Kissing on the mouth

[wellywoo]

Went to visit family for the weekend and two of my DH's sisters gave DD (5 months) a big cuddle then kissed her on the mouth - a few times.
I was so angry but didn't say anything, didn't want to 'cause a scene' but now wish I had said something.
I wouldn't dream of kissing someone elses baby on the mouth.....am I being unreasonable?

I find it odd that this would make you "so angry". Seems a bit of an OTT reaction. Fair enough: raised eyebrows, shudder at the thought of slobber and bogies but surely you have noticed how your husband's family interact and I assume mouth kissing is the norm for them all?
I'm 40 and still kiss my Mum goodnight, every night if I am visiting her. Male and female relatives all say hello and goodbye with smacking mouth kisses and hugs.
My husband's family barely touch at all but my MIL now proffers a cheek for a peck when we leave and she seems to like the affection.
Sorry, can't be doing with this fake cheek pressing and air kissing.

spice..my 20 month old ds does this too!i particularly enjoy winding my brother up with this.
he isn't used to snot or dribble (no kids and probable ocd!)
when he comes to visit i say,"and where's uncle pauls kiss?"and hold him out ..cue tongue out and slobber = brother practically boaking and backing into corner screaming "no, no , nooooooooooo!!"

mwhoaa hahahahah...the revenge of the little sister is sweet!

YABU

I always make sure that I kiss other people's kids on the face or forhead just in case their parents might think like you. But a baby - and two loving aunties? Come on.

My uncle Jim is another kettle of fish though. I love him dearly but there's no need for him to kiss me squarely and indeed quite forcefully on the mouth every time I see him.

Gah.

Glad it's not just me motherbeyond! Gibbon - I sort of wish I'd encouraged the handshake - would mean that I had less work outfits that were covered in sticky hands just as I'm off out the door.

It's quite interesting about children and affection though lenin - my elder sister did not enjoy being cuddled as a child apparently even though my parents are very affectionate. Weirdly though, she is very physical with her DD and they are always hugging. I don't know what conclusions you can draw from that

Oh dear i am odd and sick, as i kiss occasionally my dd 2.8 years on the mouth, she is soooo gorgeious and her lips are so cute like cupids bow ooh she is sooo scrummie. However i would never do that to anybody elses child, just my own.

How fascinating. Mouth to mouth contact is found throughout the animal kingdom as food solicitng behaviour (young trying to get parents to drop or regurgitate food). In some developing countries (and probably all of humankind at some point) parents wean children onto solids partly by chewing food up then giving it to them (some of you may need to sit down with the smelling salts). Kissing is perhaps an extension of this behaviour. It is an innate drive we seem to have (I mean, who would have invented it?), to show love and intimacy. I kiss my 18 mth ds on the mouth A LOT, he says 'more diss' very cutely at bed time. Its natural. Very different of course, to how you feel when you kiss a lover, but no less powerful as an expression of love and passion. Germs? How British

Now, I think I am odd and uptight. I was brought up in lip-kissing family, but somehow I've just lost that. And now I think about it, it makes me a bit . DH not a lip kisser. Well, he is of course a very accomplished lip kisser, but only with me...

I find it gross from most people (actually all but dh and ds). T'is a bit sad, my family a bit uptight though. DH's family different; MIL practically chases me round room like a Carry On film!

Firstly I think totally up to you with regard to your child and you should use excuse of colds to suggest not doing it if it upsets you.

Also, I'm surprised at the massive difference of opinion on this. I would feel weird (although when I analyse it, I am not sure why) about anyone kissing my children on the lips. I think I've done it, and probably would do it if that was their (DCs') preference, but for hygiene and also intimacy reasons I think I probably encourge them to offer/kiss cheeks.

All down to cultural/family upbringing, but wouldn't feel angry if someone broke my unwritten rules...