to be pissy with the way dh "looked after" ds today?

[phdlife]

There's more to it than this but the main thing was feeding ds (2.7). I was supposed to be having some time off, out with a friend, but that didn't really work out so I was around a lot more than I intended and am stressy about what I saw.

Afaik, today ds got a small bowl of sweet flakes, a few bites he stole from my bread/cheese and then dh's bread/cheese, several biscuits and a bit more cheese, some grapes (that I nagged dh into giving - instant request for more from ds), some of a babychino, several more biscuits and cheese. By biscuit I mean home-made gingerbread.

Finally at the evening meal he got spag bol with extra veg, which he scoffed, then 2nds and 3rds. Then dessert which he insisted include fruit, yoghurt and another biscuit.

Ds is an awesome eater and normally with me he'd have had lots more food, including fruit and veg and other forms of protein (meat, peanut butter) throughout the day. Afa dh is concerned, ds ate a large evening meal and that's terrific, IABU. I think it's shitty to keep a little one that hungry, and poorly nourished, even if ds was having too much fun to complain for most of the day.

I know I can be a bit weirdy about food as I tend to hypoglycemia and it makes me so insane I can't bear anyone else to be hungry, but am I really being that unreasonable?

I was also wondering about the babychino.

And also agree with bubbagirl about the possibility of overeating.

babychino wankage
its milk fgs

YABU, your ds ate a good well balanced evening meal, sometimes they are just not hungry, i am sure that your ds would make it clear if he was. Relax chill its a bit ott imo, its good that your dh is looking after your ds as mine does not really. WTF is babychino, thought that it was some kind of clothing

babyccino is frothed milk. Pisses starbucks off when you ask for 'warm milk'
Oh you mean a babyccino?
No. I mean warm fucking milk.

But yes, YABU to be pissy for all the reasons already stated.

A little high on biscuits perhaps but otherwise I too am baffled by the issue here. Does he not talk at all? Was he distressed? Are we missing something?!

Yes, was it the biscuits? because if they were homemade then they needed to be eatne before they went off anyway. On baking days we can easily eat that many biscuits.

very confused by OP, seems like dc had fun,a nd enjoyed the day. are we all mneters are control freaks. never like people do or say
relax, chill out, life is short, one life, live it.

I am baffled too. They both seem to have had a good day together. If he was seriously hungry he would have made it known. DH is an equal parent-if he is looking after him it shouldn't need OP to be the 'superior' parent. You can't control events when you are not there-you will only cause upset if you try to.

Yes YABU. If you want your DH to look after your DS, then you need to let him do it in his way. Your DS sounds like he had plenty to eat and, if he was having fun, what's the problem? I know that it can be hard when someone isn't doing things 'your' way, but that's because they're not you. Let it go.

I'd say it was nice for them both to have a 'day off'!

This'll turn into a stealth AIBU. OP will come back and say DH was also letting DS drink out of the toilet and play with the steak knives...

PMSL pithy

PHD my lovely, what GCSE ate it really does sound fine and I would not worry one bit

Sorry some people are being so bloody mean I really would give AIBU a wide berth at the moment petal.

Arf! Lost me at babycino I'm afraid..

Is it the law to give vitriolic responses on AIBU? Did I miss that one?

i used to panic about ds not eating enough until i was informed 1 tablespoon per portion for each yr of age so 1 yr old 3 tbs altogether perr meal is adequate

so 2 yr old 6tbs
3 yr old 3tbs
and then just reasonable from there on

once i realise he wasnt starving i relaxed more around food ds meals have always been balanced so there is no way in that one day your ds was underfed

i made my ds meals to these rules as was then worried i could be possibly over feeding him and had to relax he is not under weight he is not over weight he has very balanced diet and i dont worry anymore as if hungry they would tell you anyway

cakeywakey is right. Unless you want to do all the childcare, I suggest you let your DH do it his way. In my experience, kids have their own ways of punishing anyone who keeps them short of food!

sorry i say 3 tbs for 3 yr old i meant 3 per portion so 9 tbs for each meal is sufficient

I'm still confused

the op was there wasn't she

so how was her dh the only person that was taking care of him

none of it makes any sense

you're not supposed to be there anyway - you're supposed to actually go out and have fun with your free time and not see what's going on at home, not hang around and get annoyed at your dp/dh doing everything "wrong". That way criticising and huffing lie.... (I speak from experience )

wow!! havent read responses but;

CHILL woman. he ate plenty. you know were all allowed junk food days. as long as his diet is balanced out over the rest of the weel then he'll be fine.

you do sound really hard to please. poor dh.

was your ds whingeing about being hungry? if so why didnt you get him something.

tell your dh what you would expect him to eat in future and if you dont think he'll manage (although tbh i think he did fine) then you make all his meals and snacks up ahead of time.

did your dh eat?

YABU

That grub sounds fine.

Trinity - I am frequently "here" but not actually looking after my DS's, although it doesn't stop me jumping in and sorting something if there's something that's blatantly obvious that needs immediate attention and I'm closest.