Children gone on Hols with ex and he wont answer the phone or let me speak to them!!! What can i do???

[Babywhiting]

my 2 children have gone on their hols with my ex we have been seperated for 5 years and he asked if they could go with him he has only ever had them stay 2 nights with him in a row! had the odd night once or twice!

they went friday its now thursday and i have not been able to contact them! my dd has a mobile which i ring and it keeps ringing and the ex just cuts his phone off when i ring, ive sent messages saying id like to talk to the kids which he ignored till yesterday when he sent a message saying
"not got good signal will see if they want to talk to you later"

not a word back no call nothing!

i miss my kids and wish they had never gone! what do i do??

I said rightly or wrongly, didn't say I agreed with it at all (in fact below I said I thought it was immature). The fact is though, that people often tend not to extend courtesy when they feel they are not afforded it themselves

my ex does this all the time,i think the new wife has issues about me.he once didnt bother to let me know our child had seriously cut his knee abroad,he had fallen into and broken a glass door.it was the second week of hols i got a text from my son saying what had happened, i had to back off for a few minutes then txt back alot calmer to my son never mind you have 2 knees,i know it sounds stupid now but i was livid, i obviously had checked he was ok before that reply went. when my son came home he told me he did it on the second day and wasnt allowed to ring me to tell me!

My children go away abroad at times for weeks with their dad, but even I would expect a call 7 days in. It's common courtesy to let their mother know how they are, even if it's just to rub in the fact that they are having such a great time they haven't asked for you. Don't like the sound of him cuttig off dd's phone, and surely if the sigals bad he can get to a phone box?

Contact police station in dulverton through 118 or through you local station and ask them to check up on the kids for you, as you're worried because you're you haven't heard from them.

can i just state that i have never stoppped him seeing kids court is all ordered by the judge and i am not allowed to change phone calls etc;

all i want to hear is my kids voices nothing else!

as long as they are fine i couldnt care who what how or anything else! they are with him and yes i agreed to that ....never again!!!!!

So the phone signal is bad, then the text should read "Mummy we're having a lovely time, but the signal is bad we'll call you asap" because children do miss their primary carer don't they????
I would phone the site and ask them to pass a message on saying he's breaking the terms of his access (is this true) and you would like the children to call you in the next 12 hours....call first thing in the morning and then you're busy all day not waiting by the phone.

Good Luck OP, sounds like you escaped an idiot.

I am intreagued as to what exactly it is people think the police will do.
I would like to report that my children haven't called me." "do you know where they are?" "Yes, they're on holiday with their father." "And you allowed this?" "yes." "And have you had any contact with your ex at all?" "Yes, I had a text from him yesterday." "So you know he is with the children then." "yes, but I haven't spoken to them."

The police aren't going to get involved in that. The children are on holiday with their father. he is not legally obliged to let them have contact with their mother during that time, and given the op has had contact with the father there is no reason to believe anything has happened to them.
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Just shows how differently everyone approaches this. If my dc were with ex I would not expect to hear from them, as I think they'd miss me if they heard my voice and I'd be happy to wait. To be honest I am darned glad of the break on the rare occasions I get it.
A fortnight is a long time though and op obv wishes to hear, her ex knows that and it does seem v inconsiderate. Hope there has been some news by now op

babywhiting - if you didn't want to restrict access, why was there a court order over access. Could you not reach an amicable agreement? (not being facetious, am interested as to why on earth a court would want to restrict access if the mother is keen to extend it?!)

not allowed to change phone calls?

wannabe im sorry i know this is a speak your mind page but im sorry you dont half talk some poo!!!!! you know nothing about what happened in court or why he had to have an order and its none of your business!

all i said was he has a court order its too complicated!

if he does break an order i am allowed to call the police! this is stated in the court order !!!!!

dittany thank you so much you are so right.

Babywhiting, what are you going to do? There seems to be lots of people on here telling you what you should do and angry responses from you at peoples comments.

Have you actually made any attempts to do anything yet, or are you still thinking about it

babywhiting - my DH also has a court order re. his kids. He went to extreme lengths to be allowed regular access to his children. The court set out the bare minimum, and the pwc does not allow a single minute over and above this or there is a huge row. To wield this power of 'I can call the police if I want to' is frankly ridiculous. Talk about letting power get to your head

now dittany is calling him a child-abuser!

so I presume then that the two week holiday was also a part of the court order then?

Dittany we don't know that the father is not allowing the children to speak to their mother. We know that they haven't spoken but we don't know that it is because the father has said they can't. He has said mobile signal is rubbish. That is entirely possible. Maybe there isn't a phone box nearby, phone boxes certainly don't appear on every corner these days - I wouldn't have a clue where to find one in the town I live in, let alone in a strange town.

nobody is supporting him dittany. However some posters are asking why his contact is restricted, and that if the op has restricted it, then maybe that has contributed to the current state of power-play between them

No we don't think that's in the best interests of the children, but then neither is restricting their dad's calls to twice a week

wannabe, I totally disagree with your post ridiculing the police's imagined response. If the OP called the local station and explained that although she had agreed the ex take the kids there for a holiday, there has been no contact, she is worried and could they stop by and check, and also remind him he must call/ allow the children to call and remain in contact, I cannot for one minute think they wouldn't do it.

I think the op bashing on thi thread is astonishing too.