to be disgusted by the total moron parents who left a note on the car windscreen of my disabled parents' car

[TheDullWitch]

My parents, in their mid-80s, both who walk with sticks (my dad who just had a stroke) went to the supermarket. Since all the disabled spaces were filled and they struggle to walk more than a few yards, they parked in a parent and child space and left their disabled badge in the window.

When they returned to their car the following was written on a note on their windscreen. "This space is for parents, you stupid old bastards." This total and utter XXXX must have seen them struggle to walk and still thought that their own right to walk able-bodied with their toddler into a store was more important.

My mum and dad, who are gentle, kind people are so upset. I am so disgusted and upset.

SHAME ON YOU WHOEVER YOU ARE! SHAME ON YOU!

How utterly awful. Probably left by someone who wanted to use the p&c space because they were shopping with their teenager (have seen that happen!).

Small-minded lazy brain-dead pond scum. I bet they read the DM.

Should add that if your parents want to take it further they (or you on their behalf) should call the manager. There will probably be CCTV to show who left the note.

Great idea to show the manager and to check cctv to see who it was.
Shame on them indeed.

That is truly appalling. Your poor parents ...

What horrible, horrible people. Your poor parents

TBH i use parent and child bays due to the inconsiderate drivers who choose to park so close to my babies side of the car so its next to impossible to get in and out the car.
If i see disabled or elderly people using the bays and i have to park elsewhere i completely understand and agree with them parking there. Your poor parents, some people are so cruel and thoughtless.
I hope they don't let it put them off using the p & c bays in future

Bibbetty - If I lived near them (I live, alas, 200 miles away) I would be right up that store, demanding to see the CCTV, getting their reg number, discovering their address, going round, asking them what they thought they were doing.

I'd go CSI on their ass!

But as it is, given their age, my dad was in hospital all through August, I think they should take it the store, show the customer services lady and just put it down to the world having a certain proportion of bottomfeeding scumbags.

Agree very rude, but also agree part of problem is due to p&c spaces being near the shop door so they get filled by non p&c people, either disabled or just lazy who wouldn't use them if they were further away. The extra space was excellent when trying to get kids strapped in carseats.

Horrible people

I agree definitely take the note to the manager.

Though have you not noticed? It's a P&T parking thread where everyone is in agreement!

Just cannot believe that anyone could be so selfish and moronic to think they could be entitled to space more than a disabled person

Awful. Have never really understood the point of parent spaces anyway.

That's dreadful. What sort of people would do that?

Is there anyone nearby who can make sure they go in & perhaps speak for them if necessary.

The only useful thing I found about parent places is that they are wider so easier to lean in & get baby/toddler out.

But I agree they don´t need tobe near the store-onlynear trollies!

ignorant rude people...

Can't you call the supermarket manager and explain about the note, what approximate time it was left and ask him to review the CCTV? You don't actually need to go into the store. You can then ask your parents to take the note in at their convenience (or someone on their behalf). At least that way any CCTV evidence is preserved (I assume they will have a rolling tape system so the evidence will be taped over at some point if not protected).

I am cross on your behalf too dully but i fear the cult of the family is all pervasive

Ps when are we off to WB?
I will meet you threre.

I agree shame on them ! What an awful thing to do especially if they had seen them struggling in
Please tell your parents not to be upset and we are not all like that!

there really do seem to be some people who have children and think the whole bloody world must suddenly bow down to them

I'm glad your parents didn't have to meet whoever it was face to face in case they were verbally unpleasant though I would have liked to witness something like this so I could wade in and tell them to fuck off go on their way.

I think they should ban these spaces all together (Parent and Baby). Totally ridiculous in the first place tbh.

That is disgusting. There are some truely, nasty, selfish, ignorant people in the world

This is one of those threads where I hope the person who did this is on MN and is thoroughly ashamed of themselves.
However, I think that MNetters wouldn't do something so ignorant.

Sorry to read this has happened to your parents. That was written by someone who is both deeply troubled and unpleasant.

Your parents were likely too upset to have returned to the store at the time with this awful (undoubtedly anonymous) note but they should report this to the store manager asap and show this to him/her.

I see that other posters have mentioned reviewing CCTV footage. I do not think you will find any CCTV trained on these spaces, this is not commonplace in supermarket car parks. I;ve also seen car park CCTV footage and it is very poor in quality (even if it is swtiched on).

Supermarket car park spaces I think fall under the local council's remit, it is not the responsibility per se of the supermarket.
It may therefore be an idea for them to talk to the local council as well.

Your poor parents - I would definately be following it up with the store manager. I took great satisfaction in seeing an able bodied bimbo get a ticket after parking in a disabled spot outside Tesco

Agree with those who say that P&B spaces should be further away from the entrance. I found them invaluable when I had 3 under 3 to get in and out of the car safely. To those who don't see the point of P & B spaces, how would you advise getting 2 babies safely into a trolley whilst it is parked precariously at the front/rear of your car, whilst other drivers fly past oblivious.

I suppose with 3 kids, I should have just stayed at home

Thank you, all of you. You have really calmed me down. They are so vulnerable, my parents now, and I feel very protective of them, especially as I live so far away. I will definitely ring up the store myself. And let you know what they say. xxxx

Janeite - as far as I was concerned, parent and child parking spaces give a bit extra space round the car, so that the parents can get children into and out of their car seats, and can make sure that they are safely strapped in, without banging the car door into the cars parked on either side.

In a normal parking space, it can be well-nigh impossible to get the door far enough open to get a baby car seat in, or to lift a toddler who is not yet mobile enough to climb in unaided into their car seat, and then to strap them in - especially if, like me, you end up with three children all in car seats, and having to strap one in in the middle of the back seat.

However, none of this means that parents' needs are greater than those of the disabled, and I always considered that, if the disabled spaces were full up, then they should have first call on the disabled spaces.

I also wouldn't have groused if the supermarkets had put the parent and child spaces further from the door, though a protected pathway to the store would have been appreciated.

What happened to your parents, TDW, is utterly unacceptable, and I hope that the store is helpful and supportive in finding out who did this, and in making sure that their customers know that disabled drivers have every right to the parent and child spaces, if the disabled spaces are full.