to make dh iron his own shirts even though I'm a SAHM?

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He's currently ironing in the kitchen and muttering to himself and wants the MN consensus on this.

Hmm. Perhaps I do do a leetle too much (says she who has just sat down after painting the stairwell, hall and landing)

But DH gives me the thin lipped face when I suggest he could do a touch more. Weekends for him, as far as I can tell, are for him to play golf and watch telly.

Don't get me wrong, he's a good man, but I think part of him is still stuck in his bachelor days in a flat. When he was growing up they had a maid and a gardener/handyman to do all the maintenance chores so I don't think he ever saw his parents take time out of their weekends to do these things. (He lived in SA where it was quite common for this to be the case.)

Partly it's that he just doesn't 'see' that things need to be done, I think, and partly that, having been a single mother who is very capable of doing all kinds of stuff, he leaves it to me because he 'won't do it to my specifications'. Which is, actually, boolocks.

Sorry. Little rant there. Do excuse.

PlumpRumpSoggyBaps my ex used to use that excuse too ,just before he went to his golf.
I am capable but it would be nice for the man to be man...

I know what you mean, alypaly. I was sawing down the rest of the tree this morning and I did think 'hang on a minute...' I mean, he knows I've been sawing it in bits and pieces for ages, but not once has he gone out and done a bit himself.

Time for A Chat, I reckon.

dh irons own clothes i iron mine and ds1 every night for next days school ds2 usually avoids ironing like the plague and i will occsionaly iron a tshirt for him in his case i try to make sure he hangs up his clothes in his wardrobe to prevent creasing

It depends how old your DCs are to say if YABU or not. If they are at school then I would say you have enough time to iron some shirts , if its toddlers or non sleeping babies then not so clear cut.

I don't iron anything. DHs shirts hang up over the ironing board, sometimes the cleaner has enough time to do them ( she does 3 hours per week) if she doesn't they hang there until either my Mum does them which believe me I'm not all that happy about, or DH cracks and irons one, generally when there are none left in his wardrobe and he does it in the morning. I work 4 days a week though and when I was on mat leave I ironed them.

Wearing ironed shirts to work may not be the worker's choice. I would prefer to wear unironed casual stuff, but that won't do. Her indoors tends to do 95% of the ironing and complains when I even suggest doing it myself, which I cannot fathom. If you are a team, one working at the office, the other keeping house, then you choose what works best for you as a couple. If he's only grumbling with half a smile on his face, he probably doesn't mind really, so he could do the lion's share of it. Personally, I like ironing. It gives me a chance to watch football :-)

PlumpRumpSoggyBaps .....BIG chat before its too late like me.

I would say it depends - if he doesn't do anything else around the house then YANBU, however, if he is generally helpful and tries to alleviate the stress of motherhood when he can then I would say YABU.

I am in a position of having a very good husband who is helpful with regards to most things, so when he asks me to iron (poor thing has a mental block when it comes to ironing) I never resent it (in saying that though I can only recall 4 times over the past year when he has asked me to iron for him).

I htink the deal should be if ONE of you stays at home you do MOST of the housework.

YANBU.

We divide chores according to what we enjoy doing. I iron DHs shirts (even though we both work full time and I am a feminist). It's a job I dont mind, I stick Radio 4 on and zone out for half an hour.

DH does most of the cooking and tons of other chores. Oh and I hung 6 pictures on Saturday!

I am SAHM
DH works long hours in physical job
I do 99% of housework and its fine, it suits us!

I'm a SAHM and I iron DH's shirts. Largely because he is such a bloody perfectionist that when he does it it takes about half an hour per shirt and ends up looking like it's come straight out of a packet. For some reason this irritates the hell out of me.

The only time the housework/ironing thing bothers me is at weekends. Then, I think it should be shared evenly - we should both have the chance of a bit of a break. Otherwise, DH has fun with the kids and I just do more of the same, except with less time because we're fitting in weekend stuff as well.

yabu
I am a SAHM and Iron dh's shrits(I hate ironing shrits) cos it helps him.

No one should iron.

My DH works crazy hours so I wouldn't expect him to iron his shirts - but at the same time I don't iron them either - HE pays to send them to wash/iron service (£1 per shirt) and i consider £5 per week good value as it takes me ages to do them to "business meeting" standard. I appreciate though that for many mums every penny counts - but often the husbands can easily save £5 a week by making sacrifices themselves. I find myself scrimping to save money and then realise my DH is buying sarnies at Pret every day - he can jolly well pay £5 per week to have his shirts ironed!!!!!

yab a bit u. I am sahm with young ones here and I do the ironing. Dp works long hours though and I see my job as caring for LO's and doing the "essential" chores. Clean ironed clothes come under that banner, but it might mean the dusting gets left or whatever. I do make sure I stop by a particular time in the evening so I do the things we NEED first. My house isn't always spotless, but it's a work in progress! ;O)