To be annoyed that someone I know has described herself to someone else I know as a friend of mine, when actually I really don't like her?

[bibbitybobbitysantahat]

Come and laugh at me if you like but I am pissed off about this. Its hard to describe:

I know someone very vaguely but like her and think she is cool. Recently she has met an acquaintance of mine and they will be seeing a lot more of each other as they will be working together. So the woman I like and think is cool says to me today "I met R today, she said she is a friend of yours, you know she is coming to work here don't you?"

Well, R is no friend of mine, I really don't like her at all, actually. We have mutual friends and we go out in a group sometimes, but I don't even have her mobile number, I would never socialise with her were it not for this group connection. I think its very odd that she described herself as a friend of mine.

So, now, if cool likeable woman finds out that R is as much of a pita as I think she is, then she will mebbe think blimey, bibbity's a bit of an odd one, being friends with this loon.

Not much I can do about it but, still, fuckkit, I am annoyed.

IMHO, in order to be worried about being 'dull by association', you must realise you are probably a little bit dull anyway.........

meow, saucr of milk to table 12 please, saucer of milk.

this is really mad Bibbity

I want to shake you firmly

Why? Am I speaking the unspeakable? Tell me exactly what is unreasonable - I am listening.

Because grown-ups do not sit around "not liking" other grown-ups and classifying them into "friends" and "not friends" and fretting about what other grown-ups might think about them as a consequence

really, it's quite loony

It's unreasonable to think that any right minded adult would ditch you on account of another (non) friend's alleged dullard tendencies.

"but I don't even have her mobile number"

too funny.

wow.

you sound delightful company. too kool for school. (im presuming your still there?)

get a grip. seriously.

Yes, you are all being reasonable and I am being unreasonable but at least I am being HONEST.

MP you live in a lovely world where grown ups do not not like other grown ups. Sadly we do not live in the same world (although we are both blessed with outside facilities ) - but sadly I do not.

Didn't realise I was so freakish .

Bit of an over reaction because she casually used the word 'friend'.How precise do you require people to be in their relationship definitions?

'I am acquainted with Bibbity, but wouldn't describe myself as her friend as unfortunately I am far too dull?'

If I met someone who knows this woman, R, I would have said "oh yes I know R". I wouldn't have said "oh yes, R is a friend of mine". But it appears I am splitting hairs and none of youze lot would be bothered, so who am I to ask, hey?

the "cool" one if she is that "cool" will not judge whether she wants to be friends with you on the basis of what another 'friend' is like, don't think that would put her off.

"So how about you try and put yourselves in my shoes. Think of a similar thing happening in your life between two people you know.

AIBU or not?
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ok so x says to me "i met dave today he said he's a friend of yours."
if i was in your shoes I'd either just say "oh yeah i know dave. so did you see the match last night?"
or
"oh yeah i know him through friends.so you going for a pint this weekend?"
or possibly
"shit no i don't even have daves mobile number and we hardly ever talk when we see each other.what the fuck is he playing at telling you we're friends?oh my God you probably hate me now don't you?please don't hate me we can still be friends."

at mq

for , yes YABU, OP

Heh heh

holy crap, this is one of the strangest threads ever. it's like high school all over again.

Mayorquimby....BAHAHAHAHA!!

Bibbity, YABU only because it's better that R described you as a "friend" than as an "enemy" or worse. Nothing wrong with wanting to disassociate yourself from R if she really is a PITA.

Bless you PSML

Are you a little jealous that Pita will get on with Cool and they will both leave you out. And that actually Cool won't think that Pita is a Pita but really quite cool. Are you feeling like they might see eachother at work all the time and be getting on very well, possibly better than you and Cool. Maybe you feel that if you had told Cool that Pita was a 'Pita' then Cool would have avoided her? By Pita saying she was your friend she has associated herself with the Bibbity and as a possible Cool buddy and has used your name to 'get in', so to say.... hmmmm..... All I gotta say is.... where's the love?

Yes, you have articulated all my worst fears exactly Zahora. How will I sleep tonight?

Erm... so these people who are "mutual friends" with you and R...

Do you look down on them for being friends with R or see them as less cool than you?

If you do, then that's pretty uncool in itself

If you don't, then why on earth would this "cool" woman you want to be friends with look down on you for an alleged friendship with R?

I'd write some graffiti on a wall near their office saying Pita is a s*! ...you know the usual