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To want to broadcast the video of the birth at my dd's christening?

244 replies

OhCrumbs · 05/10/2009 12:46

We tried to have a child for a long time and so when I became pregnant I was thrilled. My husband and I did a kind of video diary charting the pregnancy as it went along and obviously he videoed the birth too, which was a wonderful experience that my husband participated in.

We are to hold my daughter's christening in a few weeks and during the ceremony I'd like the video to be screened as a celebration of all we went through and experienced to get to that day.

But my husband's mother heard about our plans and now his family are threatening to boycott the ceremony, calling me a "freak" and saying it would be distasteful. How can a birth be distasteful?

OP posts:
ChunkyMonkeysMum · 05/10/2009 21:21

I've only read the OP, but you are bonkers to even consider doing this !!!!

A friend of mine went through a lot & waited a long time to eventually have her twins. I was absolutely thrilled for her & also attended the Christening, but certainly would not have wanted to see a video diary that includes their birth for christ sake !!!

That is personal to you & your DH. Keep it that way

disneystar1 · 05/10/2009 22:21

sounds wonderful to me

id do it, for sure, if some dont like it im sure the sentiment of the occasion will outweigh that

what a lovely parent you sound, go for it

disneystar1 · 05/10/2009 22:23

just to say though when you send out the invites maybe you can say what is planned so its not sprung on them, that way they will see what kind of christening your planning, and how much your child means to you,

zoejeanne · 05/10/2009 22:23

I have read the first 3 pages in ever increasing shock. Please think of it from your DD's point of view, when some time in the future she asks 'why weren't my grandparents at my christening?' and you have to answer 'because we insisted on showing your birth video, even though we knew they wouldn't like it and so we excluded them from your precious day'. I'm sure she'll be over the moon that it was your fault they weren't there

theoriginalmummypoppins · 05/10/2009 22:27

Are you my sister ? Its the sort of arrogant bullshit she would come out with ...lol

Get real. Every child's birth is to be celebrated but women have been doing it for years and thankfully not on video.

Well done though. Not on giving birth but on creating the hottest thread on mumsnet today....

GreenMonkies · 05/10/2009 22:48

Excellent Troll thread, very, very funny!! Congrats Rhubarb!

As for themed food, cup cakes make excellent boobs, a bit of pale pink icing and a mini marshmallow and bob's your uncle, well, you know what I mean.

MissMoopy · 05/10/2009 22:54

You fooled me! Too too funny!

MissGreatBritain · 05/10/2009 23:05

This has to be a wind-up. Why, if you're that committed to doing something so PFB-ly hideous, would you want MNers to agree with you? You know they'd laugh their socks off. Do love the idea of "feathery bits" though; may start using that instead of fanjo occasionally!

2kidzandi · 05/10/2009 23:08

Fanjo?

pigletmania · 05/10/2009 23:12

The point is ohcrumbs, you and of course your dh may like seeing your fanjo in all its glory but your guests may not share the same view. Yes i agree entirely the the human bodys is a beautiful thing to be admired and adored and giving birth is natural, but please keep your lady bits to yourself. As the the bf portrait, that sounds quite nice IMO.

pigletmania · 05/10/2009 23:13

2kidzani I another word for vulva

mikeat48 · 05/10/2009 23:16

Are ye cracked !! A vid' of the childs birth at the post Christening party.All the kids and elderly relatations just about to enjoy desert and on goes a memory my wife would rather not revisit,that is all the roaring ,screaming and lets face it ,the mess!!During all of our births-5- I just kept my eyes fixed on a small spot on the delivery room wall and said my prayers untill it was all over;I couldn't look below at the 'eh um,' feminine area during labour.So why push it on family and friends who may not want to see it.It could also bring back long forgoten past experiences that some women( and men too) may not want to themselves revisit;a sad time or a period in life that has been buried in the depths of their memory.Some women carry sad and often traumatic secrets that others may never be aware of.So think about that..how do they excuse themselves when its suddenly put on in a room full of people,all in great form. Its somthing to think about. But,if its AFTER,when Mum is washed and feeling better and 'settled' after a grueling couple of hours hard mental and physical work and that wonderful little creation is settled and nice and pink,great!!But not ,NOT the befores.Thats a time most mums feel they will never forget,but soon do once baby has 'landed'and pain over.So leave that part in the delivery room.

daisy99divine · 05/10/2009 23:17

HOLD ON!! go back to Skihorse at 7:30 - her post was a link to a placenta teddy bear - DID YOU NOT SEE IT?!?!?

I have just ordered a gross for all my friends Christenings - the perfect gift

2kidzandi · 06/10/2009 00:01

Oh. I have one of those then.

AnnVan · 06/10/2009 00:08

Euuuuurgh at the placenta teddy bear. Bloody hell!!

brockleybelle · 06/10/2009 00:12

That's a ridiculous idea and will leave many of your guests feeling very uncomfortable. Is that a feeling you want them to have on your daughter's special day? Wouldn't you rather they remember her in her beautiful gown, the lovely words of the ceremony and the party afterwards rather than you groaning and seeing your privates?

CarmenSanDiego · 06/10/2009 00:14

Oooh, I love birth videos. And they can be done tastefully and well, but I think I'm a bit desensitised to crowning babies and gaping fanjos and I might well be in the minority. Alright, I AM the minority.

Probably not suitable for a church christening but I could imagine this being quite lovely at an intimate welcoming ceremony with close friends if it's well edited or a slideshow of still shots and not too gory.

(Yeah, I know it's probably a wind-up though!)

Honeymoonmummy · 06/10/2009 00:17

Eeeew placenta teddy bear. Why, why, why?

Great thread

claw3 · 06/10/2009 00:25

48 hour labour, stirrups, ventouse, epidural, head spinning like the Exorcist, stitches, glass of wine and nibbles, lovely.

mangostickyrice · 06/10/2009 05:46

Well fuck me, is the placenta teddy bear real? Is it? Is it?

Podrick · 06/10/2009 07:16

I hope the video includes some foreplay and the actual conception or I fear your guests will feel cheated and excluded

tinkisautumnal · 06/10/2009 10:12

i wouldnt go for the birth video how about instead put together a dvd of pictures of her from newborn to now with music that would be lovely.
i appreciate that people have different views on things. u obvoiusly luv the idea og showing the video, like people have said it is better between you and your husband. you obviusly luv your little girl very much and just want to show that

alana39 · 06/10/2009 11:05

The placenta teddy bear looks like something from a serial killer film

Bessie123 · 06/10/2009 11:24

What is wrong with all these stupid people giving earnest opinions about whether ohcrumbs should show a birth video? This is clearly a wind up and Rhubarb has even posted to say it was a wind up yet people are still weighing in with their serious views on it.

Lighten up - it's supposed to be funny.

splodge2001 · 06/10/2009 11:25

None of us are in a position to judge. In truth the video could be widely different depending on how its edited. If its short and snappy with no graphic bits its prob fine. Your family are prob reacting to what they imagine in their heads its going to be like just like most of the people on here. Keep it short, keep it clean and you'll be fine

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