To not want photos of my dd and new dc posted on Facebook?

[mama2moo]

I used to love Facebook but now there are so many people on it that I dont really like (ie dp's family) that Im starting to hate it.

MIL likes to post my photo albums to her profile.

I know its their family too but I hate the thought of strangers looking at my children.

Also, I have banned dp from telling anyone that Im in labour this time as Im sure that will posted on there.

AIBU or just hormonal?

Is the perception that everyone gets to see these pictures? Because in practice there are billions of pictures on the net and really only a limited number of people will see each one. In the case of FB they will generally be people who have some connection with the FB user. Probably less than the number who will see the DCs in school,shops etc.

There are so many photo upload sites/software on offer that I can only think it must be popular with the vast majority.

Also think about all the people who puts pictures of the kids on their desk, who carry pics in their wallet to show people and so on. I can't help but think that most people regard showing off the pics as perfectly normal. FB is just another means of doing so.

I've not encountered this issue with photos online anywhere other than MN. That might be just chance of course, but has anyone else?

"Is the perception that everyone gets to see these pictures?"

I think the other thing to remember is that in all honesty, nobody outside your immediate circle of friends/family actually cares about pictures of your kids. There are so many hundreds of photos uploaded on FB, I know I barely glance at my friends pictures and when I do it's only to see the ones where they are tagged. I'll look at pictures of my friends kids too, but if there are other kids in the same album couldn't care less.

Chances are the only person actually going to look at those pictures is the one linking to them, everyone else is too busy updating their stauses to care.

Those of you that put your own photos up on FB and have it set so only your friends and family can see them would you mind if someone else put photos up of your DC who also had privacy settings set so that only their friends and family can see them? Hope that makes sense!

I wouldn't give a stuff nappyaddict. I am not remotely interested in someone I don't know's kids and I can't imagine anyone is much interested in mine.

Same as LadyBiscuit, I don't even have any photos of DS up (or any of us) cause I am way too lazy. But he is in a couple of photos on other friend's pages.

Obviously while I think he is the specialist, most handsome, most interesting child on the planet, most people think "Oh, a kid" and move on.

hear hear Jamie!!

You know this generation of children will be the first to grow up in a world where their whole life - from birth to death - can be searched and viewed by anyone with a mind to do it.

Why does noone ever wonder how children might feel, when they grow up, to find that all their baby pics are online, tagged with their names? For friends, lovers, employers, anyone to find?

Personally, I'd HATE to find that my parents had made all of me public in this way. I never post pics of the DCs on public sites, and my friends and family respect that. I use private online albums to share pics with family and friends. FB's privacy settings are deliberately complex and make it very difficult to ensure that you have control over your pics.

Sooty7 > My parents did do that. I thought that was the usual parent threat. Plus as a teenager you are only really embarassed by your peers seeing your pictures, the same peers who are hugely unlikely to add your parents as a friend on FB!

Also how are bullies going to get to the pictures, the baby photos will only show up on a teens page if they are tagged (which I'm sure the teenagers would be more than capable of detagging), otherwise the bully would have to add the parents!

YABU. Who cares if strangers look at your kids? They look at them every day in the flesh.

WhatFreshHellIsThis you've made a really valid point. Where do the children get a choice in all of this? Mum and dad like to spread the photos globally but what about the children? do they not get a say?

I don't understand people who set their photos to private but have their profile pic including their DC.

They'd have to have access to someone who links the photos though. So it'd have to be a friend of a friend, which doesn't really count as everybody.

My issue is - a friend of a friend (of a friend etc..) might be some twat I hate. Again. not just talking about photos of DCs, talking about photos of me as well.

YABU.

Don't want people to look at your pics? Don't post them online.

I don't get this 'Oh no! Someone I don't know looked at my child' mentality. What exactly are they going to do?

Alarielle Oh no, it can't possibly be that simple, otherwise there'd be nothing to get that indignant about. That evil FB and it's insidious ways..

Sooty it is possible to hide your friends list too, so I don't see how it is that easy? Whnat I'm saying is that anybody can't see your photos, only people who you have allowed to, and the friends of those who link to photos. A random stranger couldn't unless your profile was totally open.

Just ot make a point, my profile shows

• my gender
• my personal websites (which were made with the intention of being public)
• the pages I am a fan of
• and my profile picture, which I could remove if I wanted privacy.

In order to see more you'd have to be added to my friends list.

The only other way would be to be friends with one of my friends, which you couldn't figure out from my public profile.

How Sooty?

That isn't true Sooty