To not want photos of my dd and new dc posted on Facebook?

[mama2moo]

I used to love Facebook but now there are so many people on it that I dont really like (ie dp's family) that Im starting to hate it.

MIL likes to post my photo albums to her profile.

I know its their family too but I hate the thought of strangers looking at my children.

Also, I have banned dp from telling anyone that Im in labour this time as Im sure that will posted on there.

AIBU or just hormonal?

If I understand rightly, the way Facebook's privacy on photos works is like this:

If you set an album to be viewable only by your friends, then other people can't see that album exists.

BUT... if one of your friends posts a link to that photo, then other people can follow that link and see the photo.

In other words, Facebook doesn't actually block access to private photos, it just doesn't show people how to get to them. If someone posts the url (link) for a photo, then anyone can follow it and see the photo.

(And of course, one of your 'friends' could copy that photo, paste it on another website and say 'This is Fred Bloggs' and that would be totally googleable)

I'm not really convinced by Facebook privacy settings for this reason. They help to obscure access to your photos, but they're still there and they're easy to link to or copy.

And to re-iterate, I don't even HAVE a FB account but the above still applies if someone takes a photo of me and puts it on their FB page. Correct ?

If anyone takes a picture of you and puts it ANYWHERE on the internet, you don't have control of it any more.

There are 'robots' which crawl the web, indexing stuff and archiving it. It's how Google works, for example. Some sites are easier to trawl and link to than others, but it's always possible.

It's more a question of what is likely to happen rather than what is possible though. Is anyone really likely to seek out and abuse your photo?

Sooty is still don't get how you have been able to see photos of Kat if you are not friends with her, or any of her friends?

I found her profile page, as she gave he real name, but there is nothing else there to link to other photos of her.....

Not that i'm stalking anyone (honest) - i'm just very curiuos cos i assumed if only friends, or even friends of friends are allowed access, how can a stranger get on???

She has no links to her photos or friends on her profile page, so what are you doing???? You sound far more techie than most people i know!!!

MummyTumble, let's assume Kat has a friend called Bob.

You want to know more about Kat and you know she is friendly with Bob (perhaps you googled her and found that Kat and Bob run a knitting circle together). So you look up Bob on Facebook and find his security settings are far more lax than Kat's so you can see his wall.

On looking at Bob's wall, you see the following:

'Bob has commented on a picture posted by Kat O'Brien'

If you click on that sentence, you can see Kat's picture, whatever her privacy settings. You can also then click back and forth through the album to see her other pics.

You are now looking at Kat's photos even though she set them private and you are not friends with either her or Bob. If you ARE friends with Bob, this is even easier.

I have even googled myself and found nothing!

Set your privacy settings to only friends then block your MIL and anyone else you do not like and that way they can not see anything

And THAT'S why I don't like FB ......

ditto

I have also found out info about people I used to be friends with, what they are doing now, yet they'll have no idea I've had access to this and all their photos. Quite frightening to think this can be done by a total novice. I agree with Sooty7, it's very easy to do.

Have also googled my own details to see what I can find but luckily there's nothing about me (yet).

Hmmmm I can't even find Kat's profile page!