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to give school a list of foods/additives etc. which ds cannot eat at the class christmas party?

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tispity · 14/12/2009 20:40

the other alternative would be to keep him off that day. he is not allergic as such, but it turns him into a little devil. i feel strongly that it makes no sense to let him eat everything one day a year while carefully controlling his diet for the remaining 364 days. i would even be willing to provide a selection of food for ds and others on his table. i don't know whether the mere suggestion would offend them as they are rushed off their feet this week and the oher parents don't appear bothered (especially those sending in haribos and value cola!).

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christiana · 14/12/2009 21:21

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Morloth · 14/12/2009 21:22

You can buy bags of MSG in the supermarket in Singapore. Singaporean kids must be off their heads.

Hulababy · 14/12/2009 21:22

Have you offered to go in and help at the party - that way you could supervise him yourself.

As for the vegetarian thing - surely he s able to know that he doesn't eat meat?

We have a lot of hildren in our class that are veggie a vegan one allergic to dairy, several h can't eat pork, some who only have Halal meats, etc.

They all manage perfectly well at parties at school, without us being given long lists of what w can and can't have available.

By 4/5y the children really are able to now what they can and can't have, or to know that if they are unsure to ask a teacher for guidance.

Hulababy · 14/12/2009 21:23

All thi talk of sweets is making me want to go and raid DD's sweet jar

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tispity · 14/12/2009 21:24

we are pescatarian (lapsed veggies). ds has not been invited to parties alone yet.
i knew about the msg in parmesan, walnuts i avoid for other reasons)

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lockets · 14/12/2009 21:25

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TheFallenMadonna · 14/12/2009 21:26

I am eating a packet of Haribo now...

Whe your DS is invited to parties, as he will be, what will you do?

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tispity · 14/12/2009 21:27

hula - i did offer to help out but they said that they do not have time to run a list 99 on all potential helpers so no parents are aloowed to help this year

btw its not "tipsy" but "tispity"!!

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JInglesBells · 14/12/2009 21:27

he'll learn to lie pretty quickly FM...

LetThereBeRock · 14/12/2009 21:28

So you won't allow Haribos because they have artifical colouring but you've no problem with the pork gelatine in Percy Pigs?

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tispity · 14/12/2009 21:29

i think the packed lunch idea is prob the most realistic - i would love to run the show but they don't want to hand over the reins

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Clary · 14/12/2009 21:29

Smarties have no artificial colours in either. Mind you they are made by Nestle...

You have got to let go of this one!

JInglesBells · 14/12/2009 21:29

a 99 check takes minutes! I think they're trying to keep away interfering parents...

TimothyTigerTuppennyTail · 14/12/2009 21:29

I need a bag of Haribo Tangtastic.

hanaflower · 14/12/2009 21:29

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thisparachuteisaknapsack · 14/12/2009 21:30

How does he not know he is a veggie? It seems like a hard secret to keep.

Hulababy · 14/12/2009 21:30

I think then you are just going to have to hope for the best. Teach your child the things he can and can't have, and that he should ask a grown up for help if he is unclear.

But I can honestly say that I can't see a lst of "not allowed food" for your DS is going to go down too well with the teacher; it would be simply impossible for the teacher to monitor throughout.

By school age your DS is old enough to take most of the responsibility for his diet at school, without the teacher having to tell him/ban stuff.

JInglesBells · 14/12/2009 21:30

'i would love to run the show but they don't want to hand over the reins'
says it all Tispity..

LetThereBeRock · 14/12/2009 21:30

I'm not surprised,in spite of how delicious the rice cakes and water you'd provide would be.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 14/12/2009 21:30

interesting first post, tispity

Katz · 14/12/2009 21:30

my DD2 who's only 4.5 and not even in reception yet, knows what she can and can't eat. She has a rare condition which means that certain foods, chocolate, artificial colours, shellfish and squash make her violently ill and also give her diahorrea. I will be sending her in with a box of breadsticks her contribution to the party, she will then eat and only eat the food she knows she's allowed.

And as an aside Haribo is actually good in terms of sweets full of rubbish, these are some of the sweets she can eat!

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tispity · 14/12/2009 21:30

letthereberock - thanks for that. ds has not had percypigs ; they were recommended to me as being ok by somebody quite reliable but no, if they contain pork gelatine, i would say no.

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LetThereBeRock · 14/12/2009 21:31

I am too Hana. I think it adds to the authenticity. Pig flavoured pig faces. Delicious,though far too yummy to be wasted on children if you ask me.

MrsMattie · 14/12/2009 21:31

You're a loon

GrimmaTheNome · 14/12/2009 21:32

I've just done a treasure hunt with DD and have just eaten my prize. I'm glad to say it was free of gluten, nuts, milk and soya (and they do a halal version too which would be free of animal gelatine) - perfect for the special table, don't you think?

It was of course a post-Halloween mini pack of Haribos.