To be annoyed that someone I know has described herself to someone else I know as a friend of mine, when actually I really don't like her?

[bibbitybobbitysantahat]

Come and laugh at me if you like but I am pissed off about this. Its hard to describe:

I know someone very vaguely but like her and think she is cool. Recently she has met an acquaintance of mine and they will be seeing a lot more of each other as they will be working together. So the woman I like and think is cool says to me today "I met R today, she said she is a friend of yours, you know she is coming to work here don't you?"

Well, R is no friend of mine, I really don't like her at all, actually. We have mutual friends and we go out in a group sometimes, but I don't even have her mobile number, I would never socialise with her were it not for this group connection. I think its very odd that she described herself as a friend of mine.

So, now, if cool likeable woman finds out that R is as much of a pita as I think she is, then she will mebbe think blimey, bibbity's a bit of an odd one, being friends with this loon.

Not much I can do about it but, still, fuckkit, I am annoyed.

YABU - you could have said "well I do know her but not really that well", R may have just mentioned that she knows you - which would be the truth.

"Cool"?

Are you 12?

Oh dear God, school flashback.

Well as you go out together sometimes it is a bit reasonable that she should describe herself as a friend of yours. I'm sure your cool friend (lol) will work it out for herself and will manage to not hold it against you!

All girl school flashback. Off to re-group.

Other woman said to me "R said she was a friend of yours". I don't despise or hate her but we are not friends and the reason we are not is that we have nothing in common and I find her incredibly dull. I don't want other woman thinking that I am her friend but its too late I can't do anything about it! Except sigh and rant.

Am 47.

Is it not allowed not to like some people?

bibbity, take it as a compliment that R wants to known as your friend

who cares what this "cool" woman thinks...

why is she "cool" anyways?

Oh no! I might get chucked out of the gang if anyone knows I speak to HER! What kind of adult thinks like that?

What was she supposed to say - Oh I know bibbity but not very well? Oh I know bibbity but I don't like her? What?

Saying friend is just shorthand. She probably doesn't like you either

maybe you could have just said "yeah I know her, we have friends in common" that would have illustrated that you are hardly best buds while being honest about your relationship to each other. Though this other woman would be a bit weird to be put off you by finding this friend-not-friend boring and therefore writing you off by association.

my head hurts.

Just don't sit with her at lunch or invite her to your birthday party. Twill be fine.

Oh she just is. She is cool, I like her, not desperate to be her friend or anything like that at all. I just don't want her thinking that this supremely dull and irritating person is a friend of mine .

Didn't go to a girls school. Never was a bully and never was bullied.

Send her a text saying you want to fight her-

"Playground, 3.30"

Yes YABU

It seems to me that you hardly know either woman. So your judgements of 'cool' and 'dull' may be completely incorrect if you actually got to know either woman better.

bibbity, its never too late to start

Have known the dull woman for 9 years!

With the cool woman I am going on instinct.

Jeez

bibbbty

tbh
it all soundsa bit playground

Cor, that OP took me straight back to 5th form

Perhaps the cool woman will think that R is in fact super cool and become really good friends with her.

Bibbity, of course YABU. I am sure 'R' just used the term loosely, as a form of short-hand.

Goodness me, how odd!

I'm sure the "cool" person will decide whether she likes you or not, based on your personality, not who you're mates with. If not then she's a bit of a dick really.

I know it SOUNDS a bit playground.

So how about you try and put yourselves in my shoes. Think of a similar thing happening in your life between two people you know.

AIBU or not?

I am, I know I am, but its still annoying! You can't tell me it isn't!!! I won't allow it.

Who did you used to be Willie?

Well, I know what you mean!

Who wants to be guilty of dull by association.

Lets hope so Rinders.

I had thought to myself how funny it would be if they became really best bosom buddies. How funny . And I was secretly hoping they would invite me out on their incredibly cool nights out together.

This must be a wind-up.