To feel depressed that exW took DSSs to Miami

[Bonsoir]

for a fortnight at Christmas and for them to have come back having gained a huge new Abercrombie & Fitch wardrobe and 4kgs apiece?

superb, Morloth

yes mongolia I was just thinking that exw is being scapegoated.

How funny, I do have suspicions that some Mumsnet posters are not "real" but I totally believe in you, Bonsoir. You are incredibly consistent.

I, too, would be upset if someone took my dc away on holiday and they came home having gained that much weight. Even if they were my step children and the adult in charge was one of their parents. It would be impossible to gain it in such a short amount of time without eating loads of terrible rubbish and an awful lot of it.

However, I hope you and your dh can handle your upset in such a way as to conceal it from the dsses because parental obsession with dc weight is a huge contributory factor in developing eating disorders and it would be absolutely tragic (rather than just a little upsetting) if either of your stepsons went on to develop one of those.

I should think they stuffed themselves silly comfort eating at the thought of the hell awaiting them after Miami

Please please explain to me what is so bloody onerous and saintly about taking children to doctors appointments and supervising homework. IS HE NOT THEIR FATHER?

My exp does supervise all homework. He is good at that. I do all doctors, school and specialist appointments. Because I am good at that.

We share the responsibility for the child we brought into the world.

Don't marry a man with children if you regard the normal day to day care of those children as some kind of epic burden.

God this is hilarious!

I always look forward to Bonsoir's posts and the reactions they provoke. You certainly do come across as one of the smuggest on MN Bonsoir. I normally start spluttering over some of your comments but before I have a chance to reply lots of articulate, funny ladies have said it all

This one is special though, maybe because you actually started the thread AND posted in AIBU. Of course you are, you're nearly always being unreasonable!

I particularly like the way that you completely ignore nearly all negative comments. Maybe the thinner your body gets the thicker your skin gets?

violethill their mother is probably somewhere feeling happy that she managed to get some food into them because they are so thin because their father and step-mother starve them.

Just out of interest, Bonsoir, why did you drop Anna from your MN name?

Are you teaching them about nutrition and healthy eating? That's one of the jobs of a parent isn't it? And if the exW isn't - in your opinion - capable/willing to do so then it's down to you. This will enable them to make better choices even if there is a largely "unhealthy" menu on offer when you're not there to supervise. I can't believe that exW force fed them.

Re. the surprise at people gaining 4kg in a short space of time: when I was a skinny minnie 20 year old who never went above 8.5st no matter what, I spent three weeks in the States and went up a whole dress size. The portions are simply enormous and if you're used to finishing every plate as I am, it's easy to stuff yourself without really noticing.

We've been through all this before. Bonsoir is NBU because it is against the law to be fat in France.

And I would be cross too. Tres unreasonable of the grande vache maman.

DS who is 5 can easily toss on a kilo just before a growth spurt. He gets hungry, then chubby and then goes up by an inch (sometimes 2!) all the space of a couple of weeks.

Surely at 12 and 15 yrs old they don't need their homework supervised? They'll get an earful from their teachers if they don't do it properly, I hope.

But they're FRENCH.

And lol at DP's lawyer thinking this is a great example of an amicable divorce

Apart from all the nasty backstabbing obviously.

I do often wonder why there seems to be so much more mental illness among my French friends and relations than among the British lot. I meant there is a fair amount of depression in the UK, but the French seem to go seriously nutso in style and require hospitalisation. Yet the children in the UK appear far more maladjusted than their French counterparts imo. I wonder whether the pressures are too great for the French kids and they crumble once they get into adulthood.

I actually feel sorry for bonsoir. She is trying to do her best by these boys and their mother obviously has an entirely different parenting style.

Be sure the boys don't pick up on your negative attitude towards their mother bonsoir. It is obvious that you feel superior to her in many ways and in time they will see that as a horrible trait in you.

You need to chill out and stop trying to micro manage the minutiae of all 3 of your children's lives. Just because you don't helicopter parent doesn't mean you are not smothering them with good intentions and suffocating yourself in the process. I repeat...chill out. Let your hair go greasy, don't brush your teeth for a whole day and go to bed without taking your make-up off. The world/your world will not fall apart.

'I should think they stuffed themselves silly comfort eating at the thought of the hell awaiting them after Miami'.
PMSL at this. SO true Violethill!

Bonsoir - have a word with yourself FGS!

Yes, the French have standards. And a residency case such as this would be decided upon by the head of the family court

Goddess I love this thread - I haven't laughed so much in ages.

TotallyGettingItNowTiggaxx

D'you think not showing your teenage DD how to wax her legs would be considered neglectful parenting in France and lead to you losing custody? Or buying the incorrect brand of moisturiser?

It's fun laughing at hte French isn't it?

The only thing that could improve this thread would be a stealth reveal that lequeen was the ex-wife.

No, it's fun laughing at a try hard Brit masquerading as French, and out Frenching the French.