to find this a funny way of dealing with party invites?

[Susystayathome]

I was recently quite excited to get an email from my SIL that seemed to be inviting my DH and me to a 40th birthday celebration dinner with our mutual group of friends. As most of us now have children we don't get together as couples too often nowadays, so I was really pleased. However, at the end was a sentence saying 'Susy, I'm not inviting you and DH as you are having tea with us, the in-laws and DCs one afternoon instead'. This breaks up our group of mutual friends, and makes me feel that as an in-law I am not fit to be seen in proper adult company. I feel really disappointed and wish that she'd found another way of telling me, instead of humiliating me in front of our friends by adding the note to an e-mail that went to everyone. I'm sure you'll be able to come up with some alternative ideas to help me put this in perspective.

Have just read complete thread and am in

Really need the update now

ffs sake, where is she?!?!

this is CRUEL

yep, count me in. want to hear what's happening now....

Is your relative the full ticket??

Breathtakingly rude and insensitive. I would be fuming! I hope your friend has declined in solidarity!

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I'm all involved now - pleeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssse OP what happened next ?

Aww, please come back OP, please. Pretty please I'm going away for the weekend tomorrow and so won't be able to get an update til Monday if you don't come back soon.

Maybe we should do a shout out on other threads? The suspense is KILLING ME. (not quite, but I'm very curious).

Is there room for one more on here?

can i tag along as well please?

I can't believe I've read through all the hangers-on and no update at the end!

I demand to know what happened before I go to bed tonight!

Coooeee! Susy, where are you? We want to know what's happening!

wot, no update?

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Sorry for the late update - no PC access during the day and I've only just finished, bedtime, chores, eating my tea.....
I've been on the phone today to the other invitees. The one who declined by email yesterday had been a bit about SIL non-invite, but had assumed that she must already have spoken to me and was gob-smacked to hear that it was the first I'd heard about it. I've also spoken to the other couple and they will also probably decline as they struggle to get a babysitter, and with there only being SIL and her DH at the dinner now they aren't prepared to sacrifice one of their rare adult evenings in order to spend it with my lovely SIL.

So it seems that after all that heartache on my part, the party is not going to happen. I am SO glad that I'd didn't send SIL a bitchy reply (narrow escape there - could have been ).

Thank you so much for all your advice.

thanks for the update!

So why did the first lot decline?

Katisha - just a boring old date clash - but unfortunately worded to sound a bit (to my oversensitive mind) as if they weren't available that day, or any other day.

Well, that's poetic justice really, isn't it. Glad you didn't need to reply in the end - now you just have to endure the family party instead. Perhaps you could ask in all innocence how her evening dinner went? OR would that be too snidey?

if it were me, I might send her a little email implying in a very ambiguous way that it was no coincidence that nobody could "make it" to her little shindig and that it served her fucking right

or I might not

So pleased to hear your friends think your SIL is being totally unreasonable. Hopefully when she & your BIL are celebrating, they will look at the empty seats around them and realise what a nutter numpty she's been. I also hope that she apologises for being such a rude cow to you. Bang out of order.