To wish DH had given me a push present...?

[deliakate]

A small part of me feels aggrieved that he didn't. He used to be so generous.......

like WhereYouLeftIt mentions, DH bought me a (lasting and incidentally sparkly) present to mark a momentous occasion in our lives, not to thank me for my hard work

'push present' is a ghastly expression

I bet people who use it have 'baby showers' too - it's the expectation of a gift implicit in both that is so boak-worthy

Only in America eh?

My DH deseverd a present after I pushed our DS out and also nearly pushed my foot right though to his spleen,......there's a present for you ya fucker dear

Do you only get one if you push?! lol what a strange thread?!

DH said "WHAT?! She's just given birth and she's worrying about presents? Christ, she sounds high-maintenance!"

I should get two in a few weeks then

I think the idea of expecting a present is really quite horrible.

However I did sob like a newborn myself when we came home with ds, it felt like it should be such a special occasion, and within ten mins of stepping through the door ds was asleep in his moses basket, dh was on the computer and I was sitting on the sofa. I blamed the hormones at the time. Months later we were watching a program and someone brought their newborn babies home from hospital and the dad had put a big bunch a flowers on the table, had a big banner saying welcome home and popped a champagne bottle to celebrate. Dh did say "I really should have done something nice for you shouldn't I?" Bless him!

Still, after I'd sobbed my eyes out that first evening he did buy me a take away curry and a beer, and we sat there eating while ds slept soundly and we congratulated ourselves on how easy this parenting lark really was, Oh how we came to regret our initial smugness

Does the size of the present depend on how long you push for?

PrincessToadstool - lol

My DH bought me a half bottle of red and a lunchbox full of cheese biscuits and yummy ripe oozy cheese the 3rd night after DS was born and we had to stay in hospital after DS had lost over 10% of his birth weight. I had spent most of that day sobbing everywhere. 3 day blues.

I cried like a baby myself - it still seems like the kindest thing anyone did for me in that post partum period.

I did receive a beautiful eternity ring for our anniversary several months later which I wasn't expecting.

BTW nobody actually uses the term "push present" do they????

Anyway, I'd be another one getting a "slashed open" present... as I didn't push anything.

It's 2009, really I think it's time for the infantilisation of women to end. That women are infantilising themselves in this way - please please look what I did do I get a doggy treat - is really disturbing.

Me too......

Dh smuggled some gin and tonic into hospital for me. Does that count?

If we're getting down to the nitty gritty I did push for two hours before getting slashed open, can I have a push present as well as a gash gift?

I also did something else dh did not do so is there a cracked and bleeding nipples present on offer too, perhaps a boob bounty?

...or even a poo present for presenting DH with a massive stinking turd?

I had never heard of the term "push present"
When my mother came to visit me on the ward she brought with her along with DS's "coming home" clothes, a silver fairy pendant for me, as a well done but I think that may have been because there was concern when I was younger as to whether I could give birth, it included a card saying how pleased she was of me.
I thought it was a really nice thing and was glad she said well done, it was bloody hard work and I deserved some recognition, regardless of how many millions of other women have done it!!
DH had bought me a huge bunch of flowers which were waiting for me when I came home.
Girls at work bought me a bottle of champagne.
So I was very spoilt!!

Orm, I like your dh's style Mine brought me cakes from M&S (but I did have to threaten to kill him if he didn't go and get me something edible NOW!)

Demmitgel OK I am going to play devils advocate. Is it really infantilising women? Grabby, undesirable and vulgar as it may be to expect a gift, the fact is that you have grown and delivered a child. It's quite a big thing. Men just get to do the fun bit, then wait 9-10 months and get the brandy and cigars in.

They can then spend the next few months occasionally posing in a sling in Waitrose while everyone ooohs and aahhhhs and remarks on what a natural father they are.

A little bauble could be considered a nice gesture?

Oh and pregnant with DC2 atm so this time round i'll most likely get bugger all!

Cringe this must be coming from the US

This is an old English tradition - eg. Henry VIII, who gave his wives some lovely gifts for having his babies. Some not so lovely, however....
I don't see it as a 'thank you' present, but more as a token to mark the event of beginning life as a family.
But I do feel bad about having expected a gift - a little spoiled, I concede.

push present is just a horrible horrible phrase. never heard it before how grim.

makes me wonder if i should be giving DH a small gift when he comes out of particularly tricky sessions in the bog.

Ooh, I really don't care for the term either, but thought it was much more common than it seems to be.

@northerner 'gash gift'!!!

filthy laughter so loud my bath-wallowing DH has asked me what is so funny

CommonNortherner thank you for the lol @ "gash gift" and "boob bounty"

Deliakate - I think it is more common actually but MN can be a bit hair shirty at times.

Oh come on, is nobody going to argue with me?