To think that health professionals should not call me MUM

[Reallytired]

DD had her jabs today and the nurse kept on calling me "Mum" even though I said to her that I did not want her to call me "Mum". I told her that it was a biological impossiblity that I was her mother.

I have two children and I am happy for me to call me Mum, but I do have a proper name and I think health professionals should use it.

(hoping that cassius is okay, lockets. i remember when he was born, how old is he now?)

agree, swc. and if they can't do that, do nothing. but not feckin' MUM.

how patronising to reduce someone else POV to "a line"

maybe their subjective experience just differs from your subjective experience?

you cannot cajole people to accept "your line" either.so why get exasperated

i said i was 'bored' not that your line was 'boring'. there is a difference there.

please dont elucidate.we get the jist

i'm going, lockets, because i simply Do Not Believe that you wouldn't have known that they meant you without calling you Mum. it's patently ridiculous, in such a charged situation, to propose that without calling you Mum you would have been impossible to signal.

yep aitch it was a patrionising put down on someone else POV

Dont you think there might be more important things on nurses minds than actually trying to remember everyones name!
Sounds a bit petty to me tbh!

lockets, they are two separate things.

one is a comment on me, the other would be a comment on your post. i am bored hearing that line because i find that it reveals so much more than the person saying it thinks it does, at the same time as notionally putting a Full Stop on the conversation.

that does not make it by definition a boring thing to say. in fact it's quite an interesting thing to say, insofar as it reveals the extent of the way that you have internalised the power dynamic (and in an emergency situation, fair enough), but it's not really relevant to a GP's receptionist, midwife with jabs, GP who can't be arsed looking at your notes etc.

I think if I had a relationship with care giver then maybe it would bother me..oh no..tbh I wouldn't give a toss...very insecure imo..I couldn't give a toss

did I say that twice?

and for the record my 'i am bored' post crossed posts with your second one, there was about .2 of a second in it.

i was responding to "By lockets on Sat 22-Aug-09 00:24:10
I would be happy for a HCP who is helping my child to call me Noddybollox, mum, oi you, anything really as long as they were concentrating on their job and helping my child.
When ds was hospitalised recently I was called mum loads.....seriously not the main priority of HCPs to get my name right. "

i don't think anyone has suggested At ALL that it's the MAIN priority of hcps to get parents names right.

yes, of course. and so if your child is there why would they use their mother's name to talk to you?

that's all this is about, lockets. sorry for pissing you off earlier.

by their mother's name i mean the doctor, who presumably calls his mum 'mum'. if the doc was to use your child's mother's name he'd call you mrs lockets. (if he had any manners).

great. but it IS of concern to other people. and tbh it should be of concern to the doctor because it's just manners at the end of the day. i do think, regardless of what you say, if your doctor did call you noddybollox during a general examination of your child's health, that you would not be please.