To make my daughter change schools when she doesn't want to ?

[Angstisme]

I have three motivations here

1. She is best friends with a girl who is vile towards her, throws apples at her when she comes to our house to play, lies to get her into trouble, over dominates DD.

Yet she puts up with it day after day, even the child's own mother said I wish one day my DD would turn around and tell her to F* off (which as they are 7 I die but you get the sentiment here). DD has one other child aside of the girl who she's good friends and plays at school with but never outside, so that strikes me they aren't that great friends otherwise the mother would be arranging playdates right ? I'm outting myself a bit here, but she invited 20 kids to her 7th Birthday and 3 turned up, 3 at least had the decency to tell me.

1. We've just had her sats through, she is absolutely average right across the board, fine but her dad and i have 9 A'Levels and 3 degree's between us, I'm wondering what the hell is going wrong, the other school is more academic.

1. Our eldest is moving no matter what, she cannot stand another day in her current school and whilst she is a year above in reading and english she is behind for maths, another friends child failed 11+ because of her maths, I believe the school doesn't do maths well.

Do I just make her move, I really do want to say I am the adult here, I've made my choice you're moving but of course you never want to see your child crying and upset and I believe she'll put us through that for a while, plus if we've got this wrong there's no going back.

Any advice at all ?

Well you last post is utterly vile and you need to understand that the only person really harming your kid here is you!

Ooooohhhh feel sorry for those teachers at the new school - they will have you marked down as a nutter very quickly!

They will also be quite adept at avoiding parents like you and talking them down, telling them that it is because their darling child is not actually very good socially - it is what happens when people think poor old Johnny's social problems at state school can be solved with a bit of cold hard cash.

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I would think very seriously before you change-if there are problems with either you or DD, they will move with you.

I think Angstisme is actually a weirdie bloke, who talks like that ?

BTW MissSunny I apologise for calling you a meanie - you are a most excellent judge of character. I bow down to your better judgement

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The OP was not abnormal but some of the rest has been OTT.

Oh my word.... I have just worked out who the OP is.... wondered where you'd got to!
Sorry- I have to say I think from your previous threads that your DDs have social issues because you have interpersonal issues, or at least that is the way you come across on mn.

So come on, eppm, WHO is it?

A namechanger who I thought had flounced after a AIBU along similar lines (dd having social problems in school) went similarly pear-shaped...
'twas a rather memorable thread!

Oh, I was reading this thread earlier. Who could OP be?? I've no idea who anyone is these days but was mesmerised watching this thread take off and poor MissSunny being picked on.

was the memorable thread about a party? Think I remember it.

#oh indeed!

I think the OP will find the word is 'drawers' in relation to underwear, rather than 'draws'.

How very un-academic of her. ;

I had visions of this enormous maypole-like thing being passed from hand to hand among the OPs circle of acquaintances.

What I want to know is how the OP will handle it if it turns out that her dd still gets average results at the new school, because she is simply not all that bright

(speaking here as an academic whose son is in bottom set)

Or if she makes no more friends at the next school.

Or if (shock, horror) she is caught one day throwing something at another child or calling them something unpleasant.

(oh I know the answer to the last one- she will blame it on the influence of the nasty children at the last school)

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