Sabire, [Ah yes - the 'bf nazi', or 'bf militia', who slings her tits all over the place while bf her 6 year old twins whilst simultaneously casting the evil eye at any mother who dares to get a bottle out for her baby.]
You have obviously been to the village I lived in in Cornwall, and have met the lady in question, except she had the baby and a three year old.
The reason, Princess Pea Head that I used the language I did (and it was not disgusting, I can supply that should you wish), is that it got to the point that I would hide when I saw these ladies walking down the street, as I knew the topic of conversation would be 'have you decided yet to bf'. This, over a period of about 7 months got very wearing. I used the term mafia, because if you disagree with them something bad happens. That is how I felt with those two. I also used the term evangelical, so you could have chosen either word.
I don't know how you feel if every time you say you are thinking about doing 'x', only to be told that you are daft, and you MUST do 'y'. Back in 1995 when I was pregnant, there wasn't a huge amount of information given out; only rather dogmatic advice. I dislike being told I HAVE to do something, without being given adequate reasons, so I didn't bf.
I find it sad that whilst women who ff are supportive of those who bf (as there are a variety of reasons why one can't bf), some of those who bf can't extend the same courtesy to those who make a different choice. Motherhood is hard enough surely without making other mums feel guilty for choices taken in the past, or choices they have to make now. A friend has just had a baby by donated sperm. I was supportive of her choice, just as I was of her choice to bf. What really irked me was that she too got all righteous about women who don't bf and had a dig at me for not bfing 13 years ago. That's why those of us who ff get cross.
You - I hope it all goes well with your daughter and I agree entirely with the last paragraph of your post.