to feel a bit sad after my scan today.

[sally78]

We have a lovely DS but he is very hard work.

This pregnancy has been so so so different and DH had his heart set on a girl........we are having another boy.

We are so lucky to be having a healthy baby and I am sure DH will get over it. The thing is everyone keeps saying "oh I bet you would love a girl, oh it must be you have been so ill, your so much rounder this time" etc etc etc.

I do feel a bit sad, I keep thinking about ballet classes and doing hair for school etc and a little like I'm missing out

Its terrible to feel like this I know I am BU.

My ds has been brill from birth, slept through the night since i had him, my brother when he was young was the opposite, very hard work, all children are different

dd was (and in many ways still is) my most difficult child much moodier - more demanding

no interest in fashion or looking tidy till recently

god i love her to bits but she has been a trial!!

girls bedrooms

revolting places - really disgusting

some days i dare not look in

boys clean and tidy ( i am allowed to generalise - i have a LOT!) [GRIN]

I think my friend has had troubles bonding with her DS2. She should have found out the sex but said she imagined the euphoria of the labour/birth would carry her through any disappointment if it was another boy.
Guess she was wrong. Thing is, she imagines I must have felt the same way when I found out my 2nd was a girl. I wasn't. I was delighted.

it could have been worse, your friend could have not fallen pg atall and not had a second child, Jude68

And my step-sons keep their rooms like a slum. I go in there as little as possible as i've enough to do looking after babies to be running round after kids that should know better. If they choose to leave dirty plates all over the place and leave their clean clothes on the floor with their dirty ones, so be it.
Am dreading the teenage years...the stale smell of BO/feet/semen....shudder!

I have never known anyone to be so negative about boys as you are Jude.

Boys ROCK!

Kayzr I second that!

Yeah and she could have developed breast cancer after a 3rd failed IVF like another friend of mine..your point is?
If it upsets someone it upsets them. Comparing their problem to someone worse off is irrelevant and serves no purpose.

I think certain posters are being extremely smug and insensitive. Not naming names or anything like that...

But the point is the OP is upset that she isn't going to have a daughter. She doesn't need someone to come along going "Boys are boring, boys clothes are boring, girls are the be all and end all" does she?

exactly. smugness isn't called for in this situation, because it will just make OP feel even worse now. subtle as a brick some posters on here

Well, you know what people say about "mums and their boys" And it isn't that they have trouble bonding.

I love my boy. He cute and cuddly and fab in every way imaginable. An dI love my girl too... in spite of her rather unnatural attachment to all the girly things I hate.

What I can underestand is being disappointed not to have one of each. But neither is better than the other. However, lots of people have already pointed out many benefits of having two of the same gender.

People that protest too much about one gender or another tend to be the kind of people who have fears or inadequacies about their life already. Rather than writing someone off for being male/female, just see them as a human being.

What a strange view to have though, thinking one gender superior to the other...

when I said to my gran I was having another little boy she said to me 'oooh, dear bergen, you'll have three sets of shirts to iron!'

smelly feet bo SEMEN ? dont think id recognize the smell of semen to be honest my ds1 is 18 and his room is immaculate ds2 who has autism loves tidying up and is a fantastic help sorry second time ive posted but there really are strange things being said on here

Jude you are in for a SHOCK

nothing dirty about boys as i said below

someone actually told me today that my ds1 (17) could be construed as being 'almost too perfect'

BO etc not with my boys

dd's room a far far scarier entity

Frankly you dont deserve those boys
If i was their birth Mum i would not want you around them

If you want to believe that, fair enough.
I just prefer girls. Can't help it. I had a younger brother (20 months age difference) and we never got along especially well as kids. I yearned for a sister. I'm glad my daughters will have each other (hopefully) as best friends for life.
My step-sons are very happy, well-adjusted kids who I get along with just fine. They are messy, filthy scamps too though and I have yet to prise any kind of "interesting" chat out of them although they (the youngest in particular) talks to me endlessly about pc games, levels, what he's going to buy next with his pocket money etc...one big yawn.

Children are a blessing not a right, be grateful.
I have two boys, DH would have loved a girl but it was not to be, it is not a big deal and I am sure you will get over it

tbh i don't know why they waste their breath
why don't you stimulate them and get them off the screens - give them something else to talk about