing, esp to his own mum.

And try not to concern your DSs too much with weight and having to be overly concerned about the odd rise and fall. It can be very counter productive.

shock

Poor old Mr Clegg - he's being very neglected already and he's not even here yet.

Bonsoir is this deliberate ?

P.S. I find it hard to believe a 15 yr old boy would let his dad weigh him after showering.

ergh yes dad you perv
id imagine the reponse to be

imagine anna looking like this standing waiting with some fat measurers

DS's little red book tells me that the 50th centile weight for a 15 year old boy is 55kg or 8 stone 9 pounds and the 75th centile is 63 kg or 9 stone 9 pounds. So he sounds completely normal now and I refuse to believe he is overweight at 9 stone.

God this thread is BONKERS!

you on twitter squavoid

You have to been a hobbit small to wear A&F. I was in the shop in NYC and slunk out the door, feeling heffalumpish.

Who is going to pay for these boys to go through the years of therapy thfy are going to need in order to make sense of the dysfunctional adults in their lives?

Even if the ex wife is dreadful, she is their mother and it's much better for THEM if you and your dp stop criticising her. Perhaps she's in a mess because of the constant criticism from you and your dp?

Someone needs to let go of this silly feud and be the bigger person. Let it be you and your dp. Fighting her for sole custody or threatening to fo so, isn't in those boys' best interests.

I think you need to learn how to let things go.

Anna I am utterly horrified by your posts:
You haven't uses les italiques ONCE.

Amendez-vous!

snurk at anna being 'the bigger person'

[irony]

Let them eat cake.

on and off, MS

I like your wellies.

Swedington - believe me, there is no feud going on at all with their mother. We deal with the fall out from her lack of parenting - this thread is just about venting about having yet again to have to deal with yet more fall out.

As you are well aware, residency arrangements are ongoing. When DP's exW endlessly asks for favours and never returns them, the only way we have found of getting her to stop is to wave the FT residency card at her (via the lawyers). She won't listen to DP, but she does just about listen to her own lawyer, thank goodness.

12 and 15 yo boys almost in tears because they put on some weight? A step-mother champing at the bit to give their new clothes (chosen by their mother) away on the internet?
Do you live in a gingerbread house, by any chance?

FWIW, DP's lawyer always tells him that she would like to use our family as her model for the amicable divorce in her forthcoming book of her lifelong experiences .

Ah, that fucking Parisian bourgeois mentality - ocd about weight...

I remember my BIL in Paris used to talk a lot about how big I was, and how enormous my breasts were, at dinner parties - FYI I was 22, 5" 8", bra size 34 B, and weighed 8 Stone.

I usually just pointed out that he was a fucking midget...but I did also decide not to marry my fiance as I could not bear to spend my life surrounded by women desperately trying to smoke themselves thin and dressing like their grandmothers.

What 'fall out' is there from having clothes that you don't hapen to like?
And in a normal family there would be no 'fall out' from people puting on a bit of weight after 2 weeks over-eating.
Why can't you just be relaxed and pleased to see them back?

How many times to I have to say I like their clothes - I just don't like them having too many of them. They are spoiled - too many clothes, too much food, too many holidays - and then we have to play the mug's game of getting them back on track. It's miserable.

Jesus Bonsoir, you are such a snob. I'm guessing teen boys love their new attire, but it's not good enough for you....

I'm hoping my teens are free thinking enough to give me 'shudders' when they find their own style.... as long as my dd doesn't dress as a stripper I don't think I'll mind..

They are only 7 and under so I have lots of time to eat my words.

Try to lose little things like 'DP's lawyer', so naff.

Oh get over it, this is what happens when you have stepchildren. The way you're going on you would have thought she'd got them addicted to crack.

Not that it is really relevant. But I always gain weight in the States. For the first couple of days you are gobsmacked at portion sizes/extras and then....you start ordering sides and refilling your cup like everyone else.

It comes off again with a return to normality and some exercise.

You sound totally mad BTW.