to think it's high time somebody started an "I'm an imperfect mother" thread on here? Jeeez the number of perfectly perfect mums on here atm is quite scary

[emkana]

Okay I'll start

I'm not a perfect mother because

I lose my temper
I let them watch x factor and the cube on a Saturday night, and don't even read them a bedtime story after
I've taken them out of school for holidays

No, I think she just meant that work gives you a bit of time away, with other adults, and you therefore may be slightly more patient with things that sahms have already been thorugh for the 3523rd time that day.

So there.

Can you all stop it now as I want to re organise my farm.

Would not be first time you'd ignored a penguin Shiney

excuse me, you may not im not a penguin, im a pen-gin...

sorry you talking to me shiney?

I know sycamore, which is why I have probably done it about twice and thought better of it. It was a stupid thing to admit and I don't know why I did as it was twattish. I have asked for posts to be deleted.

nope i cant.

You see?

You're both just being nasty for the sake of it.

I don't know why I'm bothered, the wine perhaps.

It wasn't, Harry, it was funny and you made some of us laugh. Don't feel shaaaaaaame. 'tis a destructive and nasty emotion.

...just don't ever ever do it again

thanks madnotmad that's what I meant

Harry - we've all been twattish. We've also all posted first and read thread later...

You don't have to listen to anything any of us say, but if next time you insert trout face or some such for cunt, then hey, for my money, MN is kind of still up and working.

well I´m still reeling that beans on toast and the like is a rubbish meal ds has only actually had it once and I know its a lazy quick meal for a ´what on earth am i going to feed him tonight?´moment. But is it slummy-mummy ish? really?

Don´t even have the energy to get into the main argument going on. I have never hit ds, have shouted (rarely and I try not to), have sworn in front of him but not AT him, let him watch about an hour of tv a day (30mins am 30mins pm) sometimes more sometimes less. Find my kids tv presenter voice from somewhere within me even when inside I am repeating "i need space I need space I need SPACE I CAN´T BREATHE YOU ARE SUFFOCATING ME!"

I´ve also had less shining moments for sure but they do come under a different category and I wouldn´t make light of them under the guise of them being ´imperfect mum-ish" because they are one offs and they are explained by extentuating circumstances and do not illustrate my style of parenting in the slightest. I have posted a handful of times in the last few months when I used to post all the time. I get to the end of a reply, read it back, then delete it all. Because I really can´t be bothered with being judged by someone, somewhere over the slightest thing you might have phrased wrong and there is always at least one.

And that´s fair enough, if you don´t want to hear it, think twice before you post.

Precious - can you not see the difference between it being a funny post that someone might have made up (I actually thought it was a joke) and...

Oh, do you know what. Forget it.

Come on Shiney me old mucka, let's blow this thread.

See you over in haven. Unless you're too tired now.

If you all go I will be the only one left!

I have to return a halo. It transpires I have in fact shouted at my DC. Both of them. Sorry about that.

I've just sat and read this whole thread.. I have to be up at 4.30 so tomorrow I'm going to be really really tired, but I have to put my 2 pennys worth in.

I've always had a short fuse but since having ds (17mths) I have learnt to control it as the thought of him being frightened in anyway terrifies me irrationally.

I swear and wish I didn't and try to think about when I'm swearing and do it as little as possible. But can't stand people calling their children names - little shit or worse, it makes me feel sick, where DS is concerned I don't even refer to his nappies as shitty ones (makes me cringe) they are always just mucky. That said, I do remember on one occassion when DS was trying to flip over when I was changing his nappy and we were both up to our armpits in poo, shouting 'uurrghh FFS 'name' lay still'. I regret it, it was a moment of frustration and I don't think it was in anyway acceptable, reading the thoughts of people on this thread however makes me feel somewhat worse as if it is the most dispicable thing in the world.

Using the C word in any context to me is disgusting, that is my opinion.

In all of this though I think by the fact that only one person has said they were too hungover to take their children to school (which made me too) shows that this thread hasn't normalised this behaviour, it quite clearly shows that this isn't the norm by the fact that no one said 'ooh yes I've done that too'.

Now I realised I've just posted on a thread that everyone has left, after staying up way too late to finish reading it before I posted. Drrrrr!!!!!

I am here TTT. Am like a priest in the confessions box.

Leave before it's too late!!!!!

Mermaid tell me your sins.

Oof! Too many to confess to father!

Too much MN, not enough veggies, too much tv, fruitshoots, McDonalds, etc, etc.

Have never sworn at her (stalked off into another room and said "Fuckinglittlefucker" quite a few times, but never in hearing distance).

Never called her names either. I work with disadvantaged and SEN kids and have seen all too often the effects of parents who just "let 'em have it" for the sake of getting it off their chest.

Not judging anyone who has done these things on occasion, slip-ups happen, that makes us normal. Otherwise we would all be Stepford wives.