to feel a bit sad after my scan today.

[sally78]

We have a lovely DS but he is very hard work.

This pregnancy has been so so so different and DH had his heart set on a girl........we are having another boy.

We are so lucky to be having a healthy baby and I am sure DH will get over it. The thing is everyone keeps saying "oh I bet you would love a girl, oh it must be you have been so ill, your so much rounder this time" etc etc etc.

I do feel a bit sad, I keep thinking about ballet classes and doing hair for school etc and a little like I'm missing out

Its terrible to feel like this I know I am BU.

Don't deserve what? To give them a loving home with their father, two little sisters they worship, a safe environment which is consistent and stable...unlike their mother who moves a different boyfriend in with them every few months. Their mum shares joint custody with us as she doesn't want them full-time.
Last Xmas she told us we could have them for the whole holiday as she'd broken up with boyfriend No34 couldn't be arsed to do Xmas for them.
Don't comment in a moronic way about personal situations you know jack-shit about.

'one big yawn'

I am a little busy with a 2.5 yr old and a 12 month old to spend endless hours "stimulating" them during the holidays whilst providing their mother with free-childcare.
We go to the park, they help with their sisters....and all the time they talk to me about games, sci-fi...it's what interests them. I have no problem with that but it does bore me.
Fucking hell! Crime of the century. Clearly I'm doing an amazing job of hiding my boredom or they wouldn't be constantly chatting happliy about it!

I don't know my daughters will be more interesting at their ages but my DD1 is more so already. I love playing dolls houses with her and watching Pepa Pig and Bagpuss. I even enjoy endless tea-parties and pretending she's a princess.

get the rose-tinted glasses off, please.

some people really do live in a dream world.

Jude, your two girls may turn a corner in later life and be total goths, be well into Black Sabbath and Metallica. Who knows...

Pink eh.

Yeah they could end up like me!!

Roll on new tattoo and Whitby Goth Weekend!!! WOOOOO!!!

I hope to have grandchildren later in life but if DS turns out to be gay well that's my idea stuffed isn't it. tough luck, but you make do with what you have and don't try and mould these children into your ideal (boy or girl).

I provide feee childcare for them in the school-holidays for my step-sons whilst their mother and father work.
I do it because I love them. I still find their chat boring. I do try to engage them in other subjects but they always try to turn the conversation back to the 18 PC games/killings etc they're allowed to play at their mothers.
God I'm such a shit aren't i? My girls are not on pedestals either. They are young children. They test my patience every single day.

You can't help how you feel Sally, at least this way you have time to grow used to the idea. When I was expecting dc5 I was convinced I was having a girl, didn't ask sex at scans but had been right with all my other guesses. I got such a shock when a boy came out that I asked the midwife if she was sure and could she have another check . Although I was madly in love with him from the beginning it did take some adjusting in my mind that I had a boy not a girl.

Btw Don't let having boys spoil any plans you have. When I had my DS1 I sent him to ballet classes, he was born with long hair which we didn't cut for ages etc. DS3 was wandering round dressed as a ladybird the other day, complete with glittery wings and headband.

Congrats on the pg.

Jude for example..........

Stick with Peppa Pig Jude

ummmmmmmm I was starting to feel better before logging on and reading Judes comments!

My aunt sent me some lovely photos of Princess Di and her boys! I quite like the idea of being the only princess for a bit longer!

Sally please ignore Jude. Boys are brilliant. I love watching my boys play with each other and they are gorgeous and funny.

sally78, you are being completely unreasonable! You should be darn grateful you can have kids at all! Pull yourself together! If you had a daughter you could well end up with a big, fat, hairy lezzer one anyway!
With a bit of luck yours will be of the non-boring, smelly variety and if you're really lucky, you'll get a lovely gay one...ideal for shopping for clothes/soft furnishings, watching re-runs of "Mamma Mia" with.
Happy now?
Right...I'm off to watch the new series on Channel 5 and to revel in my good fortune at having two gorgeous, cute, delicate little daughters.

Why are you being so irritating Jude?

Sally wants some nice advice not this bollocks.

damn, did i miss the latest installment of "i'm a boy-hating twunt, look at me bask in my smugness at having girls" ???

what a shame

Perhaps she should have posted on a support forum for the parents of just boys then and not here...?

Is this a support forum?

or was it more of a

"i know this one boy, and he stinks. ergo ALL boys stink and are boring"