ok...will try this again, aibu to be put off a school by the amount of children with SN?

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posted this in education, (Pre-school, like the twit that i am).....my ds is due to start secondary school in 2 years so we're looking around already, i am a bit put off by a school with lots of SN children, as SN also means behaviour problems....i'm not sure if i am being unreasonable.

ceclia2..yes, i'm on the wimbledon/new malden meet up threads....v.true, some fantastic schools in my area...but a few with quite bad behaviour problems....i'm worried that ds wont get into 1st choice school (or even 2nd choice)...due to lot's of parents in this area pulling out of private school due to credit crunch.

People from Sink Estates definately play Bingo - I know because I do, and so do all my neighbours

OMG, do they have losers and nasty estates in Surrey

LOL I know the chaplain at Fettes

it's a freakdump

I am sure they do have losers and sink estates in Surrey (just not my bit )

I grew up in Harlesten Brent

ive not read all this....dont think i can manage it tbh but i have a lad with SEN, and he was the least of the rest of the schools problems. my son is 17, he is polite, intelligent, compassionate, eloquent and well educated (now doing A levels)
perhaps OP you could take a leaf out of his book.

Harlesden even (now is my dyslexia from a poor upbringing or an SN?)

I can not decide

Posie- yes indeed the school, had a bit of a rep (confirmed it with DH who spent a lot of time close by with carnival)

Not there any more but did work at Strode which I loved

kimi...yes plenty of sink estates in surrey....don't forget surrey can mean stoke d'abernon..or... > ..mitcham....

Oh blimey. I started readint the thread and was preparing a nice answer in my head, and then came all the "losers from the sink estate bit". Yikes. Anyway...

Yes, your question was badly phrased but emotional and behaviour issues are examples of Special Educational Needs (SEN). Obviously not all SEN involve behaviour issues, but I'm assuming your post was poorly phrased. So with that in mind, and remembering that it is how those needs are dealt with that is important, what will be of more use to you than numbers of children with SEN (with no distinction between tpyes of SEN) would be some report on behaviour int he school. This is always addressed in an OFSTED resport, so look there int he first instance. Obviously also ask around, and try to get a tour of the school at a time when there aren't any 'official' tours. We have people walking around a fair amount and popping into classrooms, and we don't know that they're coming, so people get a snapshot that way. Sometimes misleading for one class of course, but a school tour would give you a fair picture.

As for the children from the sink estate, well, I teach quite a lot of them . Some are lovely, some are not. They're a pretty representative sample of, well, children. And drug taking also a very middle class pursuit round these parts I can assure you.

Who were you jumente?
I keep seeing you around and thinking... yes, I know this person... but it is eluding me...

DP

just to absent from the SN stuff for a mo

I genuinely DO come from a sink estate, on some hierarchy of deprivation. I have a degree and you know me on here well enough. Would you REALLY be that worried if your children attended school with me? i think I'm OK enough.

Well I came from a sink estate and I am not a loser, I admit I would not want to bring my children up where I grew up, nothing wrong with wanting better, My children have a lovely place to live and are at good schools, however our local high school is a bit undesirable, The high school I went to kids beat up teachers, took drugs and got in trouble with the law or pregnant at 15.

I managed to avoid doing any of that, going to a shit school, living in a shit place does not necessarily make someone a shit person

Riven- did you get my CAT?

Exctly Kimi,I saw a tacher knifed at 7; I have never knifed anyone OTOH

Mind my old Primary doesn't even exist any more it was so hooris (they only changed the name mind)

There's allsorts at all schools. In all truth i wouldnt choose the INfants the boys went to but people queue up there- horrible problems in severala reas though

Riven I still loves ya

YABU.

AIBU to hope that my son and your son don't go to school together? It's attitudes like yours that filter down to children who then say things to my son like "my mum says that being autistic is weird and that we shouldn't go to school with dangerous children like you. I do like you but I shouldn't play with you any more because she says so."

You come across as ignorant, insensitive and, quite possibly, insane. If that is not the case, I suggest that you maybe think before posting such DailyMailesque shite.

So it is an attention-seeking / wind up/ how to put the wind up people / having a dull day / might offend some people because I want to kind of thread? Is it?

I wish dp you'd answer my first post. i want to know