to feel a bit sad after my scan today.

[sally78]

We have a lovely DS but he is very hard work.

This pregnancy has been so so so different and DH had his heart set on a girl........we are having another boy.

We are so lucky to be having a healthy baby and I am sure DH will get over it. The thing is everyone keeps saying "oh I bet you would love a girl, oh it must be you have been so ill, your so much rounder this time" etc etc etc.

I do feel a bit sad, I keep thinking about ballet classes and doing hair for school etc and a little like I'm missing out

Its terrible to feel like this I know I am BU.

Very good point, herbie.
I have a girl, and when she took an interest in playing the clarinet, I took an interest too. When she decided Lego was her new toy of choice, I played bloody Lego. It's what, as a parent, you do. It has absolutely fa to do with gender.

lockets! xx

So if I'm such a twat to them, why do they love coming shopping with me and to the park with the girls? Why do I spend hours helping with their homework and making fancy dress outfits for them? Why do they both give me a massive cuddle before they go to bed each night?
Clearly despite being perfect I'm doing an adequate job in their eyes and the eyes of their father.
I can not be interested in stuff I'm not but I can pretend I am....that's love in my opinion.
You can think what you like. I know the true reality of our lives.
The majority of you who NEVER feel bored with their kids are the smug ones talking complete shit.
That's me done.
Life's too short to waste time with sancimonious bullshitters.

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No I'm not talking shit. I never get bored with my boys. No matter how many times ds1 asks where this comes from or why does this happen. I love them and therefore I find them interesting and I will continue to do so as they grow up.

Hopefully Judes DDs will not take after her and be sexist smug twats when they grow up.

Why don't you all just ignore Judes? She's making my teeth itch but you're just stirring things up by swapping insults with her.

sorry but i think yabu, though this may be because when my close friend had her 20 weeks scan the baby had died. She is now on a subsequent pregnancy, and the main concern of hers at her 20 week scan was that the baby was ok. The baby is which is fantastic , the fact that it is a boy is irrelevant to her

sally78 stop your mooching 2 boys are fab!

In fact the the 2 boys brigade is a very special and exclusive club, and with out exception all us mums in the 2 boys club members get on like a house on fire!

Stuff the girls are for life milarky. Boys are really protective and caring of their mums. And best of all, you get to play evil MIL and make the potential DILs jump through hoops to try and please

Boys not interesting

This morning my DS7 was using his building blocks to make a dam and couldn't understand why the water kept seeping through - you want interesting thought provoking questions? - He makes up all these little experiments. They both love wildlife, gardening, the moon, cars, sewing (yes), sim city, transformers, anne of green gables, listening to anything that breathes with their stethescope......boys not interesting.....Bah!

Felt like you once. But have gone soooo far the opposite way now that when people ask me the 'don't you wish you'd had a girl?' question I find it odd.

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can i have a members card love my boys ,sigh. got to go to bed now and will be planting kisses on their gorgeous little faces

This comment is right on I think..
'I was wondering whether we had a case of "He who doth protest too much..........." secretly Jude is gagging for her very own gorgeous, cuddly, affectionate, handsome and incredible little boy'

I wonder if jude feels her DH may have a preference for boys/feels defensive or something and 'needs' to prove her girls are better/as good as. Can someone really be that smug?

Anyway, Sally, I have 3 boys and they are fabulous. I was nervous about having two at once (twins) after two DDs (had a 3rd DD but sadly stillborn) but needn't have been. The fun and joy they have brought us is incredible. Of course my girls are fabulous too, but I can't say I have enjoyed having any gender more than the other, both are fantastic. All boys/all girls are great too as they seem so close and play together much more.

You mean you haven't got one yet squiglet? I'll send it ASAP

Fucking hell Jude - you really are vile.

I wonder what the opposite of a mysogynist is ...but then I really agree with the previous poster and think it's more a case of "he who doth protest too much".

You're going to come crashing down when you realise your princesses can't stay on their pedastels forever ...

yes it could be the case that Jude does suffer from feelings of inadequacy I think, as I have already previously mentioned.

If someone has to persist like this about how great girls are, they are obviously disguising their jealousy of not having the opposite sex.

I wish people would stop bleating on and just be happy with their lot.

Haven't read the whole post, sorry.

But yes you are being unreasonable, of course if someone has their heart set on something they'll be a little disappointed if it doesn't happen for them......but we are talking about a baby, a new life.

I had a scan at 37 weeks only to be told my baby had died, so consider yourself very lucky indeed that you have a healthy child.

Brie that's awful news. I'm so sorry And your story is one that really knocks the OP's thread into perspective. A life is a life, regardless of gender.

My 1st child[a daughter]died at 13 days old nearly 19 years ago.I now have to fab boys and am very very lucky.
Bree

What pedestal have I placed my daughters on? I have previously stated that the pre-teen/teen years are likely to be pretty grim. I also accept that (some) little/big girls can be sulky, moody, spiteful, bitchy, less affectionate and cuddly than little boys and I STILL prefer girls.
My partner loves all of his children equally and has no preference. I would have felt the same had I have given birth to a son too.
What a load of tosh about jealousy on my part. The way I see it, I have the best of everything. I get my two daughters, they have two brothers who mutually adore each other all without the hassle of having to give birth and go through the nappy stage with four kids. I got two of them fully toilet trained already.
I am very lucky and I know it.