to want to heave when someone talk about someone else being their 'soulmate'?

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Usually with bovine misty look in eyes.
Invariably he then fucks off after about 3 weeks with a 17 year old .

Oh - malificience - you don't sound like a nutter but I think you and I have parted ways ideologically speaking....

partner to me is acceptable.implies equality and shared adult role and responsibilities

but hey end of the day it isnt what you say you do.
or what you call him indoors.
it is about what you both individually bring to a relationship of two adults

'soulmate' is usually used as an excuse for people to stay in dodgy relationships, as in 'but... he/she's my soulmate'

fatalistic and idealistic to assume only soulmate can understand

we have potential to know and be known by many - not just one

Malificend: I didn;t quite make myself clear. I use the term 'monogamist' to differentiate between the ordinarily monogamous ie people who happen to prefer monogamy and who are happy in monogamous relationships, and those nutjobs who are obsessed trying to convince everyone else ofthe infinite superiority and magical powers of monogamous relationships, always chasing the perfect One and in fact behaving like completely stupid tosspots.
You have posted before about your lifelong monogamous relationship. If you are happy in your life, great. But you often seem to expect praise for what is simply a mixture of certain preferances and the good luck to have found a partner who shares your outlook.

Glib - did you have to mention the H-word? I feel unwell.

And god, did I sniggerat the news about that the fat baldy Phil from Eastenders.
In 'Hello!' last week raving about soulmate partner and bonding over baby, and this week I ear he has fucked off!#

They sould call 'Hello!' 'Goodbye!' really.

Apparently she has gone back to her husband.

I also really enjoyed in masochistic way the picture of him diving into Thames in pair of ill advised Speedos.

Sorry NAO (is that you in that car? )

H word still has me feeling ill and now speedos thrown into the mix

now have image of a 'hubby' stood in speedos.

I am off to scrub myself with wire wool dipped in bleach.

With regard to the original post, my ex was my soulmate and he also ran off a yonger woman. In my case it was an 18 year old.

oi dizzy less of the 25-year old bashing! x

'bovine misty look' lol

I agree about the inverse correlation. Ha ha ha! XP talks a lot about being a dad. This is after arranging privately with me that my DH will fill the father role cos he is too busy. He also only saw DCs one time during the summer holidays ... Fine as it helps DCs to see DH as the person in the 'father role'. He uses talking about how great it is to be a dad to 'pull' or impress women

I've got nothing against the young curiosity, just the young who shag my husband Not at you by the way, just at life

dizzy - Yes, I know what you mean - my XP managed to leave me for a younger 'woman' when I was 21. I remember remarking upon that rather glibly to many people at the time.

My XP is still with her, it makes me a bit now as I know what an idiot and waste of time he still is. She might've thought it was fun and exciting to sleep with him in my bed, in my flat, and aid our break up at the time BUT now, 4 years later, I've got the last laugh cos she's still with him an he's still an idiot, cheat and a dependent useless wastrel!

The best punishment for your DH's 'bit' is to have your DH. Hopefully, forever!

and I use 'DH' sarcastically...

lol at the one
soulmate

etc
all doomed for divorce

I am married - not dead from the neck up

adn if you haev a DP farkign get married and stop pissing about

I just call the bloke 'the bloke', any other epithet would just sound wrong.

oh me too. I think, you mean, you get on fairly well and he hasn't let you down yet

although some people will put up with being let down over and over because he's their soul mate.

is there room in your bucket for another heave. Budge up their, make room for another vomiter

How about 'the one ... of several'

Just chuckling here reading back, and I have to add this one.

My old driving instructor not only said WE are pregnant. But WE had 7 stitches. I had to laugh (openly) at that one.

As scottishmummy said -

love and affirmation=great
schmaltzty unrealistic gushy terms= get a bucket

I too have noticed that the people who wax most lyrical about "... soulmate ... knew from the moment we met ... destined ... together forever ... we complete each other" (etc etc) have a far greater divorce/break-up rate than those who don't have such Mills and Boonish thoughts or, if they do, keep them to themselves.

I refer to my spouse as my hubby when I am trying to parody myself as a 50s suburban housewife.

We are pregnant? Pah! Where is his Caesarean scar, then?

oh fat red bald phil from eastenders shudder, if he weren't famous, he'd be lucky to pull big mo from stenders. iykwim.

worse than "hubby" is "hubs"

I also hate "bubs" for baby

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