to make dh iron his own shirts even though I'm a SAHM?

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He's currently ironing in the kitchen and muttering to himself and wants the MN consensus on this.

Yes carocaro.... and once you've worn it for half an hour nobody can tell anyway. I just find ironing really tedious. I'll be halfway through something and have ironed in a steadfast crease that I can't get rid of, then I'll put the spray or steam on and limescale deposits will shoot out of the iron and then I always seem to burn my hand... ectzzzzzz.

Non iron shirts are the way to go. Hang clothes on hangers out of the washing machine (don't use the fast spin) or on the line. My mum had five under five (kids that is) no washing machine, before the days of disposable nappies and she used to iron everything.

....meant to say, I wonder how she did it (and we had no washing machine!)

No ironing in this house.

I used to iron dh's shirts when ds was little and still napped, but stopped when he got to an age where he might pull the iron off the board on top of himself. After ds stopped napping, i was too bloody tired to iron once he was in bed. So faced with the choice of doing them himself, or wearing them unironed, dh has chosen to wear them unironed.

I used to make dh's packed lunch too, but he complained that if I made the sandwiches the night before they were soggy and could i make them for him in the morning. Erm no, make them yourself.

I don't agree with the dh works therefore dw has to do everything else. If dh was single, he would have to do a hell of a lot more round the house than he does just now.

I do wonder what people do with their children for, what - minimum 8 hours a day, that they can't finish the laundry. Is it non stop gluing and sticking and HIlarious toddler groups? I'd rather the ironing tbh.

if you have time to MN you have time to iron his shirt

does he bring you home his work to do?

You could say that about a lot of things scottishmummy.

Don't SAHMs get a little bit of down time too?

down time by all means but get the ironing done,stop fannying about on MN if there is ironing to be done

I see no point in ironing DH's shirts if he is happy to wear them unironed.

Lazy.

he pays your mortgage,food broadband,sole earner well the very least you can do is iron his shirts.

I work f/t. I iron when I can, and sometimes send stuff out when too busy.
I iron my dh's clothes quite happily, in the same way that he does lots of things for me quite happily (eg fills the car, deals with all my tedious paperwork,mends things).

Why is ironing seen as a symbol of repression?
I like ironing. I like clothes to look nice. I feel proud to see him on his way looking ince in clothes that i have washed and ironed for him.

I always iron my OH's shirts, but then i do a huge wash, put on my V+ and iron the lot as i'm catching up with my soaps

I do my ironing on a monday evening - kids in bed, DH at work, Radcliffe and Maconie on the radio - bliss!

I am a SAHM and my DH works long hours so I do bulk of housework, cooking etc. I don't feel repressed - it's my choice cos I want to spend DCs early years with them.

DH does plenty housework/gardening/ cooking/ child care when he is around so I don't mind ironing his shirts - he only has 4 work shirts so we have to have a quick turnaround!!

isnt that the inherent deal sole wage earner out of house.sahm does the domestic stuff, clue is in the self evident home mum. so if your mortgage,bills,food,broadband all paid by your dh external endeavour least you can so is iron 5 fucking shirts. stop bleating about your lot as sahm, if you no likey get a job and flex your economic muscle that way

So I, as a sahm

Do all cleaning
shopping
washing
cooking
household admin
childcare
taxiing to/from activities/school
look after all pets etc etc etc

and because I don't iron dhs clothes (do my own and dcs, btw) I am shirking my sahm duties and being lazy?
Luckily dh considers himself able and independent enough to iron a few bloody shirts.

Sheila Maids (and equivalents)are poles of wood suspended on the ceiling by a pulley system (google it and see!) on which you then use to hang peg laundry driers or coat hangers.

You peg your clothes onto the plastic driers or coat hangers which air dry clothes crease free. If you have one fitted upstairs dc can take dried clothes off themselves and fold and put away.

Carbon neutral too! Some people have them in the kitchen by the Aga but clothes will take on odour of cooked food, so they are better fixed to the ceiling upstairs (if you have enough height) or in a utility room.

They are ideal if you have a tall ceiling, busy life, big family or you hate ironing or all of above.

if you are at sahm you do associated stuff.you cant legitimately list and complain about childcare and house stuff,as if you are being put upon.if you dont work and chose sahm well that is your remit. you offer your sahm responsibility in return for mortgage etc

how can you equally "own" what you dont earn.you have an apportioning system that suits,fair enough.but the recipient of salary is the worker,you both then decided how to apportion

Most women do fuck all around the house these days and spend their time whingeing about how useless men are.

I can't believe how slovenly most homes are and how little the SAHMers do.

Because a sahm doesn't 'earn' a salary it doesn't make them a volunteer,the salary the worker gets should therefore be seen as payment covering both worker's and sahm's services.

Both sahm and worker do 'work' and need time off, therefore as soon as the worker comes home, the worker will have to share household/childcare responsibilities from then on with the sahm to be fair. Otherwise the resentment will be awful!

I can't believe how bossy and prescriptive some sahms on this thread are.

There is also a worrying assumption that sahp are not making a financial contribution to the household, when clearly they are.

Being the person who works outside the home doesn't mean you work harder, have more responsibility or are more important.

This thread is depressing.

my dad always did all the families ironing, my mum was a SAHM...
DH irons his shirts, nothing else gets ironed, we both work, but I work less than him...