to make dh iron his own shirts even though I'm a SAHM?

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He's currently ironing in the kitchen and muttering to himself and wants the MN consensus on this.

dh does his own. I do everything else.

Except last night it was clear that the ironing was getting out of control, so we borrowed a neighbours iron and board and had an ironing competition - see who got more done in the time it took to watch a movie.

We're both fairly competitive and we got through loads. Nobody will iron here for another few weeks.

I love how nothing gets mn going like an ironing thread! Check out how fast its moving!!!

YANBU. DP ironed his own shirts before he met me and he still does. I can't iron a shirt for toffee. He has years of experience and does a good job. Did do it once when he was very very busy, as a surprise. Put it on the hanger for him to find in the morning. He did not even notice I had ironed it and did it again. Was in bed feeding DD and could have called down to him I suppose.... If he does something for you likewise then fair enough (can't think what that might be though!)

AnyFucker - same here, mine thought my speed ironing didn't produce good enough effects, so he does his own shirts/trous for work Great for me, I hate ironing shirts, or anything for that matter, the fkg boredom of having to stand in one place for an hour!

I'm a SAHM and my DH not only does his own ironing but all his own laundry. I launder my and the kids' clothes and the bed linen and towels, and I don't iron any of it. He launders his own clothes and either irons his own workshirts or puts them in a bag with hangers for the cleaner to take home with her to iron.

YANBU

I'm always amazed on ironing threads how many people don't iron anything.

How does this work? Do you only buy/wear clothes that contain lycra so don't need ironing?

My mother thinks I'm slovenly because I don't iron the children's pyjamas and fitted sheets. Even I draw the line at those.

Option A - Ironing service comes to mind. Option B - Get down to M&S & stock up on non iron shirts. Retrieve from washing machine asap and hang to dry. Does the job.
Option C - Iron the minimum of 5 shirts a week - should take 30 mins max!

No one should be a domestic slave. Everyone in a house should do some chores once they are over the age of four. Obviously the amount that a four year old does is pretty nominal, but its the principle.

We avoid ironing like the plague.

Do you shop for his food? Do you cook for him? Do you only make your side of the bed each day?

And what financial contribution do you make to the household? For me, and I realise I may be in the minority here, when I was a SAHM, I considered that since my DH was entirely responsible for brining home the money, it was the least I could do, to ensure that things like shirts etc were ironed and as much housework as possible was done before he got home in the evening. Once he was home, we shared whatever tasks were left, but usually it was washing up, or putting the children to bed.

Now that they are older and I am working again, he does much more housework, including all the ironing. But as a SAHM, I really did consider it part of my remit.

sayithowitis

I always find these sort of threads very enlightening I am a sahm and even when ive worked i do all the ironing ....dh never/rarely irons anything.

YANBU.

DH takes his to the local dry cleaners to get washed & pressed. Once, when I was heavily pregnant I picked them up for him. The chap at the cleaners looked at my huge bump & said, 'oh, I guess you'll be doing the ironing soon then'! Cheeky sod...just because I was going to be at home, rather than officially working he thought I should be ironing my husband's shirts. I soon put him right

DD is now 2 years old, I am a SAHM and I have not ironed anything one of DH's shirts in that time.

meh

sayithowitis - OP is looking after their children, which were she not doing for no financial reward they'd have to pay somebody. Such is the way of the world.

Omg octopus I must be really 'tense' lol I make beds up first thing of a morning

I am a SAHM
But the dc`s are at school
So I iron dhs shirts
BUT I make sure he knows as I hate ironing

Those who say that the DH has a job and brings in the money so therefore it's part of a SAHM's job description to do certain things like ironing do have a logical point.

I would counter that point however, because I would never apply for or accept a job that included ironing as part of the job description. The decision to stay at home (for me anyway) was about what was best for the kids/general family dynamics and I never considered the ironing needs of the household for even a second. If DH was ever foolish enough to imply that ironing was part of my new job description I would hand him my resignation and reapply for the post of mother to the family only, which he would be obliged to hire me for as nobody else would want the job.

Who brings in what proportion of the family's revenue is lower than the emotional cost of their work. DH enjoys his job much, much more than I enjoy being a SAHM. I'd (possibly) be a little more supportive in a laundry-related way if he was exhausted or drained by his job, but he's a total workaholic and can't wait to bound off every morning. Anyway, even not working I bring in about the same (or a bit more) as him financially, I don't believe that means he owes me anything laundry-wise?

i HAVE to iron.... i HATE the unironed look, i think it looks messy, but thats just me, i also HATE ironing so i just iron as we go, whatever we are wearing that day i will iron it before we get dressed in the morning, or maybe the night before, i will do my dp's shirts because he works so that i can stay home.
also agree with what traceybath said
can't believe the amount of ppl who don't iron... at all!

I should definitely proof-read, or get some sleep.

No you are not AT ALL BEING UNREASONABLE.

I LOATHE ironing and am a SAHM, 2 DS's aged 2 and 7.

And even though £ is tight I get his shirts ironed at the cleaners, not washed I do that, 20 shirts for £12.

My DH likes a perfectly ironed shirt and I hate it so he either does it himself - NOT or they go to the cleaners, and they are BLOODY FAB when they come back!

Worth every friggin penny!

I can't iron. Dh does all his clothes and often my work stuff too. He also cooks tea every night. I do washing up, laundry and we split the rest. I work 3 days term time only. I am amazed that people can find time to look after small children and do all the housework. They must not get time to mn often

PS: I don't iron anything at all! If you hang stuff up whilst drying it is fine. No iron kids school shirts, what else needs ironing?!??!

It is the worlds most thankless pointless task.

I love the idea of extreme ironing, apparently a legit sport, typical blokes making ironing competative

"I can't iron" ???? why not?

FWIW I iron for all of us, no big deal, DH goes to work and college, I work PT from home, DH does the shopping, I do decorating, DIY, bills etc.. it works. I don't know enough about your life to know whether you are being unreasonable or not.