to want to heave when someone talk about someone else being their 'soulmate'?

[moondog]

Usually with bovine misty look in eyes.
Invariably he then fucks off after about 3 weeks with a 17 year old .

"Other half" really pisses me off. Though I have been known to use OH on forums. Soulmate is a peculiar term - maybe if I had found a "soulmate" ever I would understand it?

I usually say partner or DP (on forums) but IRL when I say "The Tosspot" everyone knows who I am talking about.

I do love him but...

I dont know what DP refers to me as - probably the bitch

xxx

i am sure dh and i referred to ourselves as soulmates on one occasion
but he reckons he must have been really pissed.

a colleague introduced her new man to all as her Lover.
gah

Scottishmummy: Why so frightened and irritated by other people having different ways of organising their families?

i think co-parent sounds a bit wanky as a term.much as you appear not to like construct of "couplehood" or "monogamists"

i have not assumed fear and irritation, in your responses. yet you assume fear and irritation in mine?i suggest if that response is evoked that is your particular issue,not mine.

i didn't say that i had any beef with how somone else parents.

As I said, if you don't like the term, what would you suggest instead that doesn't derail a conversation into a 5 minute explanation?

i guess we are all different, my husband was/is my soulmate.

What's wrong with 'my son's father'?
Covers a host of evils.
I am similarly mystified as to why you feel the need to point out that you don't shag your kid's dad.It's as iffy as me pointing out that I do in fact regularly shag the father of mine.
The issue is, noone really cares who is or isn't shagging who.

i suggest you worry less about what nomenclature is applied

you had a discussion about relative merits of differentiating monogomy/monogamist as presumably you believed that to be pertinent. so is it ok for you muse about terms but i assert not keen on co-parent and its all oh so what do you suggest

in case you hadnt noticed,this a thread about terms and liking or liking them not

hence "the one" derided

She's dead right SGB.

SM: yes, I do think the distinction between monogamous/monogamist important when discussing terms. But I don't think it's unreasonable to ask someone who objects to one term what they suggest as an alternative.
Moondog: I have found '[DC's] father' to be reasonably workable, too, though I prefer co-parent. But I think you're wrong about no-one caring who'se shagging who. The rest of the world seems to be obsessed (regardless of parental status) with who's shagging who - why is your 'relationship status' the business of people you're buying a fridge from, or joining an internet forum with? Why is it an issue when you apply for a job (given that it's illegal to ask job applicants if they have children?)

i have repeatedly asserted no alternative term to co-parent.on basis i dont give a flying fuck

your term of choice you live with it

SGB, noone needs to give this info. I don't. I don't have a title or a new name or a ring.If someone asks me what my title is I often say 'Mr' with a poker face.
It's you who brings up shagging again and again and again on MN.
I well recall your first thread.You started as you meant to carry on.

ooh what was her first thread?

Moondog: I don't give the info, but the fact that's it's asked for demonstrates how obsessed the straightworld is with these things. Mind you, I get equally annoyed about being asked whether I'm male or female when it isn't relevant (ie on job applications for jobs other than sperm donor, wet nurse or provider of any kind of personal service).

Er, I recall my first thread on MN. It was a query about my DS' dribbling (he was a very dribbly toddler).

I'll let her answer that one.

But how come it is ok for you to go on and on about how pathetic monogamy is all the time?

If my soulmate were here now, he would be very cross with you, moon

Do people understand co-parent without the explanation then? Because you have to admit, your complete definition isn't implicit in the name. I mean, DH and I 'co-parent' - but we do shag (hurrah!).

Moondog: Thanks. That's why I differentiate between monogamy and monogamism.
TFM: Sometimes. I will admit that I'm trying to promote it as a useful term to cover both my situation and that of other people who are not in a couple-relationship with the other parent of a child but find 'XP' not appropriate as it can suggest a) unresolved bitterness and b) that the former couple-relationship is more important than the co-parenting relationship.
And yes I had a lovely afternoon a few weeks back at my co-parent's parents' wedding aniversary party featuring such choice comments as 'So you're the other daughter-in-law then'...