To wish DH had given me a push present...?

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A small part of me feels aggrieved that he didn't. He used to be so generous.......

I didnt even get a balloon!! was very upset and he has been warned I want its a girl/boy balloon this time or else!! Lol Men are crap arent they?

DH got me a gold locket the day after the DTs were born, to keep a lock of my Ds hair in and his picture as he died nine hours after birth. No I didn't feel used and abused just felt how thoughtful of him and how I hated the fact he had to buy such a thing.

I didn't want anything as I stated earlier on this thread I would rather we use the money to fund more time off work.

Hate the expression push present though. Yucky.

Sorry just to add I will be getting a gold sovereign in an horrendous mount on a chain when anything happens to my Mum as apparently they were all the rage in the early 70s. So that is what my Dad bought her. She bought a 2004 gold sovereign for DD when she was born as that was what her/my gift had been.
My Dsis will get an emerald ring. How times had changed across 11 years

thats lovely of him charley- who knew a man could be so thoughtful??
I got flowers after each and an eternity ring the xmas after dd1 was born (3 and half months later)
Push present is yuck though!

I'm not able to read all 13 pages at this moment, tho I did make it through the first few. The term 'push present' is not attractive at all, but the idea of giving the mum a present when the baby is born isn't a new one. I think it's just been dormant for a while. :D At least one of my grandmothers had a locket that she was given at the birth of her son, and she kept his photo in it, along with his dad's photo.

I think it's a sweet gesture. I certainly wouldn't expect it (luckily- because my husband isn't the sort to come up with the idea on his own!)

You'll have to excuse me for being dim - what does YABU mean?

you are being unreasonable

thank you!

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This again?? Only a few months since the last discussion on diamonds for pushing, surely? Feels like it, anyway!

Not quite sure how this will come across but each time I got pregnant I got a Mulberry handbag (3) and after each baby an eternity ring (2) - love it! I don't see any problem with it, one should do what makes them happy or 'works for them'!

just the token flowers balloons and chocs are nice, id rather the money so he can have more time off with us, push present is a horrible name, and there is nothing clever about getting pregnant that warrants a present, we all do it, its a miracle yes but not one we need a star chart for! lol, best thing for me was buying for baby, not me! although two children and many years of life together, an engagement ring wouldnt go a miss!!!! hint hint!

I got an eternity ring two months after giving birth, wasn't at all expecting anything but it does mean a lot to me and I love it.

I am quite a tough type but found the last 8 weeks of pg, plus the birth, pretty hard (complications, undx diabetes, SPD, EMCS, infection in EMCS scar etc) yet was still up on my feet getting guests cups of tea and biscuits 3 days after CS etc and wasn't ever a "pg princess" type or indeed a "new mummy princess" type, so I think my DH wanted a permanent reminder of his appreciation at my, er, downright gumption. Anyway, my DH isn't the sort to shower me with jewellry etc so it was a lovely surprise.

I didn't expect a gift at all, and the term 'push present' makes me feel sick.

I don't recall DH giving me a present when DS1 was born, but as he was in such a hurry the whole thing was something of a blur. The best present possible was him having time off work at short notice and taking such good care of me and sprog! (To be honest, he spent a lot of time at the hospital acting as emergency councelling for a terrified 17 year old guy whose girlfriend was giving birth!)

However, when I had DS2 he bought me a pair of pale blue crocs. Completely unexpected shoes which fit are the best surprise imaginable!

I have never heard of it! It sounds very patronising.

Not a new thing. My mother got gifts for all 5 of us (probably deserved more) and for her 40th wedding anniversary what she wanted was a replacement for the bracelet she got for big sister that got lost on a beach years ago.
Had lush earrings for DS1, nada for DS2. One of my sisters got a pair of trainers, but it was what she really wanted

YANBU, and I think your post was very sweet.
'a small part' I felt like that too.
My mum has a trinket box with little bits n pieces from my dad, marking lots of different occasions, it's full of memory triggers. My husbands family don't have that tradition and although I am well brought up enough never to expect or deserve a gift a small part of me thinks yes that would have been nice to have a reminder of. Flowers fade and restaurant meals just add to your waistline.

Mine never took the hint for the birth for DD1 &2 or 10 year anniversary and I'm still cross that the engagement ring was secondhand and therefore probably stolen or with an unhappy story behind.

Reader, I went out, designed the ring, had it made with diamonds on the outside and on the inside daughters DoB's and a litlle star for the one I lost. I paid for it and I wear it all the time next to my wedding ring, they symbolise the two most important areas of my life.

So YANBU

HA! I think my push present was some sanitary towels and big knickers from Asda down the road an hour after DS2 was born because I forgot to pack some.

Just read Tidey's message from 13 September . That's excatly what mine would have said. well either that or 'Something else I haven't done then?'

I think whether or not you're being unreasonable depends on what your DP is like the rest of the time.

I think if DPs want to buy a present, that's lovely. But I think for it to be 'established' that men have to buy jewels when their partners give birth is a pretty retro and sexist tradition - makes me think of Don and Betty Draper from Mad Men.

Personally I would rather have no jewels and a partner who does his share of the childcare.

Why has this thread been resurrected.

Stop with the naffness.

Arf arf ! I won't be getting anything off DH because he simply won't think about it.

And if 'his mother' he does think to get me something it will be such a shock that it certainly would be a surprise !

That should have been

Arf arf ! I won't be getting anything off DH because he simply won't think about it.

And if his mother he does think to get me something it will be such a shock that it certainly would be a surprise !

Why are those blasted hyphens not working ?

his mother