To feel depressed that exW took DSSs to Miami

[Bonsoir]

for a fortnight at Christmas and for them to have come back having gained a huge new Abercrombie & Fitch wardrobe and 4kgs apiece?

By MaggieSultana Wed 06-Jan-10 13:49:35
wonder what exw calls BONsoir?

I am sure we could come up with a few suggestions

The whole point of it was to make them feel shit about their holiday and their mum.

Nice.

If this story is real and you are not joking...

The fact that they have put on 4 kilos in theese 2 weeks reflects more your and your dh's parenting than xw's parenting.

Bonjour MNers!

Please help me.

I have just had a call from my two sons who are very distressed at being put on a fluids only diet by their step mother. She will give them a daily weigh in and not allow them to partake of normal food until they are at least 20 kg lighter than she is.

She has also confiscated their new clothes bought on our recent Christmas vacation.

I am tres tres upset - please advise!

Is it not possible that the ex W is just as feckless as many of the ex hs that get such a slagging? Leaving Anna's isshoos aside, it's not a good idea to stuff crap down them for a fortnight. Why does eating crap = love and having a good time?

'ave you tried Boden? Per'aps she will let zem wear zat?

LOL given their ages she probably hasn't stuffed crap down them. She's allowed them to stuff themselves with crap.

I have just done that as well, with my DC's. I allowed them to stay up late, watch loads of tv's and play on the Wii and playstation and eat ludicrous amounts of chocolate. Becuase it's christmas, it was a holiday, and on holiday I relax my standards. Is that feckless? I just thought it wasn't being a robot.

Well I am afraid you are completely wrong. Kindly mend your ways.

LOL

Is she reckless or feckless? Or both?

Being a size 8, in France, is enough for a court to decide you are an unfit mother. Fact.

Exactement.

I think everyone's being a bit quick to judge Bonsoir here, but I'll admit to having a snigger at BoF's take off thread. Being a step parent is extremely hard especially when there's a big difference in parenting styles and I think she's most likely doing a great job. Weighing people occasionally doesn't have to be the great no-no that people are saying and certainly doesn't necessarily mean the boys will go on to have eating disorders if it's done in the right way. I'd have thought it was important that someone teaches these boys the importance of eating heathily and not living off greggs sausage rolls and fruitshoots surely?

As to the clothes - well it's the exW's money, so that wouldn't bug me too much at all - presumably the boys had a say, so at least it's stuff they like. Can't they wear it mostly when they're with their mum if you don't like it? Though most teenagers relish wearing stuff their parents don't really approve of so it's not a battle I'd choose to fight with them (but then style is probably more of an issue in France).

Like a dog with a bone

PS Apologies for thread mining but I thought this one was very odd. You really seem to jump on any excuse to lay into this poor woman Anna.

Besides, I thought you supervised all their appointments

oh well bonsoir also believes that you should "force yourself to have sex with your OH to prevent him straying"....
IMO a lot of Bonsoir's lunacy comes from a nasty controlling loony H, and we can guess why he and XW divorced!
My Xh brough DD1 home one day, and commented she was "getting a bit tubby", and was "a bit greedy", fucking arse!!! She is a gorgeous healthy EIGHT (yes 8 year old), who is active and healthy!
I have never weighed her and never occured to me she is tubby
Funnily XH never commented on it either, till he is now with skinny anorexic self harming OW!
You evil nasty women should concentrate on yourselves and leave OTHER womens children alone - never forget BONSOIR they are NOT your children!!!

He seems to cry a lot this lad.

can't think why Crackfox

Oddly, my DSD was weighed by her Mum and concious of what she ate whilst we took her on Holiday... she turned out to be bulimic... horribly sad...

I know lots of people who pack ligth when visiting America precisely because clothes are much cheaper there and they intend to bring lots back. Most people I know, even those who are quite conscious of their weight, eat freely and far too much on holiday and gain weight whlst away. Perfectly normal.

Surely their Mother either spoils or neglects them? Is it really possible to do both at once? If your DSS do so much sport they can barely fit anymore in, then they will naturally lose the weight, and as they have probably done none on holiday, that would explain such weight gain.

As someone has stated, 9st is apretty normal weight for a 15 year old boy, and since you have mentioned he is a rower and like to leasure his 'muscles' I would say that he would probably weigh more than most 15 year olds if he is muscular. You or DH MUST weigh these two poor boys often to know how much weight they have put on. Poor children!

I have three DC. I haven't a clue what they weigh. They do eat some junk, but they mainly eat healthily and ar eactive. Why on earth would I weigh them?!

This might have been mentioned already, but Bonsoir it sounds a lot like you have some serious issues regarding weight and eating. If i remember correctly you, not so long ago, called a model, a skinny model, fat for having a wrinkly tum when seated.

here

Do you think your evident disapproval of their mother's parenting is lost on your dss Bonsoir? Far more damaging than a few kilos of weight.

Ha Ha Ha! Utterly gloriously bonkers thread. Its made my day!

prammymummy, having read that link, I am utterly gobsmacked!!!

Considering that attidtude, I would say what is happening to these poor boys is verging on, if not abuse, and it is not coming fromt he direction of their birth Mother!