to be upset that DP

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posted comment's, about a woman posting nearly naked suggestive pics of herself on a website...
"You are hot" "I would like to wake up to see you like that in the morning "

i'd be upset at that,not nice or necesaary at all!!

and i'd be wondering what else he had done too....

Was he drunk at the time?

is it someone he knows

Well it does not sound like he has done anything with her does it - ie it would be "I liked waking up with that in the morning" and so on.

I would be cross but mostly about the fact that he was being so disrespectful in general - to me and her!

wouldn't worry about him being disrespectful to her! What does she expect if she posts nearly nude photos??

How old is he, 14? Ew. YANBU. It's insulting to you (and possibly her).

He had had a drink at the time just after midnight but not enough to be drunk.

We both have seen her on that website but don't know her personally

We are a little strained since he assaulted me about 2-3 weeks ago.

Lal, I wouldn't be worried about her I would be worried about him being disrespectful to anyone - regardless of how they are dressed or how much they appear to be inviting it.

Saying that you can say anything you like because she is dressed a certain way just takes everyone down to the lowest common denominator. I would want my husband to behave better than that regardless of her actions.

He recently assulted you, now he's publically perving over other women on the net...
Doesn't sound like he has a great deal of respect for you.

Why are you still with him?
He assaulted you. That should be a deal breaker, especially with this extra charming behaviour.

he put my neck/back out but has paid for one session with my oesteopath

a little strained is verbal argument.not getting assaulted

you seem very detached,more animated about the nudey pictures comments than getting a doing

do you check up on him,his internet activities?

I love him. sounds pathetic I know

My sister thinks he could kill me in a bout of anger and wants me too leave.

well.you will undoubtedly feel his fists again.maybe next time he will pay the dentist when he knocks your teeth out?

do you have children to they witness domestic abuse

He paid for your session with the osteopath? Oh that alright then .

Was that the first time he's assaulted you?

hmm, as long as he paid for the osteopath, fairs fair

It isn 't patheitc to think you love someone.

What is a little bit is thinking you don't deserve better.

0808 2000 247 - Womens Aid helpline, if you want to chat with someone OP.

no amount of anyone else advising or telling you to go will compel you to leave. you will only leave when you feel able to

your posts are very flat and understated.

when you were a wee girl thinking of your partner, did you envisage a bullying and violent man

nope

so what happened?how did you end up here with him?

Do you think your sister is right?

Do you really want to live like this?

I'd be more pissed off with the assault than the perving.

There is nothing less dignified or more demoralising than staying with someone who doesn't love you, especially if you love them. And he clearly doesn't. Love is an action, not words. What do his actions say?

How sad that you place such little value on yourself and your happiness- I hope you find a way to change this.