to find this a funny way of dealing with party invites?

[Susystayathome]

I was recently quite excited to get an email from my SIL that seemed to be inviting my DH and me to a 40th birthday celebration dinner with our mutual group of friends. As most of us now have children we don't get together as couples too often nowadays, so I was really pleased. However, at the end was a sentence saying 'Susy, I'm not inviting you and DH as you are having tea with us, the in-laws and DCs one afternoon instead'. This breaks up our group of mutual friends, and makes me feel that as an in-law I am not fit to be seen in proper adult company. I feel really disappointed and wish that she'd found another way of telling me, instead of humiliating me in front of our friends by adding the note to an e-mail that went to everyone. I'm sure you'll be able to come up with some alternative ideas to help me put this in perspective.

marking my place for update

Strange woman. Maybe she categorises her acquaintances, and you fall into the family rather than friends camp - strange, but people do it. Even if you were already friends before you were SILs (?), and you now fall into the other camp.

I'd pick up the phone rather than email, just let her know how you feel - it's just too hard to convey tone in an email, however cleverly worded.

Hope it all works out.

...what I mean to say is, you don't want any further misunderstandings, assuming her initial faux pas was just that.

marking my place too

Update please!

Are you sure this is not my SIL? It's totally the sort of thing she'd do

While I love LGP's reply, I think perhaps renee's is the way to go. I'm always late to the party on these kind of threads - desperate for an update!

What a cow. Don't let her get away with it!

bumping because I NEED to know what happens

Another vote for RRs reply, although I would be sorely tempted to go for the one LGS came up with.

I have lurked so far, but am now compelled to speak out! Update please!

It is a strange thing to do. Why send the email to you and your family in the first place if she didn't want you to go or if she wanted to organise two small parties, one for friends and one for family. Strange...

Is the kind of thing she does? If it seems out of character, it is likely just an error of judgement on her part and I don't know if sending a rude reply back is such a good idea.

Definitely respond in a polite manner expressing your disappointment at not being invited to the party but that you and family are looking forward to the other get-together. Make SURE you hit 'Reply all' as well - this is crucial! Let all your mutual friends see the email exchange :0

Good luck!

Oh My Goodness

There's nowt queerer than folk.

so....no update....susy, just read the thread, want an update....stomp foot!

I am trying to work out why she would send you an E-mail with an invite only to NOT invite you....that is soooo weird....

Bookmarking for update...

i wouldnt invite my family to a 40th party tbh

But JohnDory they have mutual friends (all invited) going back 10 or 20 years.

Any update?

ignore JohnD, he has been putting stupid replies on threads.

pulling up my chair.

Come on, Susy - what happened?

JohnDory...teh issue , I think, is mostly that said SIL send OP a NON-INVITE...
I mean, you jsut don't do that kinda thing, like....hi all you are invited to my party there and then with a P.S. Oh, but even you recieved this E-mail you are not invited...

LadyGlencora that is just fab!!!!!

i'm speechless at this thread...and I'm not usually someone who is lost for words!!

Maybe instead of a non-present (that she deserves) you could give her one of those gift experience packages with a week's luxury stay at the Academy of Tact and Diplomacy?? Although on second thoughts a week wouldn't be long enough.........

I think i would reply, in a group email telling her to shove it up her arse...if she can get her head out of their first