To wish DH had given me a push present...?

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A small part of me feels aggrieved that he didn't. He used to be so generous.......

Head I look forward to hearing how you get on!

o fukkit.

Someone I know gave his wife a 'maternity ring' after his son was born. Ho ho ho...

Tinofspam

2 boys here (one of whom was over 10 goddamn pounds!) and not a diamond in sight.

Feel cheated.

Blimey, am surprised at the strength of feeling some posters have about people exchanging gifts on a special occasion!

My DH gave me a present, as he does on anniversaries, birthdays etc. I thought it was very sweet and I treasure it.

Of course expecting a present is a bit grim and grabby, but it's not something I'd ever think to take offence over!

Ah, maybe it was because they were both ventouse, so not so much push as pull....

I quite like the look of these stacking rings or this one from Links....

What do I have to push out of my nethers to get a new shed?

Agreed Ninthwave. Everytime I look at my eternity ring it takes me back to DS being born - which are magical memories. Just as other gifts bring back lovely memories.

It is a gift to mark an occasion. Simple as surely?

Ninth Its the fact there is actually a term for it and it is an expected thing - not just a spontaneous "Wow, I love you so much, you are amazing" gesture.

Next there will be "push" lists at the department stores - like wedding lists - so you can choose your reward for having a baby in advance, thereby ensuring you don't get any crap.
Grrrr.

I am a feminist, I am also a high maintenance PITA, kept woman. The two are not mutually exclusive you know.

I like the shinies and I like getting them in a sweet little box with a ribbon and along with chocolates.

I sold my soul, but at least I got a good price!

I gave my DD a present for taking a shit on the potty. A push present.

Diamond rings??? i read somewhere, I got a huge bouquette of flowers and a present 'from newborn'
that made me feel really special. A ring is too much i think (looks away and turns )

Ah, now I don't agree with the principle behind wedding lists either so I see where you are coming from.

But if it's just to mark a special occasion does the father also receive a present?

Would my dp have demanded his push present back as I laid there and said tell me when it is all over (didn't push, ds forcepted (is there such a word?) out.... Ahh a 'cut and drag' present.... bl**dy stupid idea

And we're back to ejaculation present. Or spunk surprise. Which often it is.

I got a baby - what more can you ask for?

May I suggest this for the man in your life. A thank you for knocking me up present.

We're going off at a tangent here but my MIL said she got a gravy boat and was "thrilled."

I like to wind her up pretending that I am a high maintenence spolit wife who sits around dreaming up ways to spend her sons money.

She winds me up with thoughtless comments about my ability to breastfeed and that sort of thing so I figure we're even.

I don't think you should expect one but would be delighted if you did. I got a pair of earrings from the newborn not expensive but very thoughtful and treasured.

Got eternity ring when pg with dd2.

yes was very very common for women to receive presents certainly in Renaissance Italy after birth like this

obviously so the husband could show how pleased he was with his fertile wife... doubt he was so generous if a girl was born

she could display it to show she had performed her wifely duty

I don't think such things apply these days, though I can understand people wanting to give presents 'to mark the occasion' or 'to welcome the baby' - depends what you can afford I suppose

'push present' is the most VILE expression

I thought the tradition was the husband buys his wife an eternity ring when she has their first child?

Push present is a vile name though.

I got a diamond ring for each ds, but I never asked or expected them. I am going to have their names and dob engraved inside them.

Can't believe this thread has come around again - the last time I saw it was a few weeks before DS was born, so I made sure I bought DH a lovely watch from me and DS to mark the big change in our lives. Because that's what these gifts are about, isn't it?

DH didn't get me a gift. A bit of a surprise that he didn't, as for a while a few years back I did have him believing that "maternity" rings existed...but he has been very busy looking after us both beautifully for the past 6 months .