Kissing on the mouth

[wellywoo]

Went to visit family for the weekend and two of my DH's sisters gave DD (5 months) a big cuddle then kissed her on the mouth - a few times.
I was so angry but didn't say anything, didn't want to 'cause a scene' but now wish I had said something.
I wouldn't dream of kissing someone elses baby on the mouth.....am I being unreasonable?

I adore my nieces and would be really hurt if my sister or her partner objected to me kissing them - having said that, I'm not really a 'mouth kisser' but I do love a neck nuzzle.

I personally kiss DS on the mouth all the time and the boys I nannied for (they were about 5 & 3 at the time) used to kiss me on the mouth sometimes. I don't think it's a big deal, but I know it's something some people are not comfortable with.

that is so sad a thing to hear......

I kiss my son. I love him. I will stop when it becomes 'inappropriate' but i show him that affection just now (13 months) and he LOVES to kiss family members (seems to know not to try with people he doesnt know) and it make me with a tear in my eye everytime i see it. You are missing something VERY special.

(not judging btw just passing experience)

My family have a strict no tongue rule otherwise anything goes

Oh, Useful!

What do you miss by not kissing on the mouth? I didn't say I don't kiss my kids at all did I .

really? Yabu. When we visit family ds won't leave the house without kissing everyone, even the dog. What is wrong with it? confused

oh sorry nothin picked that up wrong.

yep unreasonable and a bit biscuit arsed too
what did you expect a manly hand shake to the wean?stiff upper lip.oh in fact no upper lip just cold nonchalance

why angry? How strange! It's obviously just affection. Some of my family kiss on mouths, doesn't really bother me.

I personally would probably kiss other people's babies on their foreheads or heads so I sort of see where you are coming from but at the same time it wouldn't really be something you could say out loud as it would come over as a bit "funny" and precious.

No probs melted .

it was family not the man in the chippy.get over it

My grandmum kisses me on the mouth even now and I'm well into my 30's. We always greet each other with a huge hug and a big mwaah. Bet that made you faint

is it just me - or does anyone else think that 5 months is a bit young for a kiss on the lips?! once they can kiss back i get it, but otherwise its a bit odd to me. DS is 9 months and if i kiss his mouth he thinks its funny, but not sure how i would feel about others (other than dh) doing it. I probably wouldn't mind, but yeah when they are tiny... not sure. Is that odd of me?!?!

yep odd to restrict spontaneous affection and kissing.they are family not the strange man slabbering over baby

cheesefarmer, kissing a 5 month old is very different to an older child. Babies are slobbery and soft and sometimes when you kiss them they start chewing your nose. It's delicious.

Obviously I wouldn't recommend doing this to any baby that isn't related to you...that way lies social ostracism

fast-forward to adults we relish a kiss on the gob form anyone family, man in the chippy,wee wummin at bus stop

Agree with Last there is no such thing as being too young. You strange beasty cheese

aye,kiss own baby and friends/family baby on mouth.they reciprocate

they are family ..... I think YABU

OP I do understand why you are feeling a bit anxious about this but it really is OK and quite healthy for DC to have loving relationships with extended family. For some mouth kissing is ok - it is normal here.

Children learn that family interact differently than with strangers and "friends" by what goes on around them. It is a good thing for them to learn that kissing aunties is acceptable and eventually they learn that we don't kiss strangers - they do this by observation and experiment.