To feel depressed that exW took DSSs to Miami

[Bonsoir]

for a fortnight at Christmas and for them to have come back having gained a huge new Abercrombie & Fitch wardrobe and 4kgs apiece?

bellissima - stop it, there you go again! DP's exW converted (her mother is Catholic) so you have let your imagination run away with you again! I am under no obligation to answer any question that anyone poses on here, so please stop insisting that I have some obligation to do so, and why you are all so curious is quite beyond me. Are your lives that dull?

Can I ask a serious question though?

Why did you post asking if you are unreasonable to be depressed about what has happened? What did you hope to gain in terms of your analysis of the events in Miami and your reaction to them?

traceybath - I think the point is that Anna seems to have a lot of opinions about various schools and how poor they are and in that context, its interesting to know where she herself was schooled.

Yes Bonsoir - just answer Ingles2 questions? Oh and what nationality is your father then?

I think that posters who know me in RL know that I can fight my own corner and don't need to enlist foot soldiers!

No Bonsoir, are lives aren't that dull - we appear to have rather more actual childcare than you for starters - but we get rather bored when you offer your supposed sophisticated Parisienne opinions and tell us of your interest in multicultural analysis and so forth and then seem to slightly resent any exposure of what you are. I wasn't 'fabricating' my view of the exW, simply going on the information you gave - and since she converted then she is Jewish (without getting into the detail of orthodoxy requirements on conversions etc sorry - she is Jewish and I was correct so don't accuse me of fabrication).

violethill - that's a very good question.

I wanted to start a debate! There were so many ingredients in the whole thing - and look what we got to. I have learnt so much about other posters in the process, too. Not many have done themselves credit, I must say. It just shows how people love to herd and bully.

Anna, you do this every time...
you post inflammatory OP's backed up by some (imo) bonkers opinions then never answer a direct question and somehow manage to turn the thread into a "woe is me, I'm being attacked"
I've finally come to the conclusion, and let's be honest it's taken a few years, that you are, just a character.

TheBoss - I'm sure she has claimed to have gone to one of the European Schools - you should see how many croissants the kids round the schoolgate there shove into their mouths - again not any criticism of them - just showing how ridiculous Bonsoir is when one starts discussing the truth.

Private, state and overseas.

The really sad thing about this thread is that Anna sounds so miserable about food and life. You are a long time dead without cheese, chocolate, frangipane, coffee, potatoes roasted in goose fat, or two croissants for breakfast (although personally I prefer an almond croissant and a pain au raisin; and I have one of each), so why shouldn't you have them while you can? (My cholesterol test was 3.3 last month and was my first one ever at 43). As for being spoiled and over indulged leading to harm - I wish some bugger would spoil and over indulge me!

I don't want to lie on my deathbed and regret not having eaten nicer things because I wanted to be thin. I don't think Anna is happy in her skin. I know a Parisienne who lives in a very Flemish gemeente and she is thin, but not happy at all and obsessed like Anna with maintaining her figure. Can't talk literature or politics with her - but she can talk for ages about Botox and the sheer hell/indignity of being over 40! It's all appearance and potential wrinkles with her at the moment.

Anna, find a measure of joy in your life please, and stand still sometimes. Being a thruster is all very well, but one tramples over people in being so, and loses a measure of peace and serenity in the process.

FWIW I have a 14 year old who has finally gained weight after years of being off the bottom of the weight charts because of the hole in his heart. I keep an eye and serve more veg, but I would not dream of weighing him on a weekly basis. He has self confidence and self esteem because he is loved and valued for who he is, not what he looks like.

I would also add that two weeks in Miami kicking back and not having any 'intellectual stimulation' will not have done your dss2 any harm at all. Sometimes their brains need a rest and to process what they've taken in. Their brains at this stage are going through monumental changes and need the down time.

Ingles2 - that is deeply unfair. I answer plenty of direct questions - but I really am not under kind of obligation to subject myself to an interrogation. And I have not complained at all about being attacked - I have agreed with other posters when they pointed out to me that I am. I have not asked for posts or the thread to be deleted.

I think a debate about cultural differences, the inherent difficulties and insecurities associated with being the second wife (or partner), the pitfalls of step parenting, and so on, is potentially very interesting.

But in all honesty, with that OP I don't think you were intending to initiate serious debate, so I think you're being a little disengenuous there Bonsoir!

Never mind - you've given us a bloody good laugh!

I think Bonsoir has a bit of a superiority complex nicely balanced with a persecution complex, to be honest, and deliberately posts things like this to help substantiate that.

I also suspect that she has very little to do with her time judging by the VAST amounts of time she spends posting on MN!!!! Methinks she's a bit lonely....

Totally agree TheBossofMe, she's a great addition to mumsnet!

Bonsoir - I half agree with a lot of what you say, but you are just so extreme sometimes!

Whatever your parenting or weight control skills in real life, Bonsoir, as a troll of the old school you are without parallel on Mumsnet. Congratulations

I mean I agree with your earlier post TheBossofMe not necessarily the one I've replied to just after.

Sorry - my last comment was meant to have a wink emoticon on it - without it the comments reads as a rather harsh and mean, and it wasn't meant to be, more as a bit of a piss-take. Apologies Anna - I don't like mean comments and hang my head in shame at having made one. You know I love a good debate with you, and woe betide the day you can't have a good debate on MN!

I know belgo - my last comment was a bit of a stuff-up!

violethill - I put it in AIBU for a reason: people let their hair down on here and show their worst possible side - unless they have some self-control (as a few posters have demonstrated). I know I could have put it in stepparenting - but I chose not to. I am interested in the AIBU phenomenon!

However, in the interests of experimentation, I am contemplating eating two croissants for lunch to see if I feel full and sick as a result. Should I try it with jam, butter or plain...?

Bonsoir, why exactly did you post this in AIBU, because (
a) you clearly don't think you are (you never do tbh)
(b) you are not prepared to see anyone elses points of view and be persauded your way/thoughts just may not actually always be right, and
(c) you don't actually care wether anyone thinks yabu anyway!!!!!

Ah yes, it's that lovely superior judgmental side of you that you just can't resist that we all love Bonsoir! Just keep on giving us a laugh me old sprout.

bossofMe!
Comeoveneer, she's bored, isn't that why we are all on this thread?

I suspect that most people who post in AIBU don't think they are and are just looking for some validation!