to be contemplating asking my neighbour to move her newborn into her bedroom at night?

[willow]

Essentially, we live in a semi and neighbour's new baby is in a room that's next to our bedroom. Neighbour is on the floor above. Upshot is that we wake up from baby's cries, well before its parents do. Not even going to go down the advice to prevent cotdeath route, or fact that I think there might be a she who must not be named routine being followed.

Should I ask them, politely, to contemplate having baby in same room as them, at least for a little while until it's settled into a bit more of a routine? Appreciate that I can't demand they rethink where they're siting the nursery - but don't see why we should be disturbed more than the actual parents.

Of course you can't contain a baby's cty to your home only, but in your own home you can chose where you want the baby to sleep. If my baby wasn't a great sleeper and grizzled all night keeping us both awake and I had to get some sleep, or for whatever reason I like, I want my baby in his or her own room, that's my choice. Having a baby that cries isn't being inconsiderate, it's life.

ohhh - don't tell me to chill out please, thank you.

You seemed a bit unhappy with my opinion, see your ref "Ah OK rehtom. She should be embracing the loveliness of a newborn's cries then and not moaning", when I said nothing of the sort or even implied it. I helpfully suggested good wax earplugs.

It's a bit crap to decide you deserve a bit of distance from the baby so you can sleep though, only to go and bung in the room right next to some other poor bugger's bedroom

yanbu
But I don't really know your best way to approach it.....I guess it depends on how friendly you are with them.

Chill out yourself and get off my back ***

For Rehtom

Agree with Aitch.
I think yoour neighbour is being inconsiderate but also its worrying that a 2 week old newborn is crying alone in a room away from its parents...
No idea how you could broach it though without sounding a bit Hitler-esque...

oh and let's not forget the 'he hee I'm just mucking about - !!!!!!!!!!!

If the baby is only 2 weeks old I am sure she isn't even thinking about its crying effecting you.

Do your kids play out in the street and disturb the baby in the evening? Could be revenge

I'm amazed it hasn't crossed their minds it might be disturbing you. My son was demanding and noisy and I still worried about the neighbours being woken.

Usually, with newborns, you don't let them cry for that long, though, do you? Well I didn't. I was tougher with them once they were older (much tougher than most here) but little babies shouldn't be left to scream for long periods.

I'm amazed it hasn't crossed their minds it might be disturbing you. My son was demanding and noisy and I still worried about the neighbours being woken.

Usually, with newborns, you don't let them cry for that long, though, do you? Well I didn't. I was tougher with them once they were older (much tougher than most here) but little babies shouldn't be left to scream for long periods.

Oh Rehtom, you do know you are going to get teased mercillessly now, don't you? Here, have a listen to this- you put me in mind of the pizza shop man...

Thanks

God I am slow, have just worked out what "rehtom" is!!

You must be in bed for quite a long time if the baby cries at 4-hourly intervals yet you're woken up several times a night...

I also live in a semi and have a newborn baby. My nextdoor neighbour swears she can't hear a thing. I know she's fibbing but I'm very grateful to her for it

Sorry, was there a joke? Oh I must have missed it, how remiss of me.

I'm fine for cakes thanks, I have a figure to think of. Talking of which I suggest you step away from them.

Ha haaaa, just my little joke, which with your fabulous sense of humour you'll understand obviously