to give school a list of foods/additives etc. which ds cannot eat at the class christmas party?

[tispity]

the other alternative would be to keep him off that day. he is not allergic as such, but it turns him into a little devil. i feel strongly that it makes no sense to let him eat everything one day a year while carefully controlling his diet for the remaining 364 days. i would even be willing to provide a selection of food for ds and others on his table. i don't know whether the mere suggestion would offend them as they are rushed off their feet this week and the oher parents don't appear bothered (especially those sending in haribos and value cola!).

I thought all good mothers would know that they contained pork gelatine. Parenting standards really are slipping these days.

I'm still intrigued about Maynards wine gums - I love them and so does ds1!

clary -wrt smaries, actually i have heard things about one of the colours...

For the record. I'm taking choclate crispy cakes and tuna sandwiches to DDs nursery party. Wih extra smarties on.

You sound terribly worried tispity and you are excellent to concern yourself with your sons diet. However. A helthy diet (According to much literature) should be balanced over a period of longer than one meal/party, longer han 1 day. About a week he Brtitish heart foundation suggests. So presuming your DS eats really well the rest of the time a small 'indescretion' is fine.

Personally I love that DD gets to tast the delicous things of this world. I personally am treating the amazing treat of a pinapple I have on the side the same as the choc buttons we have in the fridge- as treat that you wouldn;t wat all the time.All in moderation.

it is Christmas!!!

tispity, I am loving the way you are studiously ignoring the scoffers on this thread

wrt smarities - it was the blue smarties that were a problem, but they disappeared from smarties for a while and when they were reintroduced the problem additive was no longer in them..........there was a big ad campaign when they came back, I can't believe you didn't see it

Get a grip. Let him enjoy his party. He's earnt it after his first term at school.

where is bitoffun? ?

well i heard that the orange smarties were the culprit - anyway, i admit that i love smarties and have given them to ds minus the orange

I'm taking choclate crispy cakes and tuna sandwiches to DDs nursery party" he loves these too!!

poor you surrounded by slack jawed cola quaffing children and parents who dont care

poor wee gluteus maximus god forbid he may ingest or sniff a wine gum

and poor you that he isnt allergic as such,not formally allergic but hell if keep banging on about someone will believe you

good question wannabe

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"i am not a health freak" in the finest panto season tradition I say to you 'Oh yes you are' .

I am weeping with laughter. Your poor ds. The whole point of children's parties is for them to eat crap and run around. It doesn't mean those foods become part of your dcs staple diet.

There are children with life threatening allergies and if I was a parent of one and met someone like you I'd find it very hard not to give you a .

Totally irrelevant to the topic at hand really, but Smarties are rubbish for chromatography now that they have changed to natural colouring.

M+Ms still artifical colours though.

My son's school party tomorrow - have written on similar thread to say that the list of food requested doesn't really mesh with the school healthy eating policy.....but it's only once a year.

I'll give him lots of fruit when he gets home to try and cancel out the sausage rolls.

ha

but why do us brits have to do the 'let our hair down' one day 'sober up the next day' throughout life infact? what is wrong with teaching them to be consistent from the start?

do I get a prize?

aye as much smarties as you can woof down

I was at a family party a last month, one guest was complaining because there were no prawn vol au vents. My cousin explained that she hadn't done any because my DS is allergic to prawns, the guest then said that she didn't see why she couldn't have them just because my DS "will get a little rash if he has them". Even after telling her a number of times that he could die if he had prawns she still kept moaning about it.

tispity - I do understand your concerns, but you have to put this into perspective. Unless your son is seriously allergic to something, then you should let him have it. The human body is a remarkable thing and is able to deal with all sorts of substances that wouldn't normally be part of our diet. I can see that you don't want your DS to eat that kind of diet all the time, but once in a while won't hurt him, honestly it won't. And what's more, the party isn't only about eating, it's about socialising, playing and having fun; most kids aren't that bothered about the food, it gets in the way of their playing . I would seriously try to chill out, not worry about him and he will have a fantastic time.

And if he comes home saying he wants lots of Haribo or wine gums, then you just say no, and offer an alternative. My children know that we don't eat junk at home, but if a friend invites them to MacDonalds for a party, then they go, and they eat the crap food. It's very important that they join in and socialise as much as it is that they have a healthy diet. The important message is that you should eat a healthy diet every day, with the occasional "treat" or junk once in a while.

btw dd is a few years older, does attend parties on her own, does make healthy choices - she attends a prep school where this has never been an issue because party food follows their general healthy eating policy and is not provided by parents. same with uniform etc