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Original poster

To think these people could have waited to smoke their drugs?

142 replies

MsUndastood · 07/07/2009 10:36

I went to a festival on Saturday with a very easily led (mum) friend.

We met up with her little (19 yo) sister and ended up sitting with her friends for most of the night.

Later on I needed to pop home and they needed to pop to the garage, on the way back we walked through the park and they said they wanted to have a joint.

I told them I didn't feel comfortable around it and didn't like it but the still went ahead and 'skinned up' any way.

They gave some to my easily led friend, and i know it is her decision, but if they had waited until they had got back and went of so I didn't have to be around it then there is no way she would have sought it out.

Don't get me wrong, I am not perfect, I have tried drugs in my teens but know that if anyone had ever said they were uncomfortable around it I wouldn't ever have gone against that.

So AIBU to feel angry that they didn't wait until i was gone and risk the police finding us and risk being associated with it?

I have a DS and feel it is very important to stay well clear of anything like that now, and feel that it is my responsibility as a mother to make sure DS knows that drugs are bad.

OP posts:
daftpunk · 07/07/2009 11:04

msunderstood....i wouldn't have let you walk home on your own....but alot of my mates smoke dope...

missmelly · 07/07/2009 11:05

I think the fact you were at a festival meant a great proportion of the people there were probably using something.
can understand you not wanting to be associated with it, but even if they had have been caught by the police it wouldnt have been considered a serious offence.

SerendipitousHarlot · 07/07/2009 11:05

*I know it is THEIR decision to smoke it, but they took away my decision to not be around it!

Yes, I could have walked home but being a single mum I can't afford to put myself in danger like that. *

LOL. Stop being such a baby.

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 07/07/2009 11:06

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mumOfTheYearNOT · 07/07/2009 11:09

The issue here is that you didn't want to be around them smoking it, but also wanted the protection of walking home with someone. Given the people you were walking home with wanted to do that and you were by the sounds of it in the minority, then YAB a little U.

As for people being OK about drugs, smoking weed may not help people with predispositions to mental illness, but drinking booze isn't great for people with a predisposition to alcoholism or violence yet you can go and buy as much as that as you want 24/7. Smoking weed isn't healthy, but neither are fags and again you can go and buy as many of them as you want.

Just because something is illegal doesn't mean it comes from Satan himself.

Ewe · 07/07/2009 11:10

You would have only needed to walk a few steps in front of them to ensure you didn't smell it in the air, smell it on your clothes etc.

pingping · 07/07/2009 11:11

Pass the doobie to the left hand side HarleyD what are you married to that spliff

mayorquimby · 07/07/2009 11:13

"I know it is THEIR decision to smoke it, but they took away my decision to not be around it!"

in exactly the same way as you wanted to take away their decision to smoke it at that particular time.
it's just not a big deal on either side. they could have waited and put up with not smoking when they wanted to or they could smoke when they wanted to and you could put up with the fact that they were smoking.
as it was, the majority of the group wanted to smoke it then, so they did. not a big deal in the slightest.

expatinscotland · 07/07/2009 11:13

YABU.

Sounds like you could have used a toke or two to chill out, too.

expatinscotland · 07/07/2009 11:13

YABU.

Sounds like you could have used a toke or two to chill out, too.

Worzsel · 07/07/2009 11:16

Yabu.

You were at a festival.. what did you think was going to be going on ?

Original poster
MsUndastood · 07/07/2009 11:17

I couldn't have just walked ahead, they had sat down on the (wet) grass

I didn't like these people for a whole range of other reasons too tbh, and that probably would have made a more interesting AIBU but this annoyed me because I felt as thought it was affecting MY rights

OP posts:
harleyd · 07/07/2009 11:18

chill pingping..theres enough for everyone man

daftpunk · 07/07/2009 11:19

exactly....that's what most festivals are about..music & drugs...

op.... i'm really shocked that you were shocked..

expatinscotland · 07/07/2009 11:20

how can there be enough for everyone when harley bogarts the whole spliff?

expatinscotland · 07/07/2009 11:20

how can there be enough for everyone when harley bogarts the whole spliff?

expatinscotland · 07/07/2009 11:20

sorry for double posts.

expatinscotland · 07/07/2009 11:21

taking away your rights.

LOL.

this has got to be a wind up.

you could have been a mate and walked on ahead to find a discarded fizzy juice can to use as a makeshift bong.

daftpunk · 07/07/2009 11:23

expat...deffo a wind up...

Original poster
MsUndastood · 07/07/2009 11:23

So it's a wind up because I don't want to be around illegal substances?

OP posts:
expatinscotland · 07/07/2009 11:25

it's a wind up because you're making such a big deal out of it.

but it's a funny wind up!

Original poster
MsUndastood · 07/07/2009 11:26

Ahh, whatever, you lot can stay in this drugs den on Mumsnet and get virtually stoned.

I don't care.

I am obviously being unreasonable by not wanting to be around people who are breaking the law

Fuxake

OP posts:
daftpunk · 07/07/2009 11:26

i think it's a wind up because smoking a bit of dope at a festival is about as normal as something really normal...

missmelly · 07/07/2009 11:28

I dont believe people this straight truely exist.. do they?

expatinscotland · 07/07/2009 11:28

And, if it was hash, they mixed it with baccy to make a spliff.

Smokers! We all know they need shooting.