in thinking that if we have monthly income of £3700 net we could spare £120 to spend on a cleaner?

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3+ years posting here, namechange for obvious reasons.

But, seriously, what do you think?

The income all comes from dh and I am sahm. We have two primary school age children. I truly hate cleaning and I do 95% of the food shopping and cooking and 100% of the laundry and 95% of all the other things that makes a family tick over.

Or am I being unreasonable?

i agree
I had a cleaner twice a week for 3 hrs each time when I was sahm
had a billion other things to do

I really don't see the problem with a SAHM having a cleaner. The washing, ironing, folding, putting away, cooking and general tidying takes up enough time without adding dusting and mopping into the equation.

SAHM does not mean sitting in the house all day watching TV. The OP said she was a SAHM she didn't say she was a lazy lie on the sofa mum and she probably has better things to do with her time than clean and I don't blame her.

Ha ha, can't believe some of the posts here. You have a fairly good income and are a SAHM so some of these silly MNers are begrudging you a cleaner. Bet if they were in your situation they'd think differently.

Just go ahead and hire one.

Is this a case of showing off i think, I am on a good wage but would never disclose it on here

my objection to fish & chips every night woul dbe more nutritional than financial though...

if the OPS man is splashing that much on drinks and nibbles, i view a cleaner as a much more equitable (and less fattening) expenditure as eveyone gets a clean house out of it.

i mean really guys, i too feel protective of the cash in the account (which is why i plan very little fun this festive season) but that is a matter of necessity.

if somone else fails to feel that necessity because... they don't have to....who am i to say they should be counting the pennies??
aside from that, if you are willing to pay £120 pcm cash in hand for cleaning, where do you live and would it be ok for me to bring my babies to help? I am CRB checked

so quattro if you get promoted, and that takes some of the draggy bits away...for eg if you don't have to do your own admin any more, would you stand up and say 'wait, no! i need to do that in order to justify my existence!!!'

madness this.

body the dh is paying for the whole show to be kept on the road!

"But if you get to contract out all the painful and draggy bits I might rethink this whole equation."

hear hear! If it was all painting and nature walks I'd sign up straight away.

CD climb up onto your pyre. for you shall be burned!

maidenvoyage, you know what i said below about snipey bitchiness wrt money....

orm, i hope that you do get promoted and some of the draggy bits are taken away. and then you realise what a weird argument that is!!!

But why wouldn't you get rid of the crappy bits if you could? Or want your partner to do so? If I could get rid of the crappy parts of my job, I would for sure. What's with the self-flagellation?

Just to be clear, am talking about 3 hours a week here. Enough to just get the basics done in our house.

Sophable- the jobs on your list really don't take that long and a lot of them can easily be done with the DC around.
Can totally understand a sole earner might resent a SAHM/ SAHD putting his/her feet up and reading a magazine the whole time.

no fallenmadonna, they are going to KEEP the crappy bits of their job otherwise they will deserve to feel very guilty indeed.

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OK. Whatever you say sophable. Right now I don't give a fuck.

But why kitty? If they love their job and wouldn't want to be without it?

Should just qualify that by saying that I do not think SAHMs put their feet up the whole time- it was in response to sophable's post.

but you give a fuck enough to post that right??

Nula! I am making it possible for dh to go out and do the job he loves any time, any place, any where. If I didn't sahm, his life would be a whole lot more complicated, believe me. I think he owes me board and lodging for that, don't you?

Yep.

God the guilt thing! I'm a catholic and I don't get it!!

But then I don't have the protestant work ethic either...

It doesn't sound like having a cleaner is going to make them have to rethink their budget.Her dh is not being asked to forego his coffees and lunches or switch to cheao food etc because she's a lazy bones.

SAHM with cleaners please give advice on how to get hubby to let you have one.

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