to give school a list of foods/additives etc. which ds cannot eat at the class christmas party?

[tispity]

the other alternative would be to keep him off that day. he is not allergic as such, but it turns him into a little devil. i feel strongly that it makes no sense to let him eat everything one day a year while carefully controlling his diet for the remaining 364 days. i would even be willing to provide a selection of food for ds and others on his table. i don't know whether the mere suggestion would offend them as they are rushed off their feet this week and the oher parents don't appear bothered (especially those sending in haribos and value cola!).

They all go nuts on the sugar rush, it's part of being a kid. Unless it actually makes him ill, then surely a treat for one day of the year won't do him any harm? Probably preferable to singling him out in this way.

oh dear

is he your firstborn child ?

you would seriously keep him off school and make him miss his xmas party because of some perceived food allergy-wishy-washy-type-kinda-like-an-allergy flannel ?

but all those bright greens and tartrazinz yellows and artery-clogging trans fats - i would hope he'd never choose them, even twenty years down the line. i know i did but my parents were relatively uninformed about these things and try to avoid them now (for what it's worth).

i don't understand why pure foods are big business up until age three or so, then suddenly a lot of parents opt for nutritional freefall

Not fair to keep him off school and him be the only one to miss out on the party.

What's wrong with a bit of cola and a couple of sweets as a one off? Parties are, after all, a time when children enjoy eating stuff they'd never usually eat at home - that's what makes them such fun!
Sending him in with his own party food pack might just single him out too much and he'll probably end up eating other stuff anyway if his friends all are.
If it's not an allergy, it won't hurt him.

but all those bright greens and tartrazine yellows and artery-clogging trans fats - i would hope he'd never choose them, even twenty years down the line. i know i did but my parents were relatively uninformed about these things and try to avoid them now (for what it's worth).

i don't understand why pure foods are big business up until age three or so, then suddenly a lot of parents opt for nutritional freefall without batting an eyelid

Really difficult to answer without age details. On the face of it, I'd have to say YABU. How would you, for example, control what he eats when visiting friends, going on school trip, etc. Once off over excited (otherwise healthy) child not the end of the world, I think.

I expect parents have been asked to send in contributions, in which case it would be very hard for the school to adhere to your list. If you really don't want him eating the food, send him in with his own lunch box. It would be a shame for him to miss the party.

sorry posted twice there!!!

Yeah...don't make him miss the party over it. It's one day, and as long as he eats healthy and well at home, let him have the treat of making his own choices when he's out.

This must be a wind up.

sorry - in reception

You could send in food for your DS if you wanted to but I don't think you could expect the others on his table to eat different food, so he might end up getting it anyway.

But it's a party, you don't have parties every day do you? It's a treat. Do you always eat pure foods and never let your hair down once in a while?

I think it is mean for the kids on his table to have to have something different to everyone else. The school have enough to do without checking all the food off on your list. If you want to, send him with a lunch box just for him but I think you are over reacting. What are you going to do when he goes to children's parties?

you do realise of course, that trying to be so "controlling" about what passes his lips, is only going to make him absolutely go overboard and pig out on crap when he gets the chance ?

and he will get the chance, no matter how you try to control it

much better to teach about healthy eating and allow some treats in moderation

the forbidden becomes very attractive ('tis human nature)

tispity you'd be surprised how few things have trans fats in now. Nothing own brand in Asda or Sainsbo's for example.

Also tartrazine, hardly in anything now.

I was helping at a class party today and the foodstuffs on offer includes errrm, sausage rolls, carrot and cucumber sticks, various fruit sliced up, lots and lots of crisps (but all OK even to a food nazi like me ) and lots of cakes (ditto).

I bet you'll find your fears are groundless. How old is DS anyway? Do you not let him go to pals' parties either?

I agree with those who say you need to let this go.

yes parents will be sending in whatever they like - i don't want him to miss the party - infact i really want him to go and i know he will love it. he has been to only one other party without me and barely touched the food but that was last year - before he discovered his appetite for party food (thanks to my sister's family get togethers).

Why would you want to socially isolate the little lad? You sound a right bundle of laughs.

mut admit I would never allow my reception class to drink fizz but we are having a party with biscuits and crisps and squash.

If the other parents are donating the food/drink then no you can't control what is on offer so either send him with his own (but totally unreasonable to expect everyone on his table to eat it too!) or dont worry about it for 1 day.

I would do the second, but would certainly ask the teacher that my child doesnt have fizzy drink, think thats reasonable.

oh dear....no medical reqson for this,yet you expect teachers to acconodate your whims???

you'll give them all a laugh if nothing else!

My keyboard has broken so i'm read only do the time being but i had to log in on my phone to reply to this! Honestly, your op is funny. My parents were very anti additives etc and we all eat very well now, but as children were little pigs when cheap nasty additive full food was on offer. Which it wasn't often, just like at parties... Seriously, chill out. Pending him with a lunch box will be pointless as he'll surely get hold of some treats, and keeping him off in case he eats some additives is pfb to the max. It's not realistic! And very unfair. Not to mention that the link between sugar and hyperactivity is very tenuous and anecdotal, i get why you don. Want him to have e numbers but it is a one off! Let go the control for one morning!

I am inmagining my DD's face if she was on the table with your ds and his approved party food, and looking at the rest of the class...