to want to heave when someone talk about someone else being their 'soulmate'?

[moondog]

Usually with bovine misty look in eyes.
Invariably he then fucks off after about 3 weeks with a 17 year old .

You're right, I thought fuckmuppet was mine and he's now shacked up with a 25 yr old strumpet

Oh dear.
Mind you,I want to beat peopel who talk aobut their 'partner' around the nethers with a blunt instrument so tolerance was never my strong point.

Oh and if they have a baby with their 'soulmate' and then worry about him 'bonding' with the child i then self implode.

My theory is that there is an inverse correlation between how much people talk about these things and actually follow them through.

is this an indirect boast about you being bezzy mates with Brangelina moondog ?

What's wrong with partner . I've taken to saying partner cos saying "boyfriend" in my forties sounds kind of wrong and "manfriend" sounds even worse.

What's wrong with manfriend?

I've definitely got used to saying partner now, I think it was in the early days when it was first being used that it sounded vague and wet.

i would have defended soulmates as real up until the last few days

Soulmate slightly more preferable to 'rock', said like 'oh he's my rock' The Queen of hearts. Spewtastic IMO.

I've always thought it was boak until a friend said that I and another friend were his soulmates and that he could depend on us for anything - I was actually quite touched.

yanbn makes me make to boak too
and also i can't do anything without my dh/dp.
get a grip

moondog, I am soooooo with you on this

I lump together those fuckers who call you his "soulmate" after 3 weeks and who "swear on their kids lives he hasn't banged the 17 yo he keeps texting"

I would run a mile if someone called me this. What utter bollocks. And I make no apology to those who really think they have found their soulmate after 3 weeks. I am sure it happens.

Like one in a billion

This got me in trouble t'other day. I was rambling about how silly the whole soulmate businesss is and DH with an offended look in his hurt little eyes whined 'don't you think I'm your soulmate then?' I did a frantic 'oh I think I can hear the doorbell' routine. We don't have a doorbell. He still looks wounded now.

I like saying partner and also strenously avoid mentioning the gender of my partner

just for fun

I think I'm going to start referring to dh as my manfriend. Perhaps with a wink.

"Oh and if they have a baby with their 'soulmate' and then worry about him 'bonding' with the child"

I'll see your soulmate and raise you a hubby.

I hear that word, or read that word, I want to eat my liver with a teaspoon.

A soulmate is fine until he gets boring and old and turns into a husband

IME the most relvant part of one's being 3 weeks after meeting someone is not the soul.

the whole idea of a soulmate is ridiculous. how many people do you know who met their soulmate while plastered at the local nightclub for example? Isn't it funny how soulmates are always so close at hand and you don't have to travel to outer mongolia to find them, eh.

Lol at 'bovine misty look'

It proves that men are usually more daft tham women when it comes to romance.

I met DP 3 weeks before valentines day. He was banging on about how we could go out for a meal and gaze into each other's eyes, I pissed on his fire by ranting that valentine's day was a load of old tosh exacerbated by Clinton Cards and that valentines cards were best used to line cat litter trays. He looked sorrowful and called me cynical.

I went out with my friend on valentines night and we behaved raucously and laughed at the poor souls having their one romantic night of the year and obviously desperately trying to rekindle the flame.

Am cynic.

No YANBU at all. Though it is a good stupid-person indicator. Basically people who believe in 'soulmates' are the ones setting themselves and other people up for loads of unnecessary aggravation and unhappiness. These are the obsessive monogamists, who are so convinced by the idea of the Soulmate that they are forever dumping perfectly adequate partners for the next person they mildy fancy, as monogamists are too stupid to understand that it's possible to be sexually attracted to loads of different peope at the same time and you have a choice over what you do, so every time they get a commotion in their underwear over someone new, they decide that this one must be the soulmate and the current one becomes instantly disposable.
The flipside of the toxic soulmate' myth is, of course, that people who believe another individual is their 'soulmate' will often put up with hideous abuse from this individual because, after all, you can;t fight Lurrve.

yanbu up there with 'The One'.

I've find the one.

screech

Marriage has done this to me, I probably used to not mind.