To be annoyed that someone I know has described herself to someone else I know as a friend of mine, when actually I really don't like her?

[bibbitybobbitysantahat]

Come and laugh at me if you like but I am pissed off about this. Its hard to describe:

I know someone very vaguely but like her and think she is cool. Recently she has met an acquaintance of mine and they will be seeing a lot more of each other as they will be working together. So the woman I like and think is cool says to me today "I met R today, she said she is a friend of yours, you know she is coming to work here don't you?"

Well, R is no friend of mine, I really don't like her at all, actually. We have mutual friends and we go out in a group sometimes, but I don't even have her mobile number, I would never socialise with her were it not for this group connection. I think its very odd that she described herself as a friend of mine.

So, now, if cool likeable woman finds out that R is as much of a pita as I think she is, then she will mebbe think blimey, bibbity's a bit of an odd one, being friends with this loon.

Not much I can do about it but, still, fuckkit, I am annoyed.

Just a thought, but if you are going to get all upset about being told you are unreasonable, don't post an "Am I being unreasonable" ?

Feigning surprise and hurt feelings when the general consensus is that you are U is really rather silly. Chat is thataway====>

Upset? pmsl.

You are so. You are well crying.

My bad but you is sick sista.

oh god...

i'm embarrassed for you...

i just hope this is a joke, but somehow i suspect you're serious....

You have plummeted to unrecoverable depths, dearest Bibbity. DP is sorry for you. Ms Cool ain't NEVER gonna look your way, you is bezzies with PITA forever.

Oh woe! How am I ever going to show my face on here again? Am going to have to namechange.

well, bibs, you are clearly not grown up enough for MN. It being a bastion of calm, rational, measured discourse and all.

y'know...it's not even your use of the word "cool"...i sometimes use it in a retro kinda way...

it's the whole thing...if my 9 yr old came out with the nonsense you're coming out with i'd tell him to grow up...

Btw ... what is the drastic action you suggest Hully?

Thanks also to my top bezzie mates moffat, hollyroger, madamed and kerala. I have put an extra large gold star against your names on my spreadsheet.

Blimey, I spend a lot of time cherishing incredibly ungrown up thoughts and resentments...I tend not to vocalise them unless to a really good friend...I don't think bibs and me are alone in this.

I think folk are taking this as an opportunity to be superior, if rather dishonest. None of us are grown up all the time. Really.

AWWW bibs its not so bad, come and play with me I am like sooooooooooooo coool. You will laugh about it all later.

gold star!

Is cos youse is cool, innit.

Please do not name change either I love your name. I would miss it.

Minty you are being incredibly nice and can also have a gold star but I must just tell you I am not in the least bit upset - just playing along with Hully. I have been laughing at myself from the very start on this thread for all those of you with a sense of humour bypass.

Just want to say, that especially on reading this thread but actually beforehand for AGES and AGES I am really really REALLY in love with Bibbity and she is actually my FRIEND as well.

Heavens is it not clear why this person wishes to be seen to be hob nobbing with the cool one?

the Cool One being Bibbity I mean...not your new weirdy cool friend, who is NOT actually your proper friend like me.

I know bibs but thanks for the gold star and I do love you so mmmwaaah mwaaahhh bibs you are the coolest person evvveeeeer.

I hope I am not the weirdy friend you refer to Flight. [quickly passes bibs my mobile number]

there are so many very subtle ways to get across a hint of dislike or disdain without actually saying it. if its important to you, next time do it. on the other hand, i do think that people really appreciate the quality of discretion, as they then know that you are trustworthy and not back biting.. see what happens! your friend may give her subtle opinion to you on the other woman if she comes not to like her, other hand - she may get on really well with her!

This reminds me of the other week, when my 'friend' wanted to meet me and discuss things as she had been having an affair for a year.
I emailed her to say I couldn't make the day we arranged, and in passing mentioned that I had spoken to her other half recently, but we didn't 'click' so she could talk to me in confidence knowing I was unlikely to pass on what she said.
We never had our chat, and it transpired that they decided to stay together and since that day I have had funny looks from him.

I think he has seen the email.
Oh dear.

But if I is your mate, is that cos I is cool? Or is it cos I am so uncool, I am anti-cool. And therefore cool? {head explodes}

Oi! Where's my gold star, you mean old bint?

You are cool cos you know Queen Bitch holly. And that's that.

Oh did I forget you Hully? How could I do that. Tsk tsk. I thought you were coming back to tell me about the "drastic measures".