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shy people get on my tits

384 replies

brimfull · 28/07/2009 19:03

and I know I am being unreasonable

but I want to shout-' grow up and make a fucking effort!!'

and don't moan about your kids not having mates to play with when you never ask people back,never say hello in the street

thanks

needed to get that off my chest

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 29/07/2009 00:45

no ggirl, you are right

just indirectly

Mumcentreplus · 29/07/2009 00:45

moving for cheap beer?...now that's random

AnyFucker · 29/07/2009 00:47

I think someguy should move for cheap beer and warm ladyboys

SomeGuy · 29/07/2009 00:47

but it's really cheap. And the houses are cheaper and the chips are nice, and the fact that the beer is cheap means they obviously don't have the same anti-social behaviour problem we do in the UK. And I love mussels too. And chocolate. And they aren't snooty like the French, because they don't have their own language.

Mumcentreplus · 29/07/2009 00:49

no one notices when I flounce..hence the stealth part..I just stop visiting till I no longer feel like cussin uncontrollably

and I'm a hugger..when someones upset I get the urge..

SomeGuy · 29/07/2009 00:51

They don't have many ladyboys in Belgium.

Ladyboys are very much a SE Asian phenomenon, it seems to be an alternative to just being a homosexual man over there.

My DW's friend was one, he requested that I bring him an anal vibrator from England. I called up Ann Summers to ask them if they had any good anal vibrators. I had it sent to my work, the receptionist opened it and brought it up to me, but I had to send it back because it was one of those ones designed to go up your arse and your vagina, which obviously was no use. In the end I bought it from this enormous Caribbean woman in a proper sex shop, who told me 'you stick it your backside'. I suppose she'd heard "I'm buying this arse vibrator for my friend, it's not for me, honest", before.

AnyFucker · 29/07/2009 00:53

someguy, did you manage to type all that with a straight face ?

Mumcentreplus · 29/07/2009 00:55

rofl...the beer agrees with you Someguy

AnyFucker · 29/07/2009 00:55

On that note, I am off to bed

Thanks for the laugh someguy, even if it was unintentional

And your support was appreciated too

SomeGuy · 29/07/2009 00:56

Well my wife sometimes says I have a gay face.

Or not so much a gay face specifically, but I do wind her up by carrying her handbag and mincing down the street.

Mumcentreplus · 29/07/2009 00:58

nite AF

Mumcentreplus · 29/07/2009 00:59

[email protected] suppose it's better than a gay arse

SomeGuy · 29/07/2009 01:02

Gay faces tend to be better looked after than straight faces.

My gay boss insisted that he had to moisturise his face daily, and that was what kept him looking youthful. OTOH, I never got around to enquiring about the state of his arse.

Mumcentreplus · 29/07/2009 01:02

or is it?..lol

Mumcentreplus · 29/07/2009 01:13

bet the arse was as moisturised as the face..lol

branflake81 · 29/07/2009 08:12

I am a very shy person and really struggle in social situations. however, YANBU to say that shy people should make an effort. I force myself to go out and meet people, to make conversation etc even though I am sometimes dying inside because it's the only way I will improve my social skills. I don't have much patience for people who sit around moaning about their shyness (or indeed any problem) without trying to address it.

pigsinmud · 29/07/2009 08:29

I can't believe some people! Shy people annoy you?!

I am a shy person, however I'm now settled in a village and have a circle of friends etc.. When we first arrived here I forced myself to go to toddler group, although I found it difficult.

My children have plenty of friends - can't see what that has to do with a parent being shy! My ds1 speaks in front of the school - something I could never do and can still not do. That is my ultimate fear - standing in front of a group of people and talking.

Those confident extrovert people don't annoy me .... it depends if I can pin the word brash on them and then I'm not so keen.

ladyofshallots · 29/07/2009 08:52

How do you know they are not trying to address it?

I don't understand this whole argument of 'I find it difficult and I make an effort so why can't everybody?'

You have no idea what kind of internal conflict may be going on within the shy person and how paralysed by fear they might be

Sometimes it may look as if I'm not making an effort, but inside I am willing myself to go and talk to people and just can't. Other times I have tried to make an effort and been knocked back or treated rudely, so I retreat into my shell for fear of being rejected again.

BottySpottom · 29/07/2009 15:30

The thing is, although shyness is distributed on a normal distribution curve, so is everything else. If you reject half the population because they are not extroverts, think of all the other attributes you are ignoring.

Your loss me thinks.

PuppyMonkey · 29/07/2009 15:39

Haven't read whole thread as it looks bonkers. But ggirl - ok, I am a shy person and here is my effort: "You are a tit!!! Now off you fuck." Is that better for you?

VulpusinaWilfsuit · 29/07/2009 22:51

Prompted by separate thread, I'd like to apologise to people who might have been upset by some of my rather pompous comments last night. I was posting as PhukTifano (not out of any need to hide, more that I had not changed from a lame thread earlier!) This was what I regard as one of my MN 'education' threads: since I've been here, I see things that strike a chord, pile in and - in classic extrovert style - work out what I actually think while I'm 'saying' it. And perhaps tread on people's sensitivities while I'm at it.

So I'm genuinely sorry if any of my comments seemed heartless or pontificating. I do understand - a bit - what serious anxiety feels like, though not specific social anxiety. And I do accept that until you have felt that, outsiders cannot possibly really get it.

VulpusinaWilfsuit · 29/07/2009 22:51

And sorry also for resurrecting the thread and perhaps causing more upset but felt I needed to say it.

imbored · 30/07/2009 00:29

People that are over confident get on my tit's, thinking everyone loves them but us shy people hear everything, and we also observe other people's reaction when people are rolling eye's behind your back, when your all being LOUD!!
i switch off when people like that talk to me[arghhh the voices, like chalk going down a blackboard]

GodzillasBumcheek · 30/07/2009 00:57

I have realised something, reading (half of ) this thread...small talk is boring, and i come across as stuck up sometimes (rather than shy, which i am) because i forget to ask the mundane shit that people are 'supposed to', like for example, "how did the wedding go?" when i really don't care because i wasn't invited and if it had gone badly then they would surely say so anyway.

So i'm shy, so i'm ignorant. And? Get on your tits do i? GOOD, didn't want to know you anyhoo.

Blackduck · 30/07/2009 07:06

I am with Soupy on this one - if you haven't been there you don't get it....
I frequently say I want ds to be like dp and not like me, because I know how much shyness has cost me in my life and it isn't something you cann just get over.