to be disgusted by the total moron parents who left a note on the car windscreen of my disabled parents' car

[TheDullWitch]

My parents, in their mid-80s, both who walk with sticks (my dad who just had a stroke) went to the supermarket. Since all the disabled spaces were filled and they struggle to walk more than a few yards, they parked in a parent and child space and left their disabled badge in the window.

When they returned to their car the following was written on a note on their windscreen. "This space is for parents, you stupid old bastards." This total and utter XXXX must have seen them struggle to walk and still thought that their own right to walk able-bodied with their toddler into a store was more important.

My mum and dad, who are gentle, kind people are so upset. I am so disgusted and upset.

SHAME ON YOU WHOEVER YOU ARE! SHAME ON YOU!

How awful for your parents.Am on your behalf.

Even having a disabled badge doesn't protect you from this sort of insensitive rude type of person sadly.Dp has a chronic illness that causes him to become very breathless on exertion and dd is disabled and wears AFO's though is mobile with help.

One day we parked in a disabled space in town as we needed to pick up a prescription for dp from chemist.I carried dd,dp walked into shop though his disability isn't "Visible" he had to stop and rest once in shop.When we got back to car some nasty person had left a note on windscreen saying @You didn't look very disabled to us we have your car reg and are reporting you to the council"

Ignorant feckers.Dp was SO upset and quite tearful which is unusual for him.

I hope your parents can read this thread and realise that the vast majority of people are decent folk and to ignore such a nasty horrid note

MrsT we weredenied it when we reapplied, I could appeqal and I think win- the school have said they wopuld back us- but we got DLA until 16 when we appealed (they dropped it to MR though) and I am scared about losing that. We're seeing his Paed again soon though and I am going to ask for her help with an awfullot of things such as SSD'spermanent waiitng list for assessment, blue badge, etc etc etc. Poor Paed, she doesn't doesn't deserve us (and tghen we tell her that ds2 is being referred her way for either dyspraxia or ADD< coz well we dont do it by half )

Mavis a lot of ignorant people don't seem to realize that the majority of disabilities are hidden.

That's so horrible. Your poor parents. People get SO unbelievably arsey over where they should be entitled to park. My brother and dad's cars both got keyed when they were parked up the road to make room for my Grandma's hearse on the day of her funeral.

I agree that P&C spaces should be a long way from the shop - although I (well, DP and I) always just park right over the far side where there is nothing else parked anyway. Get heaps of space then!

Horrible person. Really hope your parents are ok

both about Op and Mavis!

I can imagine people having a quick moan because they are no children parking spaces left for them but to be really vile and vindinctive enough to leave a note or threat on the windscrean is just unbelivably nasty!

I hope your parents will forget about this.

I do not agree that P&C spaces should be far away from the shop's entrance as going though a buisy car park with little ones can be quite a stressfull if not dangerous process. I do agree that there should be maybe a common agreement that should the disabled places all be full people with a blue badge should be welcome to them. Also, having the P&C away from the door would definitely not mean that there would be more parking spaces closer to the shop, the places would just be taken by people who are not desabled and do not have little children.

gagamama It is unbelievably sad when people care so little for others shame on them!

The supermarket was quite nice. I rang their head office who logged my complaint. Then the manager of the local store rang me and then my parents to reassure them they could park anywhere. She too was shocked and aghast at the note.

Happy to hear you got a good response from the supermarket

thats awful your parents sound lovely and the people who did that should be named and shamed but can i just pull you up ever so gently about the word moron i hate that word and the way it is used sorry

I agree your parents should show the manager. The Manager could put up a sign saying that the supermarket gives parking priority to the disabled over foul mouthed, parents with toddlers. Or he could get a still of the CCTV footage showing the woman sticking the note on the car and put it in the window with a sign saying "DO YOU KNOW THIS STUPID BASTARD"

Oh so many errors in my last post but you know what I mean, right?

PS. I know women are supermarket managers too.

That is unbelievable. My FIL (who has a painful knee condition and walks with a stick) has had people come up to him and question his blue badge, because he looks relatively youthful (although he is 75) and doesn't use a wheelchair. Some people can be so cruel - to the extent that FIL now often doesn't use his blue badge, and suffers increased pain as a result of having to walk further and squeeze out of the car.

It is awful when people leave notes. I get them frequently because I am such a rubbish parker. Although I probably deserve the notes, getting one puts a downer on my day - and doesn't help me park better next time!

It is annoying when people use the P&C spaces when they don't need them. Personally, I don't use them when I am just with DS1 (4yo) but find them useful when I have both children with me (DS2 is 18mo). Having said that - I can manage without a P&C space so perhaps I should stop using them altogether!

"But now there is a group of parents who use their children to justify their pre-existing selfishness"

So very true.

I'm just so shocked someone would do this. It's so sad that one ignorant little note has caused your poor dear parents (and you!) such upset.

You should print out a copy of this thread and post it to them to show them the world isn't completely full of small-minded self-centered people.

FFS.

It's just a note. They parked somewhere that someone else thought they shouldn't and they got a note.

It's hardly the end of the world.

Good to see that you contacted the supermarket - glad the manager followed up with your parents to at least prove there are nice people out there.

www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/comment/columnists/janice_turner/article6916343.ece

Brilliant article!

That's disgraceful! I'd be inclined to show the store manager this Mumsnet thread too in support of you and your parents.

So...OP is a journalist? Or has one being doing-ahem- 'research' on this thread?

Deadlines, eh?

Think that's a bit mean - the OP has been here for eons.

Lily, I'm genuinely confused... is OP a journalist, or has someone nicked her story and written an article about it?

Not trying to be mean; if it's the former, no problem, but if it's the latter, then surely that's not right?

ooojimaflip-you may be able to shrug this off but the OP's parents are of a different generation-they would not knowingly upset anyone & this will likely prey on their minds. I can understand supermarkets making wider bays available for parents with children-but why are they always so close to the store entrance?

what are you talking about tethersend - Dull Witch has been on MN forever (those I suppose she could be a closet journalist! Good luck to her if she's managed to keep it quiet this
long )

I'm not shouting troll or anything, I'm sure Dullwitch has been on here ages- I've only been on MN a few months- I just don't understand the times article linked by givememoresleep?

did I miss the memo?

o m g

not just low rent red tops using MN as research then