to give school a list of foods/additives etc. which ds cannot eat at the class christmas party?

[tispity]

the other alternative would be to keep him off that day. he is not allergic as such, but it turns him into a little devil. i feel strongly that it makes no sense to let him eat everything one day a year while carefully controlling his diet for the remaining 364 days. i would even be willing to provide a selection of food for ds and others on his table. i don't know whether the mere suggestion would offend them as they are rushed off their feet this week and the oher parents don't appear bothered (especially those sending in haribos and value cola!).

i agree with the no cola, and to an extent the haribo but what else is on your list fi you never eat sausages???????

Honestly I would like to know

op - can you clarify what happens when your son eats the massive list of foodstuffs you try and avoid. It's very vague just saying
"he is not allergic as such, but it turns him into a little devil"

do you find him more docile and obedient if he follows your rules and avoids all the normal foods children of his age enjoy eating now and again?

oh and my ds1 has a real allergy btw, a nut allergy...
and there is no way on earth he would want to be on a separate table.

quavers, walkers sensations, mccoys have either msg or aspartame for a start. percy pigs have natural colourings - i am not the only parent who knows this??

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oh no - i have issues with both of those!

How do you know the other parents will be sending in haribo and value cola?
Do you assume that no other parent with a child in that class cares what their child is eating?
As the mother of a child who does have life threatening allergies I think YABVVU!! I find it difficult to get some people to understand how serious DS1s allergies are because there are so many people these days who say their child is allergic to something when they aren't, the child is just a fussy eater or the parent doesn't want them to eat certain foods.
You say "he is not allergic as such" no, he's not allergic at all!!!

You mention tartrazine but unless you don't feed your DS any of the following then he's almost certainly eating it any way.
soft drinks
cereals (corn flakes, muesli, etc.)
cakes made from cake mixes
pastries
custard made from custard powder
sauces
ice cream
ice pops
marzipan
jam
gelatins
jelly
marmalade
yogurt
noodles
pickles and other pickled products
certain brands of fruit squash
fruit cordial
Biscuits
glycerin, lemon and honey products.

there are, of course loads more things it is in

OP - are you for real??

Honestly can you explain to me please (in simple terms) what is so bad about sausages, crisps and maynards wine gums?

My ds1 has his 1st school party tomorrow and I'm packing him off with a pack of Pom Bears crisps as our offering - do they pass muster or not?

And - did you FALL on your HEAD as a small CHILD?

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i agree with jinglebells my mother was a control freak when it came to what i eat. when i got older i eat nothing but junk all stuff i never had when i was growing up. it wouldnt hurt to let your ds eat junk for just 1 day surely

lol @ "issues"

Now ain't that the truth...

of course we know it Tispity... we've just got more of a handle on reality than you. I know that a couple of sweets and crisps at a party are not going to undo an entire lifetime of healthy eating.
well, you're just going to have to send him with his own lunchbox...
but just so you know, it will be commented on by parents and teachers alike..and not favourably.

"do you find him more docile and obedient if he follows your rules and avoids all the normal foods children of his age enjoy eating now and again?" no, just more in control of hs, more composed, together?

i would love him to be on a non-segregated table actually; just thinking of how to make it easier for school

Out of interest, if your DS is invited to a party do you give the hosts Mum a list of 'approved' food?! It's a party, it's party food - part of the attraction is that its not everyday food. The clue is in its NOT everyday.

Are you a vegetarian if I may ask?

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I have three children,they all have parties etc...well not really the oldest ,I have neither the time nor inclination to treck around the town to special shops for special party food to accomodate fussy parents .One wine gum is not going to kill a child,if you are really worried that he will choose those types of foods then you had better keep him off.I don't want to sound mean but you will isolate him ,my sons soon knew which children were genuinely allergic and were careful and cautious with them and those with over sensitive and protective parents.

I like this thread, OP is funny.

You do realise that you're going to be the talk of the staffroom for the rest of the school year if you do this?

"What's great about walnuts is that medical studies have shown them to improve several physical illnesses, promote weight loss (even though the caloric content is fairly high) and enhance overall health. This beneficial effects are probably linked to their high content in seldom-eaten Omega-3 polyunsaturated fats, which are slowly but steadily disappearing from our diets (rich in processed foods) but are absolutely essential for the good functioning of our bodies."

The horror...

Why don't you cater for the whole thing tipsy, and every school party?

If I got a letter telling me to specifically shop in m&s, I'd a) laugh and b} bring the cheapest nastiest crap ever just to piss you off.
Or some of my own baking, which is even worse.