Children gone on Hols with ex and he wont answer the phone or let me speak to them!!! What can i do???

[Babywhiting]

my 2 children have gone on their hols with my ex we have been seperated for 5 years and he asked if they could go with him he has only ever had them stay 2 nights with him in a row! had the odd night once or twice!

they went friday its now thursday and i have not been able to contact them! my dd has a mobile which i ring and it keeps ringing and the ex just cuts his phone off when i ring, ive sent messages saying id like to talk to the kids which he ignored till yesterday when he sent a message saying
"not got good signal will see if they want to talk to you later"

not a word back no call nothing!

i miss my kids and wish they had never gone! what do i do??

like i said no one knows the whole story and that is the past! i do as im told concerning the court!

the thing i wouls like to say is those of you that enjoy slating me put yourself in my shoes!

I really feel for you babywhiting, hope you get something sorted out. Have you decided what you want to do?

clearly, that's why I said remind him, not force him

babyw, ven if the police will not do anything, I think it is worth calling your local station

I am sure you will get to speak to an understanding officer, who can give you practical advice as to what to do next

I would think this will not be the first time they have had similar calls

do it now, this thread is not helping you

incidentally, how far away from you are they ?

no dittany, it is not ok

at best, 'tis very manipulative and calculated to cause distress, if not to the kids, certainly to the parent left behind

at worst...let us not go there....

I can empathise Babywhiting. I'd miss my children and worry about them a lot if I had no contact for a fortnight. I'd be very upset, and really worry that they were missing me for a start. I would be absolutely livid when they came back, and would not allow another holiday without a legal agreement that I would have phone contact.
If what you are saying about the court case is accurate (ie judge calling him manipulative) then I'd assume he was being unhelpful out of vindictiveness. If he can send one text, he can certainly send another. I would text to say you want to talk to your kids (just as he does, twice a week) and I'd probably call the site just to make sure everything was OK, for my own peace of mind. I wouldn't contact the police.

Do you have a solicitor? Can you ask their advice? You might want to get a court order to insist on phone contact when he has them.

YANBU to want to speak to your young children when you are the primary carer.

One question though, his text said "not got good signal will see if they want to talk to you later". What exactly does he mean by this? I presume he means that there is bad signal and he will see if the children can ring you later or asap. Who is to say there will not be a bad signal later? Looking at reviews of the site here would seem to confirm the bad signal excuse but also states that there is a payphone on site and one review even states that there is "nothing there for the kids".

Bearing this in mind what exactly are the kids doing there that is so much fun that they cant make a quick call from the payphone to confirm all is well.

dittany, you don't know the children are being denied contact. As many people have said who live in the area the mobile reception is notoriously bad.

Dad is obviously being a jerk by not contacting, no one is denying that. But it seems that everyone is putting their own slant on this thread without the full story. None of us know what is going on or what has happened in the past only what op has said

OP has asked for options not opinions

'I still want an answer to my question as to whether people here think it's OK for children to be denied contact with their mum for two whole weeks when they've never been away from her before. '

No, its not ok and i cannot believe people are defending this man and having a go at the OP, put yourself in her shoes people. completely bonkers

No matter what had gone before, I would be beside myself with worry

Knowing my own kids, they may not be upset and missing me (unlimited ice lollies and a playpark tend to make thoughts of mummy go out the window [smile})

but I would find this blokes cruel manipulation of my feelings inforgiveable

Poor OP, ex sounds a nightmare. i think I would ring police / soilcitor / anyone I thought might be able to help.

Oh no way am I supporting him, I think if it is tit-for-tat behaviour he is being childish and he's causing an argument unnecessarily.

OP can't you ask anyone with a family court type background or police????

I'm a stepmum and my husband's ex hates him but he would always INSIST our stepson called his mum when we took him on holiday, even if he didn't really need/want to and of course answered her calls. It's all about being a decent human being.

Totally agree with AnyFucker and dittany

The rest of you sound like you should join Fathers4Justice