To wish DH had given me a push present...?

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A small part of me feels aggrieved that he didn't. He used to be so generous.......

I don't know about diamonds, but I thought that flowers or something was de rigueur. (Never mind childbirth, don't most people bring family members little gifts when they're stuck in hospital?) My husband brought me an envelope with vouchers for back massages with the local physio inside - he said that he thought I'd appreciate that more than flowers or chocolates after the grueling back labour, and he was right.

more info - no less icky - here!

LOL at "That kind of woman", I think I am probably that kind of woman. DH would be the first to tell you it has it benefits being married to one.

My dh left my wedding ring, grandmother's wedding ring and the necklace he'd bought me inside the pocket of the scrubs he'd put on when I got wheeled into theatre. We never got them back, so it's like a minus-present really!

In fact as dd was eventually born with the aid of a ventouse I wonder if I should have had a 'pull present'?!?

Don't think I got bugger all, but then dh had been awake for about 36 hours and had to sort out beds for his mum, mine and my sister, and was back in the hospital about 6 hours later so I think I'll let him off.

I agree with whoever said it's "princess-ification of grown women." It sounds like the sort of thing Katie Priceless would have demanded from that poor sap Andre.

It's like the bloody 50s - women using sex as a bartering tool!

I got an eternity ring, which i believe is tradition with your first child.

I think it's a romantic and lovely thing for a father to give the mother of his baby a gift. My DH gave me something small every time, he also bought the babies their first teddies (tiny ones) and I had flowers (always with cotton in them) and bouquet of balloons when I got home. I always stayed away a few days as I had c sections. So nothing expensive but enough to say thank you for bringing his baby into the world.

I wouldn't have been upset if he hadn't but it was really nice that he did and I felt very 'looked after' and 'special'....

I think Katie looks like the sort of girl who buys her own trinkets actually.

This is one of the funniest threads I think I have seen on here. Who knew that gifts could cause so much upset!

It gives me visions of legs in stirrups staring down the delivery bed at a big wrapped box with a sparkly bow on it.

UnquietDad Did you not think your wife was worth putting your hand in your pocket and buying something? Something to say thank you for giving up her body for nine months to safely assist your baby arrive in this world? Because whilst she may not have asked for a gift I bet she would have been very pleased if you'd bothered.

"Thank you, my good woman, you have served me well, and borne me a son and heir. Take this for your trouble"

FGS we are adults not idiots

I was in hospital for 5 days after having had DS and remember being a bit upset that I hadn't even had a bunch of flowers - everyone elses beds looked like florist shops. But that was probably just hormones I eventually got an eternity ring 4 months after DD was born (3years after PFB!)

"Thank you, sweetheart, for all the hard work and love you have put into making our baby"

How about

"I love you and I am very grateful that you kept our baby safe for nine months. You both mean the world to me."

posieparker, you asked your husband to "put his hand in his pocket" in return for you "giving up your body"?

You realise that pretty much makes you a prostitute?

Only at the weekend!

Surrogate would be more accurate wouldn't it bruxeur? I also assume you think of all stay at home wives/mothers as housekeepers, prostitutes, childminders etc?

Now we are having fun.

Not really, no. Nice straw man attempt, though.

My hubby gave a piece of jewellery after the birth of my babies.....I loved it!!. Everytime I wear them it makes me smile as it means so much to me.

I do have a Links charm bracelet with each of my dcs represented...

My dp gave me a little piece of jewellery after each of our babies too - but not because it was expected, or some foul American website told him to, or I hinted..........it's just commercialism gone mad. Yuck Yuck Yuck.

And, I'm sorry, but the "put your hand in your pocket" comment was particularly yuck!

My DP bought matching necklaces for myself, DD and my mum when I had her. I thought it was really sweet and didn't really read too much into it. It's just marking the occassion of three generations of women (and this probably sounds deeply naff, but they had a vague connection to DP/DCs surname, which I liked as we're not actually married). It sort of signified the family we are all very much a part of.

I don't know. It probably sounds weird to anyone else, but I liked it (and definitely didn't expect it).